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hi femmes i just want to say i love u and you're still femme even:

if u don't dress super girly all the time

or if u have a short haircut

or if u like ur short haircut! (i love u short haired fems.)

or if u don't like wearing revealing clothes

or if u don't like putting on makeup all the time.

or if u don't like putting on makeup EVER!

or if u don't like wearing dresses (i'm very feminine and i myself HATE wearing dresses.)

or if u have a deeper voice.

or if u have more masculine presenting features.

u do not need to be coquette flowy skirt lana del rey core to consider urself a femme i love u i hope this post makes sense and uh oh well if it doesn't this is all i got - asteria.

- ᵗʰᶦˢ ᵖᵒˢᵗ ʷᵃˢ ᵐᵃᵈᵉ ᵇʸ ᵃ ᵐᶦⁿᵒʳ, ᵐᵈⁿᶦ ᵃᶜᶜˢ ᵈⁿᶦᵎ

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Trying to figure something out about myself; please reblog this for a larger sample size.

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notes for my impostor syndrome:

• no, it's not painful to walk for abled-bodied people

• no, healthy people don't usually use every chance they get to lean against walls or sit down

• no, ableds don't dream about shower stool

• no, ableds don't celebrate days when they're not in pain. because usually they're not in pain

• no, ableds don't want to stop walking mid-way, lay down on the ground, curl up and cry and whine from pain

• no, ableds aren't exhausted by their own bodies 24/7

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This ABSOLUTELY works.

I have used this for many years. Definitely b do it.

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brain fog is so stupid. Like what do you mean my body is in such rough shape I have nothing but my thoughts but also I can't think?

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why do i feel like shit all the time -> guy who has chronic feel like shit disorder

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When someone has a chronic illness or is disabled and can't work, they say a few common things.

It must be nice to sit around all day/sleep all day.

I wish I could sit around all day and not work.

I wish I could sleep all the time.

They don't want to sleep as much as we have to. They'd feel sick and sluggish.

They don't want to sit around the house all day not doing anything. They'd be bored out of their fucking skull.

It's so unbelievably fucking frustrating, but there's a fundamental lack of understanding.

They liken our lives to a vacation, imagining that it's fun and relaxing and we can do whatever fun things we want to all the time.

In reality, it should be likened to an extended hospital stay. You can't do anything and you feel like shit.

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it’s okay to do things that make your symptoms worse (as long as you’ll stay safe)

every once in a while you need to eat something yummy. or go on a walk. or a trip to the zoo. take a hot shower. cry your eyes out. dance. listen to music. draw for way to long. write. laugh. sit in a cafe with a friend. paint your nails. dye your hair. go on a run. pet a cat

sometimes you need to do things that are cathartic or make yourself feel alive. sometimes you need the reminder of why you’re fighting so hard to stay alive

this is your reminder that just because it makes your symptoms worse, it isn’t always the wrong thing to do. there can be value in these actions

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𝖠𝗋𝗍 𝖻𝗒 𝖠𝗇𝗇𝖺-𝖫𝖺𝗎𝗋𝖺 𝖲𝗎𝗅𝗅𝗂𝗏𝖺𝗇 | 𝖨𝖦: 𝖺𝗇𝗇𝖺𝗅𝖺𝗎𝗋𝖺_𝖺𝗋𝗍

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Is there a word that’s a mix between angry and sad

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let's clear something up

femme does not mean long hair. butch does not mean short hair.

femme does not mean skirts. butch does not mean trousers.

femme does not mean make-up. butch does not mean no make up.

femme does not mean clean-shaven. butch does not mean unshaven.

femme does not mean thin. butch does not mean fat/muscular.

femme does not mean pretty. butch does not mean ugly.

get cishet people's idea of gender presentation out of your head

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just a friendly reminder that butchfemme courtship/chivalry is not a 1960s play-pretend of patriarchy n if you feel like it is, maybe it’s just not for you :)

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I don't have any real social media so I get news super late so I like just found out about this, but are Shayne and Courtney from smosh, like, legit married? am I being goncharoved again? help?

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to have butches find comfort and safety within me is one of my greatest honors. i want YOU to feel safe. i want YOU to feel comfortable. find the satisfactory in your masculinity, in your role, in your likeness overall. you are safe and loved

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I do feel personally offended when people talk about characters who haunt the narrative and don’t mention Beatrice Baudelaire. Have we forgotten our HERstory