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Before I say anything, this is literally just me having to scream into a void because it's really not fair and I have my mind set on things regarding the situation already but still.

So I'm fifteen and have a devestating crush on a nineteen year old, which while technically legal in our country just doesn't feel morally right to me. Thing is, he's exactly my type, flaws and all, and I know damn well no other girl wants him.

I've practically come to terms with the fact that nothing can happen here, but all of my friends that I confided in keep pushing into my face that it could work and have been absolute menaces. One of them even has it in her mind that she could totally matchmake us. I've tried to get them to stop due to how embarrassing they are being but they won't budge. For Heavens' sake, they take pictures of him while he's not looking, that makes me uncomfortable!

Thankfully, he leaves my life (hopefully for good) in a matter of five months but it still hurts so bad and throughout it all I just keep being so mad at timing because I get a genuine feeling that if we met later in our lives it could work and I wish so desperately that my friends would be mature enough to try and help me get over him. Unfortunately, fifteen year old girls are fifteen year old girls.

What I'm mostly on the fence about is whether or not I should send him a text explaining things, finishing this on my own terms, since so much of this situation is out of my hands. Again, the purpose would literally be just to get it off my chest and get rejected as clearly as possible so I can continue living and my friends can hopefully stop. Maybe tell him to block my friend on Snap for my own sanity too but that's a side thing.

I just want to cut him out of my life as painlessly as possible and I know ignoring him just won't work due to my friends. Thoughts and prayers?

The thing is that everything feels like the end of the world when you're young. It's not. Your life will go on and you'll move past it. Since you said you want to cut him out of your life as painlessly as possible, I wouldn't say confronting him and getting rejected is exactly as painless as possible. However, you also said you've come to terms with the fact that it won't be under those conditions, and while it could work out I would not encourage you to go for it in the first place, you're both at completely different stages in your life. You can have crushes on people without actually wanting to be with them, and since you're content with the situation I'd suggest you just let it be, there's no need to make a fool out of yourself because of something you already know just to prove a point to your friends. If they don't respect your boundaries, they're not the right kind of people to surround yourself with.

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hi im in love(?) with a boy i met over the internet, i'd known him for about two years but i only started having these feelings, i learned so much about him, we actually live only a 15 minute drive from eachother. thing is, he doesnt even LIKE me,,, he's turning 18 this year and im... not turning 18. it'd be weird, i guess. but hes one of my closest friends, even if im not his, i don't know how to continue this friendship without feeling heartbroken each step of the way. i tried to ignore him but i just cant, im so weak to him. telling him would be humiliating, i already know the answer.. its all just so confusing, one time someone asked if we were dating and he said "not yet!" LIKE WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO W THAT anywho, im just flustered and don't know how i can keep being friends with him or how to lose feelings :(

If you think he doesn't like you in that way, the only way to find out is to ask, unfortunately. Other than that, the best thing you can do here is listen to your body and heart. If you feel like you can't have a friendship with him because your feelings won't go away, then distance might be the better option. However, you also said you can't go on ignoring him, so maybe the friendship is more important in your heart than you think. In the end it's up to you to decide whether you're okay with just being friends or if you're better off as strangers. My advice: don't throw away a good friendship unless it continuously makes you feel miserable.

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It's cruel, isn't it? That the world keeps spinning the same for everybody else While yours is shattering into pieces

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I like a guy. We'd been going out kinda often for three months and messaging each other almost every day. Last week I really thought we needed to talk about, well, our situation. Because I found myself catching feelings and I couldn't keep going like that. So I told him if he was looking for something serious with me. He said he wasn't ready. The thing is, he had a three year relationship that ended last year because his previous partner cheated on him. He hasn't healed completely. I told him that it was totally fine but I had to distance myself from him. You see, I thought he liked me but now I'm not so sure. I don't know, he gave me mixed signals. I'm sad because, in my mind, he was perfect for me. But if he isn't sure about me then I have to go. It is what is best for me, but it still sucks. We could be great together. My friends all think he'll come back, because we had a great connection. I don't know what to do if he does.

Maybe if you think you could work, he will be worth the wait.

If you however decide to move on then that's your call, it's you who knows what's best for you in the end.

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I think I’m in love with my friend M. I’m currently studying abroad in Japan for a semester. She’s been studying here since last semester and we both go back to the USA in mid August. I didn’t start out liking her. Just as a friend. We really clicked. She was the first person to bring me to karaoke and to some places around the area. I didn’t realize I liked her until around my birthday, a month into our friendship.

I grew up in a homophobic household so I always invalidated my feelings when I thought a girl was pretty. It took my best friend S coming out as bi for me to finally begin to feel comfortable with the reality of being bi as well. But I never really LIKED liked another girl until M. She’s so smart, and confident, and beautiful, and her voice is amazing, and she’s such a geek. She’s openly a lesbian. She grew up with a family who supports her and loves her. She’s lucky.

She’s introverted, so it’s hard to get her to hangout a lot. I love our karaoke nights and movie nights. Sometimes when we watch movies, we’ll get close. I’ll cuddle up with her, and just look up at her when she makes her comments on the movie. And sometimes when I do that she’ll look at me and I’ll think that I see something there… but then after that she leaves and won’t talk to me for days or acknowledge my existence. She’s very robot like in classes or in public most of the time.

I know she doesn’t like me as anything more than a friend. She’s even said it. As part of a joke, but still, she said it. She’s extremely honest even with jokes. It’s also extremely obvious that I like her. Even if I never tell her, and I never will, she definitely knows. Even if she did like me. We’re leaving Japan in less than a month and going back to separate states. I love her and I hate her. I hate her so much. I hate how happy she makes me. I hate how sad and angry she makes me. I hate how much I care about her. I hate how much she will never care about me. I hate that I have such little time left to even just be her friend. Based on past experience, I have little faith that our friendship will last very long after we leave Japan. I’m heartbroken for what I can never have.

I get that all of this can be really frustrating, but if you do end up not telling her about your feelings that's absolutely your call, however if you're scared of having not much time left, try making the most of it instead of worrying about it all day, enjoy it as long as you can. Maybe you will stay in touch afterwards, who knows? Your bond might be stronger than you give it credit for. Otherwise, as harsh as it sounds, life will go on, you will meet other new people and you will feel like this again.

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You can't just go trying to fix everyone around you while you're lying on the floor bleeding to death yourself.

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I have a crush on this guy I never spoke to. It started when we both were standing somewhat close and I could feel this nervous energy coming off from him but I just shook it off. Later on I would catch him looking at me sometimes.I was not that interested in him but I was starting to get curious on whether he’s interested in me. His mother later passed away and I found myself really worried about him and disappointed when I don’t see him in class. As we were never really close or even exchanged a word I felt shy about sending my condolences on such a personal matter. I later saw him on an event that I was participating in, he was walking to my booth with a smile on his face and we made eye contact for a few seconds but then at last minute he skipped my booth and went to the booth next to mine, I was like okay (?). But I noticed that he didn’t check any other booths and the whole time after, he was standing with his friends in the area in front of my booth. I realized that I developed a whole crush on him but we were done with our classes so I decided to text him a question about a session I missed, just as an opening to a conversation perhaps. In general, he took a long time to reply even days, and when I finally texted him the question itself a day before our exam he didn’t reply and the exam is now over so I’m afraid that’s it and he’ll never rly reply. I’m quite confused cause he seems like a very outgoing person who’s down to helping anyone, but he never talked to me, he would just look and in fact whenever I’m around I feel he’s usually quieter. I don’t really know how to explain it, even though it’s such simple signals my instincts tells me he’s interested. I’m also afraid that maybe I came off as insensitive cause I never mentioned how sorry I feel for him for his loss.

I don't think he's holding you not sending him any condolences against you, as you mentioned yourself you weren't even speaking at that time, plus you said he was smiling at you later. However, I can't tell you what his behaviour is all about as I don't know him, there could be a chance he's just being shy around you because he's got a crush on you as well, maybe wasn't exactly sure how to reply to your message, despite it being a simple question I assume. There may be a million different reasons for that and the only way to ever find out is to ask, unfortunately.

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You were just you and I was just me But, against all odds, that was all we'd ever need

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And when I love, then unconditionally

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I was talking to someone. We only talked for a week, but I really liked that person. We stopped talking because of a misunderstanding, and as someone who likes to sabotage her relationships I didn’t find a solution to it, I just told them “To avoid more misunderstandings, I think It’s the best for both of us to stop speaking to each other” and they replied “if that’s what they wanted, they got it. What amazing friends you have.” So a week pass and I talked to them again about how other people were meddling in the problem and how I didn’t like it. that person was really hostile and cold when addressing the issue and before I told them about not wanting their friends to be in the middle of the problem I asked them (that person) “did you really want to be my friend?”…. and that person didn’t answered. So I feel like I was being played all this time bc their attitude towards me is like when you don’t give a fck about the existence of someone else, and the worst thing is, I still like them. I feel stupid.

First of all, you're not stupid. Sometimes our feelings don't make sense but we cannot control how we feel. I wouldn't necessarily take them not replying as a sign they don't care, maybe they're just hurt. Maybe try explaining how you feel and why you did what you did and see where it goes from there. And if they still don't reply, there's your definite answer and you can move on. We tend to mostly regret the chances we didn't take and dwell on the what ifs, so you might as well take this one if it means something to you.

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Sometimes I question where I belong But as long as you feel like home I know where to run

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Ask me anything

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What is something you want to do?

That's a vague question. However, there's not one specific big thing I want to do, or one big goal I want to reach. I just want to make memories, do things younger me would have loved to do but was too scared, live, heal.

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In a way I'm still hoping I'm your hardest goodbye

Not even your favourite hello, just your hardest goodbye

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I am still in love with my ex and he broke up with me and 2 days after he broke up with me he went to my ex best friend which is also his ex but when we dated he told me that the whole time him and my ex best friend were dating that he liked me the whole time. when we were dating he also "accidentatly" called her baby. I just cant get over him any advice?

Unfortunately, we do not have control over our heart. Just know that he is not worth the pain he caused you. The key to moving on will, unfortunately, always be time. Try not to look back, distract yourself with things that make you happy, find better people to surround you with. I cannot emphasise enough that he is not worth it.

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If you were a song, you wouldn't be the most popular one or everyone's favourite. You wouldn't be the opener of an album that everyone sees first. You would be the bonus track that only so few people know to appreciate.

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Most of the things I wish for are not materialistic Like the one where I wish for you to stay

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