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Hello again Nick,

Thank you for the explanation despite my clunky(and at times nonsensical) wording. That makes a lot of sense, and I guess that's why for quite a few people their sexuality can seem to shift whenever they transition/realise they're not cis, it's good to know I'm not alone in this and despite it being a little confusing it's a sort of normal experience lol.

Thanks for answering people's questions with patience and not reacting badly whenever they don't have all the right terminology, I try to use the proper wording but sometimes my brain just dies lol. It means a lot to know you're not alone :-)

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Hey again Mouse,

I'm glad it helped, really. Don't worry about not having the right terms, that what learning is about. No one expects you to know the things you don't know.

Yeah, confusion is definitely normal and everyone will have a unique experience. Keep your chin up and remember to give yourself patience too. There's definitely a learning curve.

You are definitely not alone in this, and I'm glad that's a comfort.

Happy Pride Month!

#nick speaks #mouse anon #anon asks

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It’s June 1st in my timezone, and I’m not sure if it is for you, but either way (early?) happy pride month!! Thank you for being such a safe and supportive blog, you’re awesome! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Happy pride month Anon!!!! Stay safe, be amazing, and MWAH!!!

#lgbtq n a #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtq+ #anon asks

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Happy almost-pride to everyone, just a reminder that the rainbow flag is for all people under the queer umbrella. Individual labels are important but pride is a political movement of solidarity between queer people, and we all fall under the same flag

So like fuck exclusionists, fuck terfs, and remember why we're here

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Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances.

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posting not to preach but to remember that I need to remember this. sending healing vibes 💜🤍🖤💗💙💚❤🧡💛🤎💘

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My dear lgbt+ kids,

You have probably read the word neurodiversity before. Do you know what it means?

If you said something like “it’s another word for autism”, I won’t judge you. That’s a common misunderstanding! It’s easy to get confused. You are not entirely off - you are thinking about the word neurodivergent. That’s a umbrella term for people with brain-based disabilities. Autistic people fall under that umbrella, and so do people with ADHD, people with intellectual disabilities, people with Down syndrome, people with traumatic brain injuries… and many more! In simple words, neurodivergent people have brains that work “differently”.

Neurodiversity is the idea that people matter and have rights, regardless of how their brains work. Neurodivergent people are people who need to be understood, they are not problems that need to be fixed. This quote illustrates it nicely: “One way to understand neurodiversity is to think in terms of human operating systems—just because a PC is not running Windows doesn't mean it's broken.” (Steve Silberman).

The neurodiversity movement is part of the wider disability rights movement. It’s definitely not about denying disability (another common misunderstanding!).

Some people say “Neurodiversity is only for people with mild symptoms who are not really disabled. People who are really disabled have severe symptoms and they need to be fixed!”. None of that is true.

First of all: that language (mild vs. severe) can be problematic as it’s often based on how inconvenient the persons symptoms are to others. It rates disabled people by their “easy to handle”ness. That’s dehumanizing - and it goes against everything neurodiversity stands for.

As we said above: neurodivergent describes people with brain-based disabilities. All neurodivergent people are “really disabled”. Some have low support needs, some have high support needs, many have spiky profiles, meaning they need a lot of support in some areas and low support in other areas - and none of them are broken. None of them need to be fixed. All of them deserve support because they are human beings.

Neurodiversity advocates want every neurodivergent person to have all their unique support needs met… just without the unrealistic and dehumanizing goal of turning them into a not-neurodivergent (“neurotypical”) person.

With all my love,

Your Tumblr Dad

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reminder to aromantic allosexual people that your sexual attraction is a beautiful thing. never let anyone shame you for it 💚

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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

You have probably seen some “In 10 years, you will…” positive posts online. 

They describe some happy future scenario: a loving relationship or even marriage, an adorable baby, your own apartment decorated just the way you like, a fulfilling job that pays your bills, a sweet group of friends, your body after surgery… 

Those posts can be very comforting and make you feel more hopeful - and yet, some specific scenarios might feel uncomfortable, confusing or even painful for you. 

This can happen because they describe something you want but know you can’t have. For example: if you can’t have surgery because you’re at a high risk for complications and come across a post describing in detail how happy surgery would make you, it may make you very sad. 

But sometimes it’s not that obvious. Maybe they even describe something you really, really want… and leave you with a vague feeling of sadness anyway. 

That’s not as strange as it sounds: imagining the future can be difficult. It can stir up so many questions and worries, even if it’s a happy scenario. What if it doesn’t come true? What if it comes true and doesn’t make you happy? This is especially hard if you feel really down right now. To a sad person, 10 years can just feel overwhelmingly long and it may feel impossible to think that far ahead. Maybe you just want to make it through this day and can’t think any further than that right now. 

If any of this sounds like you, please let me remind you of two things. Number One is: the details of these posts are never universal. Many, many people will never have a baby or their dream job or surgery or the perfect apartment… and guess what? There will be other things and people and situations that make their heart sing. They will still have so many happy moments. And so will you. There will be sunshine in your life, even if that specific scenario never happens to you. 

Number Two: Tomorrow’s sunshine may be fun to fantasize about but you can’t feel it on your skin today. Sometimes you have to find an umbrella for today’s rain - and that’s enough. Just being able to say “I want to make it through the day”, there’s already so much beauty in that. You are alive today and that’s a happy thing in itself. Yes, there will be happiness in 10 years but look at you being a fighter today! Don’t you deserve to celebrate that as well?

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

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HAPPY TRANS DAY OF VISIBILITY

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Happy trans day of visibility. It’s been over 2 years since I finished my transition and I’m glad to continue to live life as myself, even if I don’t have the language for what I am. And I’m proud to stand as a trans Muslim and show the world that we exist.

They/Them

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Middle/Old english inspired gender neutral pronouns: hier/heom/heora

(Adapted from the plural hīe/him/heora & heom or hem)

Ex: hier are friendly, I'm friends with heom, heora cat is cuddly, this cat is heoras

(I'm testing these ones out now w/ the rest of my collection pls and thank)

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part of what annoys me about "all men are trash - but like not trans men you guys are special!!" is the idea that trans men wouldn't feel solidarity with our fellow men. that we would want to be divided from them, as if we don't see them as our friends, brothers, fathers, partners, comrades etc. as if we wouldn't want all of our fellow men to be freed from gender roles and cissexism.

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Everyone take note, the use of "radical meaning to the root" is classic radfem and terf rethoric. A stunning example of what to avoid! See how the argument on the surface looks like something that could be believeable? But once you stop and think about it, the argument is trying to claim for something special while not actually doing anything special at all.

It's a cover for hate. Simple as that.

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There's another one to block kiddos! They are coming out in droves today!