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Tempering

Just like steel, people are tempered too.  Made tough in fire or in this case life.  Physical strength, as well as mental strength, comes by way of struggle.  Just like a lot of things, there is no shortcut or easy way to be tempered.  Did I enjoy getting into fist fights when I was in elementary school? No.  Did I appreciate shaking down my couch for change to get bread money?  No.  Did I like riding my bike to work when my car broke down and I couldn’t fix it?  No.  Did I love it when I bagged groceries for tips so my family didn’t live in a dangerous neighborhood?  No.  Would I trade any of that today?  Absolutely not.  Because, truly without those things I wouldn’t have what I have today.  Let’s understand the role struggle plays not only in your life, but your children.  Struggle is important.  It makes us strong and resilient, confident in crisis, determined and driven.      

#strong as hell #steel #confidence #determined #driven #success #struggle

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Karma

Do you ever hear people invoke Karma when they see or hear about someone doing something they don’t agree with?  I happen to believe in Karma myself.  I’m certain that some of these folks that talk about Karma either don’t actually believe in it, or they don’t think Madam Karma can touch them.  These same people will do something awful and wonder out loud why bad things keep happening to them.  “Aren’t you the one always taking about Karma?”  That went over well! Hahahaha     

#karma #good karma #bad karma #self awareness #introspective #take your lumps

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Don’t Get Addicted to Being Mean.

Back some time ago was a British television show called “Keeping up Appearances”.  The main character in the show was Hyacinth. The program revolved around her and her antics at trying to appear more elite than she was.  Her husband’s name was Richard.  He was often the unwilling pawn in Hyacinth’s schemes.  She treated him poorly.  Criticized him publicly and forced him to do things he didn’t want to do and embarrassed him.  She would never ask, but always demand and order.  He would go along to get along most times.  Richard’s friends often wondered, privately, how he was able to keep it together with Hyacinth.  

I’m fairly certain the same thing is wondered about me.  How am I able to keep it together with her.  She’s older than me, she’s beautiful and sexy.  When she was younger she was one of those women who could act however she wanted, and treat people however she wanted, simply because she was so beautiful and driven.  I think she fell into a pattern of criticizing everyone and everything and sometimes treating the ones closest to her like crap because it made her feel in charge.  Her personality is so dynamic and intimidating, most people go along to get along.

One day we were at her daughter’s house visiting.  Keep in mind her daughter is her made over.  She’s young and beautiful and treats her husband like crap most times publicly, only because she can.  On this day she (my girl) said something rude to me that wasn’t called for, and I told her in front of everyone, that what she said was rude and if she wanted me to do something different she could ask nicely. Now we had already discussed privately, well before this particular incident, what I would be doing in response to this kind of behavior.  I had warned her that when she did it, I would make sure it was called to everyone's attention and a light was shown on it.  Her daughter looked at me and said “we don’t have to be nice”, and laughed.  My response was, if your mother wants me around her, she’ll find a way to be nice to me.  She scoffed and moved on. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have my own, equally egregious, failings that I’m dealing with, and that she has also thrown the gauntlet down on.  Fair enough, I’m working on them and pay my penance when it’s due.    

I point this particular thing out because we can see now how much trouble this is going cause her daughter in the future, and the free lesson was lost on her at the time.  She knows her mother and I love each other deeply, and we both accept the fact that I needed her personality and she needed mine for the love and respect to flow, but like a concrete mason, we had to both smooth the rough spots out that have accrued with age.  She also knows it took us a LONG time to find that right person and A LOT of work.  She’ll understand one day.                

#dont be an asshole #be nice #love #relationship #lesson learned #beautiful #attitude adjustment #focus #mean #ugly #don't have to be nice

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Get a Leftist knee deep looking into these brutal acts and you can watch how quickly the standard ideology goes out the window, and begins to turn to a more fundamental understanding of differing thought and position.  It isn’t until the Liberal has to clean brutal off the bottom of their shoe that you end up with a leftie that can’t tow the disconnected line anymore.  

The Unpardonable Sin.

It is fascinating that in the typical discussions of crime over the years the Leftist has always depicted the criminal as a kind of victim; a helpless product of an unjust and  non-nurturing environment. No matter how horrible or sinister the crime (the most brutal acts of  murder, pedophilia) there is some sober sociological explanation for how that individual became the way they are (other than their own poor moral choices). Interestingly, the only people the Leftist is ever willing to attribute moral culpability to (and even outright “evil”) are those who disagree with them ideologically.  For the Leftist ideological dissent is the only unpardonable sin.

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No truer words than this!

Do not sit and wait for life to come to you. Get out there. Breathe in the sun. Touch the sky. Immerse yourself in the things that you love. Feel the warmth that today brings.

Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

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Relationship Equilibrium

When you are in a relationship where you love each other so much you absolutely don’t want to loose the other, but if you did, you’d both be alright.  

#accountability #real love #healthy #in a good way #don't fuck this up #happy

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Change It!

Do you look at yourself today and wonder what happened and how you got to where you are?  If you don’t like where you are, you NEED to change it.  Always remember, if you are good, those who aren’t, gravitate towards you.  They will ride your goodness until they drag you closer to where they are.  The next thing you know, you are living in a camper on someone else’s property plugged into their house.  You used to be, and more importantly ARE better than that.  You need to force accountability on the others in your life that are responsible for being accountable.  Once you have determined them dead weight, cut them loose and move on as well as up, and don’t forget to take your wisdom with you.  

#accountability #dead weight #abuse #responsibility #looser #strength #power #resilience #cut the ties #help yourself

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Spend your time with people who make you happy - not with people you have to impress.

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Absolutely! 

#wisdom #truth #solid

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Office

I got to thinking about that first post this morning.  I don’t think depression was the best subject to lead off with, but it’s done now, so moving on.  

Today’s weather isn’t as nice as yesterday’s was but it’s workable.  I went into the office today, which had become a treat.  I’ve come to not like working at home at all, and actually prefer an empty office over a busy house.  I get much more done this way.

I was watching the news this morning and the story was about the state legislature considering allowing parents to make the decision to hold their children back a year in school, due to being so far behind as a result of remote learning.  You know, it seems to me education folks missed an opportunity to become part of the unsung hero crowd.  They could have bravely gone back into the classrooms and kept kids in school.  They have instead decided to tuck tail and hide behind the union skirt.  Funny how “following the science” doesn’t become a thing when it tells you to get back to work!  Oh well, real bravery has always typically eluded the world of the academic.      

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Back in Action

My first post.  I wonder sometimes if some folks out there are suffering from depression or anxiety and are undiagnosed or untreated.  What am I saying?? I know there are!  Lots of people out there have too many others counting on them to take time to understand what’s going on in their own head.  I’m thinking I’ve been one of those, perhaps I still am.  I feel good today and have been for about a week now.  I feel like I’m coming out of a toxic cloud and just able to breathe fresh air again after 7 long years.  I hope so.  To anyone out there suffering, I get it now.  I didn’t before, but I do now.  Here’s to hoping this is all over and I can go back to being the person I was before all this.  Cheers! 

#depression #anxiety #hope #feel better #sympothise #fresh air