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just-aro · 4 days
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[image description: image of an Aardvark with grey, yellow and white in the background. Text says “Parents say they just want you to be happy and get married” at the top and “Oxymoron” at the bottom.]
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just-aro · 11 days
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loveless people. You agree. Reblog
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just-aro · 13 days
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You ever talk to alloros and are like. Oh. Our worldviews are fundamentally different. For instance I do not exist in yours.
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just-aro · 13 days
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You say you accept aromanticism but do you only accept it as long as it fits your expectations? Do you only accept it as long as I keep my options open, as long as I don’t 100% settle on this label, as long as I allow you a small amount of hope that one day I’ll tell you I’ve changed, I’ve seen the light, I’ve found the One?
You say you accept aromanticism, but is your acceptance conditional on my redemption through platonic love? Do I have to prove to you that I am likable, that I am lovable, that I am human? Do I have to be touch starved, do I have to be lonely, do I have to feel like I am missing out?
You say you accept aromanticism, but do you believe me when I speak about dehumanization, about my anger at being pitied? Do you put yourself in my shoes and imagine the effort it takes to shape a future that looks like most people's worst fear? Do you understand that my life is not sad for not following your rigid guideline to happiness?
You say you accept aromanticism, but do you accept the changes I demand of society? Do you accept that relationship hierarchies are not inherent but learned? Do you accept that community is more meaningful in fighting the loneliness epidemic than finding the One? Do you notice that society is predisposed to benefit couples over singles? Do you realize that this is wrong?
If you say you accept aromanticism but only do so as long as I am quiet about it, as long as I make no demands, offer no criticism, draw no attention to myself, then I do not care for your acceptance because your acceptance isn't real.
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just-aro · 29 days
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you want to be romantically attracted to someone? the thing that killed romeo and juliet?
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just-aro · 1 month
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honestly my advice for people questioning if they're aro is kind of the same as my advice for people questioning if they're trans which is do less worrying about whether or not you inherently fall into this arbitrary category and do more considering what you want in and from your life. like ultimately deconstructing societal ideals of what relationships (or gender) should be like and figuring out what you want them to look like in your life is what matters and whether or not you experience romantic attraction is kind of immaterial
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just-aro · 1 month
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Hot take but I think relationship anarchy should be more widely know in the aro community (and everywhere but baby steps) and should be at the forefront of our discussions surrounding relationships
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just-aro · 1 month
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I've accidentally dressed perfectly for valentines: black work shirt, black work hat, black mask, dark jeans, black shoes. let the festivities commence.
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just-aro · 1 month
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Happy amatonormativity day, everyone. We'll survive, probably.
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just-aro · 1 month
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If anyone confesses their love to me today I’m sobbing. Pls don’t do this to me, I’m in a committed relationship with singleness.
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just-aro · 2 months
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I hope your 2024 is full of aromanticism <2
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just-aro · 2 months
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my take on shipping aromantic characters is that if you're aro you get to do whatever you want and if you're not you have to write me a three page essay 12 pt font times new roman double spaced explaining in detail why you believe entering a romantic relationship would be an interesting and worthwhile storyline for the character and how you believe their aromanticism would affect the way they experience said relationship
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just-aro · 2 months
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you're headcanoning villains as aromantic because you've equated love with morality. I'm headcanoning villains as aromantic to make them more nuanced and sympathetic, expanding upon the original text of them being tragic characters who were failed by society from a relatively young age. we are not the same
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just-aro · 2 months
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with the note that invisibility isn’t privilege I’d like to remind people how erased aro people are
like I work with several queer people, gay and bi and such. Not one of them knew what aro or queer platonic was before I told them
during pride month you know what flag they don’t have in general stores? Aro
Even at pride itself when I went last year, there were four aro things. That’s it. Do you know how depressing that is to go to the queer place specially and you have to stop at every single stall to scour for a single thing to represent you?
we need to normalize aromantism. We need to stop more than friends and “you laughed at what he said you’re in love!” Or “you spent the night with her just admit you’re gay” attitudes. Romance is not required to be a human and it’s not required for intimacy. It should be just as known and accepted as being gay.
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just-aro · 2 months
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happy aro month! abolish relationship hierarchies stay hydrated and be kind to urself and others. most of all be very very aro 🏄‍♀️🏄‍♀️🏄‍♀️
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just-aro · 2 months
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you're headcanoning villains as aromantic because you've equated love with morality. I'm headcanoning villains as aromantic to make them more nuanced and sympathetic, expanding upon the original text of them being tragic characters who were failed by society from a relatively young age. we are not the same
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just-aro · 2 months
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breaking out of your internalised arophobia is so great because sometimes i just genuinely stop and think "oh wow the way I experience attraction is so beautiful, I like it so much". I'm aroallo and it took me many long years to get to this point but I'm here now. and god it really is beautiful
that's wonderful :)
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