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It’s self care o'clock
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a while back i read a post along the lines of “if you feel like everyone hates you, it’s time to rest… if you feel like you hate everyone else, it’s time to eat” and honest to god i’ve never used any piece of advice more than i have that one
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Things You May Need to Hear
"it'll be okay" and "you can do it" are phrases that sometimes fall flat. here's some things you may need to hear:
you're good enough
sometimes it's okay to not try so hard
it's okay to not always be strong
you don't have to be anything for anybody
don't be so hard on yourself
you're worth it
it doesn't make you weak to ask for help
let yourself cry
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It’s one of my favourite mindsets. Sometimes it doesn’t even need to be done, we only think it needs to due to tradition, others doing it. Sometimes it’s just stupid unanimate objects and patterns having control over us — thinking creatures
Do it alone. Do it broke. Do it tired. Just do it. It doesn´t need to be good. It just needs to be done.
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small stress relievers for when life feels messy
swiffer your bedroom floor or vacuum your bedroom rug
wipe down your desk with a cloth or clorox wipe
clean off your computer screen
clear out your emails
do a load of your laundry
wash your bedding
maybe delete photos or apps on your phone that you don’t need
go through a drawer and get rid of things you don’t need
fold some clothes
organize your stationery or desk
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things I wish I could tell my 19 year old self (5 years later)
college/your 20′s is not where you will peak
your life does not end after college/your 20′s, in fact, it gets way better after college! 
you will achieve/do things you never even thought possible
it’s great to be alone sometimes and do your own thing
go after that opportunity!!! do it!!! 
you can be a leader
you have so much time in life to do all the things you want 
you’re gonna be okay, nay you’re gonna be great!! 
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Credits: Olga on we heart it
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i want to be good. and do good. and be nice to people. and make people happy. and have good and healthy relationships with people. i want to learn to forgive and i want to understand other people. i want to be loved and adored and i want to love and adore
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remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.
“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”
“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”
rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.
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Girl friends are the secret weapon in hypergamy.
If you are unfamiliar with this secret, then you need to take a seat and memorize this post, because this might be one of the most important pieces of information I share!
For my ladies aiming for hypergamy, sugaring arrangements won’t work for you. If your goal is hypergamy, you need a whole different approach!
As a hypergamous woman, you probably spend a great deal of time freestyling (in wealthy areas), attending events where affluent people will be present, or online dating/dating apps. You’ve probably noticed that due to the pandemic, going out and meeting people won’t work as easily as it did before, and dating apps typically attract thirsty men rather than generous, affluent ones looking for a wife. So what’s a girl to do?
Make. Girl. Friends.
When you befriend other women, you give yourself access to their circle of people. This access can lead you to meet more people, or better yet, meet wealthy men. Hypergamy is a game of CONNECTIONS. The more connections you make, the better your chances of success are.
However, don’t just make girl friends with random girls. Try to befriend girls that you can build CONNECTS from! Be strategic with your friendships.
Ideas for types of girls to befriend:
- those active in philanthropic causes/charities
- those into fitness (takes yoga classes, Pilates, at the gym)
- girls into luxury/high fashion (shopping in upscale areas)
Girl friends offer you the following:
🌼 Camouflage: If you meet a man through a mutual girl friend, your true intentions are automatically camouflaged. He won’t think you’re seeking a hypergamous relationship because in his mind, you weren’t seeking for a wealthy man. The meeting just happened by “chance”. This works WONDERFULLY in your favor. Always be inconspicuous about your intentions.
🌼 Exposure: Most girls are active on a social media platform, which means there’s a good chance they will post on it whenever they’re doing something fun/hanging out with friends. This allows her followers to see you = exposure for you = better chance of being noticed by affluent men.
🌼 Social Climbing: Make a girl friend to meet another girl friend! Keep expanding your circle, but be selective with those who can access you. Aim for girls in higher circles, and befriend them to join the circles. Doing this will help you refine yourself in high society, while climbing the social ladder!
Girls are not your enemy, ladies. If you play your cards right, girls may be your key to hypergamous success.
💖 Follow me on Instagram @mademoisellehypergamy
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hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak
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learning to love yourself through loving others
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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)
An Article from Neena Susan Thomas
“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”
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