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Sketches 🕊️ °˖➴

#character art

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• Dress.

Designer/Maker: H. Leitner

Date: ca. 1886

Medium: Machine-woven wool fabric with velvet and lace decoration, steel buckle, machine and hand stitching.

#fashion

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I have an announcement for the Jews In My Phone:

I am no longer feeding you challah, I am now feeding you cremslach

Chag sameach and have a lovely Pesach xoxo

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If I ask nicely who will rb this telling me what is the last song u listened to 🥺

#the kill by the dresden dolls

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Someone good at art, fix her OCs.

What do you when you have a cool new OCs but you're no good at producing art to share? Asking for a friend.

#my art

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So my friend tried trying the OCs and discovered they were accidentally her wife and her wife's best friend. I ship it and think it's fine, but my friend says it's weird. My friend. Whose OCs they are.

What do you when you have a cool new OCs but you're no good at producing art to share? Asking for a friend.

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Honestly some Mondays I find myself wishing that we could have a normal strength ice mummy

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What do you when you have a cool new OCs but you're no good at producing art to share? Asking for a friend.

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Drop whatever you are doing and watch Oriented (2015) on Netflix. Possibly the most un-pinkwashed piece about queer Palestinian youth I have ever seen. 

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You should look at my blog on desktop! You are on it!

Do people still put in work on making their blogs look nice on desktop etc or does everyone just use tumblr on their phones now?

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Tips if you want to start writing

Rat ultrasound

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fair question

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Something that literally changed my life was working with a friend on a coding thing. He was helping me create an auto rig script and was trying to explain something to me but his words were just turning into static in my brain. I was tired and confused and there was so many new concepts happening.

I could feel myself working toward a crying meltdown and was getting preemptively ashamed of what was about to happen when he said, “Hey, are you someone who benefits from breaks?”

It broke me.

Did I benefit from breaks? I didn’t know. I’d never taken them.

When a problem frustrated or upset me I just gritted my teeth and plowed through the emotional distress because eventually if you batter and flail at something long enough you figure it out. So what if you get bruised on the way.

I viscerally remembered in that moment being forced to sit at the table late into the night with my dad screaming at me, trying to understand math. I remembered taking that with me into adulthood and having breakdowns every week trying to understand coding. I could have taken a break? Would it help? I didn’t know! I’d never taken one!

“Yes,” I told him. We paused our call. I ate lunch. I focused on other stuff for half an hour. I came back in a significantly better state of mind, and the thing he’d been trying to explain had been gently cooking in the back of my head and seemed easier to understand.

Now when I find myself gritting my teeth at problems I can hear his gentle voice asking if I benefit from breaks. Yes, dear god, yes why did I never get taught breaks? Why was the only way I knew to keep suffering until something worked?

I was relating to this same friend recently my roadtrip to the redwoods with my wife. “We stopped every hour or so to get out and stretch our legs and switch drivers. It was really nice. When I was a kid we’d just drive twelve hours straight and not stop for anything, just gas. We’d eat in the car and power through.”

He gave a wry smile, immediately connecting the mindset of my parents on a road trip to what they’d instilled in me about brute forcing through discomfort. “Do you benefit from breaks?” he echoed, drawing my attention to it, making me smile with the same sad acknowledgement.

Take breaks. You’re allowed. You don’t have to slam into problems over and over and over, let yourself rest. It will get easier. Take. Breaks.

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To anyone who believes fairy tale romances never happen in real life, may I remind you that JRR and Edith Tolkien met and experienced a forbidden love in their youth, and then were separated for five whole years because of his guardian’s rules that he could not date till he was 21, and she got engaged to someone else only because she assumed he’d forgotten her and lost hope that she could ever be with him, but then on his 21st birthday, he wrote her a letter saying he still loved her and wanted to marry her, she responded basically saying ‘if I’d known you hadn’t left me on the shelf, I would never have said yes to anyone else,’ then a week later she greeted him at the train station and then immediately dumped her fiancé, and they got married and she converted to his religion and danced for him in a flowering field far away from the trenches into which he was drafted, which left such an impression that he crafted an entire story about the most beautiful maiden in the world who danced in the woods and made enormous sacrifices to be with the man she loved, and they had four kids and remained faithful to each other and blissfully grew old together and their gravestones are now marked with the names of that same fictional couple that he created, who broke every rule and overcame every possible obstacle to be together and get a happy ending, who only did all that because he based it all on their own real love story.

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old drawing I found 🐇

#creatures