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#my girl #omniscient reader's viewpoint

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colorized orv ballpoint pen sketches to accompany our current readthrough

#omniscient reader's viewpoint #still cant believe I’m barely 30% through

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the story i managed to create with all of you [1/4]

#obsessed with this #omniscient reader's viewpoint

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Shadow army shenanigans (I'm back on my bullshit)

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#looooooool #shadow shenanigans #solo leveling

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We got one last iconic ARISE 🥹🥹🥹 I'll miss you Solo Leveling. Gonna read Ragnarok to fill in the void

#such a good final shot #solo leveling #also! tusk in his coat! #that made me giggle so hard

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Shadow army shenanigans:

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#beru is best boy #solo leveling

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So cute

#beru is best boy #solo leveling

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reminder that digital libraries aren’t owned, also why pirating digital content is a necessity

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@chvvy made such a good one piece + dungeon meshi au I would have exploded if I didn't make content for it.

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if i woke up and i saw i was ryoko kui i would immediately take out my phone and tweet "laios doesn't take his socks off for sex" then turn off my phone

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Say it with me, kids, "I do not deserve this pain. I am in chronic pain due to forces outside of my control. I should not have to earn pain relief. I am good. I do not deserve to be shamed for my pain. It is not my fault."

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Wait, so you said that you can learn to trust others by building friendships, but how does one go about doing that? Wouldn't someone I don't know be creeped out or annoyed if I suddenly walked up and started talking to them?

Friendships are built of repeated low-stakes interactions and returned bids for attention with slowly increasing intimacy over time.

It takes a long time to make friends as an adult. People will probably think you're weird if you just walk up and start talking to them as though you are already their friend (people think it's weird when I do this, I try not to do this) but people won't think it's weird if you're someone they've seen a few times who says "hey" and then gradually has more conversations (consisting of more words) with them.

I cheat at forming adult friendships by joining groups where people meet regularly. If you're part of a radio club that meets once a week and you just join up to talk about radios, eventually those will be your radio friends.

If there's a hiking meetup near you and you go regularly, you will eventually have hiking friends.

Deeper friendships are formed with people from those kinds of groups when you do things with them outside of the context of the original interaction; if you go camping with your radio friend, that person is probably more friend than acquaintance. If you go to the movies with a hiking friend who likes the same horror movies as you do, that is deepening the friendship.

In, like 2011 Large Bastard decided he wanted more friends to do stuff with so he started a local radio meetup. These people started as strangers who shared an interest. Now they are people who give each other rides after surgery and help each other move and have started businesses together and have gone on many radio-based camping trips and have worked on each other's cars.

Finding a meetup or starting a meetup is genuinely the cheat-code for making friends.

This is also how making friendships at schools works - you're around a group of people very regularly and eventually you get to know them better and you start figuring out who you get along with and you start spending more time with those people.

If you want to do this in the most fast and dramatic way possible, join a band.

In 2020 I wrote something of a primer on how to turn low-stakes interactions with neighbors and acquaintances into more meaningful relationships; check the notes of this post over the next couple days, I'll dig up the link and share it in a reblog.

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Gothic Fantasy/Folk Horror Books: 10 Recommendations

Uprooted by Naomi Novik

Spinning Silver by Naomi Novik

Juniper & Thorn by Ava Reid

The Wolf and the Woodsman by Ava Reid

A Far Wilder Magic by Allison Saft

Down Comes the Night by Allison Saft

Not Good For Maidens by Tori Bovalino

The Bear and the Nightingale by Katherine Arden

Nettle & Bone by T. Kingfisher

The Gathering Dark: An Anthology of Folk Horror by Tori Bovalino and others

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I really don't understand people bitching about Batman stuff being "non-canon compliant" like worstie, there are eighty years of canon to go through.

Half the stuff you're complaining about being "out of character" and "too Wayne Family Adventures" was canon in the Silver Age era.

Shut the fuck up and let people vibe.