you don't need to be useful to be loved
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Did some doodling late last night while listening to songs of Kyle Stibbs. I don't tend to draw without aim much anymore, as most of the time I'm drawing concept art of my characters or fanart things
(when my hands aren't shaking, and I'm able to actually draw, that is)
It was nice to unplug the brain and see where it went :D
Oddly, my unplugged brain seemed to go in the direction of Epo, my persona,,
There's a fair few things - like the ear positioning and curl pattern - I'm unhappy with, but all-in-all, I'm happy where my art style has gone in recent times!
It had its bizarre transition faze for a long while, and frankly I'm still not out of the woods! But I'm happy where things are going, and, dare I say? I have,, pride? In my current abilities??
Is this the feeling of,, confidence?? For once?!?
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It's so morbidly interesting to me how folks can be so cruel to children. Like, they're so rude and short with them.
They don't get that kids simply don't know the things adults do instinctively. Adults forget they genuinely have an upper hand in life called 'life experience'.
It's as if they completely forgot what being a child was like. That they, too, had to be taught many concepts they now take for granted.
I remember being little, and every time someone actually explained something to me, it'd firmly click and be basically engraved in me ever after.
When my brother told me shouting to get someone's attention was impolite and that's why he ignored me, it just clicked and I never did it again.
But the reason I never did it again wasn't that simple, it was because he gave me an alternative on what to do:
He explained that one should come up to the person, say 'excuse me' followed by whatever you wanted/needed.
That made perfect sense! I was finally told what to do!
As the very worst part of it, was that I was only following by example up to that point.
If one of my parents wanted something of me, they shouted for me.
How was I meant to know that all I knew was rude?
Answer, I wasn't!
Stop expecting kids to be 'better' and more mature than the adults they're around.
Take the time to actually give them a chance to flourish in life and be the best version of them they can be.
After all, if something's sooo 'common sense' and kids're sooooo 'stupid' for not knowing immediately, then explaining it should be easy then, right?
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Them caring about other people does not take away from the care they have for you.
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(I bring a sort of “Everyone has inherent worth regardless of their productivity” Vibe to every conversation that ableists don’t really seem to like)
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What's important to those whose opinions matter should never bring stress
Those who matter will never dislike you based on your grades, your work performance, income, living conditions, your size, hair, illnesses, disabilities, disorders, your energy or drive, no one who matters will hate you for things that are stressful to manage.
Focus on being kind, and maintaining what's a healthy standard for you.
Many will try to tell you what's best, but only the individual can say what that'll be for themselves.
Those who matter won't see these things and deem you lazy, worthless or unworthy of respect. They will be worried instead, because they will have your best interest in mind first and foremost.
How this worry gets voiced and portrayed, however, varies greatly, and it's important to know frustration towards a situation doesn't mean hatred or disgust towards you.
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A small reminder that you are both lovable, and loved, exactly as you are
Not everyone may appreciate you, but that says more about the company you're around than yourself.
You don't need to prove yourself to be deserving of things all living beings need.
You don't have to change in order to be respected and valued as you are.
It's important to work on yourself, to grow and improve, all living things change slightly all the time. Without effort, we all change a little.
It's inevitable to be a little different over time, and it's good to make sure the ways you change are in good ways. But you don't need to wait to be unachievable 'perfection' to be deserving of what you need now
You are worthy as you are.
Important as you are.
Lovable and valued as you are.
And I'm glad I'm able to say I'm here on earth at the same time you are <3
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As much as I hate folks saying happiness is a mindset, there is an ever so slight point inside the phrase
If you don't allow yourself to find things enjoyable, you'll most likely never find anything that brings joy.
If you go into every movie thinking it'll be nothing but cheesy and a time-waster, you'll sour yourself on it before it starts.
Making up one's mind too fast makes it harder to change.
But with that said, some situations suck. Plain and simple.
And there's no amount of convincing that can ever make some things okay to go through.
Sometimes, unhappiness isn't a mindset, but a rational reaction.
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Sometimes, all we do is exist
And sometimes that's okay
Sometimes, it's all we can do
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You are under no obligation to feel grateful that it wasn’t ‘worse’.
If that helps you cope, then that’s valid but please don’t use it as a way to invalidate yourself.
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I cant wait until the moss takes over my body and the vines take place of my eyes :D
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Reasons someone may not have replied that aren’t the bad reasons your brain suggests to you (they’re mad, stopped caring, you aren’t important, etc).
They’re asleep/resting.
They have no service.
They want to take time to form their reply.
They don’t have the energy to reply right now.
They’re working / don’t have access to their phone.
They accidentally opened the notification and meant to reply and got distracted (this doesn’t mean they don’t care either! I do this a lot and I love my loved ones dearly. My brain is just chaotic sometimes.)
They’re in a really bad place.
They’re in a situation where it’s rude to use their phone.
They really just want a break from talking to people.
They are enjoying a movie, game, activity, etc.
Something came up they had to deal with asap.
A lot of the time, to challenge irrational thoughts we need alternative explanations to combat them. Here are some for a situation when a loved one hasn’t replied to you. I encourage you to plan for other situations that come up for you as well.
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"No one remembered my birthday-" Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?
"I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I'm fine-" Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you're doing?
"I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-" Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?
"I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-" Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?
"No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-" Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?
"I miss my friend but they haven't texted me-" Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?
Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn't care!
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I'm such a small blog! I never thought I'd get either section to 300, let alone max!!
LET ALONE THIS!!
This has been the best day ever :D
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Thank-you to everyone who has helped me get my boop-badges!!
I appreciate your patience and friendliness with me :D
Feel free to keep boopin' me for badges or for any other reason ya may wanna boop!! :D
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