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Thoughts of a Stepford wife

Respecting her Dominant Husband

A Stepford wife Must Elevate her Husband.

With Valentine's Day approaching, there is much on my mind this week about Honor and Respect. i would like to speak to a Stepford wife Honoring and Respecting her Dominant Husband. Elevating her Husband before others and especially to boasting about her Husband before Him. A Stepford wife's Honor and Respect for her Husband is imperative for a Stepford marriage to work.

A Stepford wife enjoys hearing kind words and kind words about her to others, and her Husband is no different.

He needs to know that His wife believes in Him. A Stepford wife believes in her Husband, right? Trust = Obedience! she is required to show Him. This whole idea is only common sense, correct? However, to quote an adage, "common senses is NOT very common."

A Stepford wife may know she needs to show her Honor and Respect for her Husband. However, does she put it into practice? Many Stepford wives do not practice what she knows is right. A Stepford wife wants her Husband to feel good about Himself, and a Stepford wife wants her Husband to smile upon her as she does Him.

Try the Stepford smile test. A Stepford wife goes throughout her day and smiles at people, anyone, even strangers, and watches what happens. They smile back. If she appears pleasant to them, they will return her pleasantry. The same holds with her Husband. When she shows Him kindness, He will repay her kindness. Words can make or break a marriage at any time, and a Stepford wife is responsible for her comments.

It is never too late to start. A Stepford wife Honoring and Respecting her Husband in front of others and before Him. A Stepford wife must speak about her Husband or to her Husband with Honor and Respect. Mutual Respect, does He not deserve Respect as much as she does? A Stepford wife must start paying attention to her "yes, Sirs," "no, Sirs," "please Sirs," and "thank you, Sirs." she may just get a "good girl" out of Him if she is deserving.

Then a Stepford wife goes about her day, always telling others what a wonderful Husband He is to her, not bragging but using kind words describing what He has done or said to her. What good does her Husband do or say to her? Then in front of others, she elevates Him; she speaks highly of her Husband or about Him. He will feel His Stepford wife is proud of Him. He will smile deep down and just for His Stepford wife. A Stepford wife's Honor and Respect builds up His Dominance; however, this also solidifies her Stepford marriage.

The Husband's confidence depends on His Stepford wife. her words represent her Stepford relationship with her Husband. she can develop many more behaviors to help her Stepford marriage and become a more charming Stepford wife for Him.

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Sub or Dom.. it matters not which.. Both need to feel Needed. And just as importantly both need to feel Desired.  Do your utmost to give your partner everything they need.

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What is Domestic Discipline?

I know it can be hard to understand at times and this entry is an attempt to clarify things a bit. Domestic Discipline is:

Using reasonable punishments with loving intentions behind them as means to correct unwanted, dangerous, or detrimental behaviors.

Being patient, understanding, and forgiving.

Respecting one another at all times, in all situations.

Putting complete trust in your spouse.

Spanking on the buttocks and/or sit spot with self-control and appropriate loving intentions behind it.

Using reasonable, rational, and sensible punishments with self-control and appropriate loving intentions behind them.

Being fair and unbiased.

Confessing your mistakes to your spouse with remorse, respect, and contrition.

Taking responsibility for your actions.

Supporting your spouse in all situations and in all aspects of the marriage.

Communicating, communicating, and communicating some more.

Apologizing for mistakes made or poor judgment used with sincerity and humbleness. 

Displaying leadership. 

Setting a good example. 

Showing admiration and affection towards your spouse. 

Using encouragement and reinforcement to build your spouses self-esteem and improve their overall behavior.

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The more a Dominant Husband acts Dominant and leads, the more His submissive wife will act submissive and follow.

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Probably the strongest touch ever, it can immediately erase all the bad stuff, calm her mind, suck the negativity out of her, make her enter that place.

Her place.

The place every single submissive needs to be.

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Reblog if your profile pic is actually YOU .

Fact

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If you only follow your rules when you feel like it, then you don't understand the concept of submission or power exchange and perhaps you need to research whether d/s is for you.

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PUNISHMENTS SHOULD NEVER BE SOMETHING THAT PUTS YOUR LIFE, HEALTH, OR WELLBEING AT RISK.

IF YOUR DOM/DOMME IS USING THINGS LIKE LOCKING YOU OUTSIDE IN FREEZING COLD TEMPERATURES, SLEEP DEPRIVATION, FOOD RESTRICTION, ETC. AS "PUNISHMENTS"...GET OUT.

YOUR PUNISHMENTS SHOULD NEVER BE SOMETHING YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH.

IF YOUR DOM/DOMME IS USING "PUNISHMENTS" AS A WAY TO FORCE YOU INTO DOING THINGS YOU DON'T WANT TO DO...GET OUT

PUNISHMENTS SHOULD NEVER LEAVE YOU FEELING HURT OR CONFUSED.

IF YOUR DOM/DOMME IS USING TACTICS LIKE YELLING, IGNORING YOU, WITHHOLDING ATTENTION/AFFECTION, BELITTLING YOU, MAKING YOU "EARN" BASIC HUMAN KINDNESS, NOT EXPLAINING WHAT YOU DID AND WHY YOU ARE EVEN BEING PUNISHED IN THE FIRST PLACE, ETC....GET OUT

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Twenty Years of Kink

I don’t remember the day or even the month, but I remember the feeling vividly. I was wandering aimlessly, searching everything and nothing, then all of a sudden there it was. I couldn’t believe my eyes. The things they were saying were things I’d thought, things I wanted, things I was too embarrassed to admit to anyone. And here they were - men and women - talking about those feelings I had, one darker than the next, and giving it - all of it - a name.

D/s.

Dominance and submission.

I started reading and couldn’t stop. I flitted from room to room, watching the conversations roll by, the experiences people shared with me and other anonymous faces behind a screen. They were open and honest and raw. I don’t know how much time passed before I took an effective breath, but with it came the realization that I was not alone. I was not a freak. What I wanted - no, what I needed - was something other people wanted and needed, as well.

That was 20 years ago. Now I look back and cringe quite often, but I wouldn’t trade those years for anything. I have a lot of ‘If I knew then what I know now…’ moments, but I wouldn’t go back and do it again, because you have to go through it to learn it. You just do. Because your track is different than the next person’s, and to learn what you need to learn takes living it yourself.

So what does twenty years teach you? Here are some things I’ve learned:

Not everyone likes the spotlight; it’s ok to live D/s very privately

It’s ok to make things like rope bondage and tickling hard limits; it’s ok to make anything a hard limit

Dominants can use a safeword or otherwise stop an activity

You can be the one to walk away; you don’t have to be ‘released’ from shit

Liars and cheaters will always lie and cheat

Moving quickly rarely leads to longevity

Your gut is never wrong; listen to it

It’s ok to not look like a fetish model; most people don’t

Sex can feel good even without orgasming

Squirting orgasms are a bit of a parlour trick; and they don’t always feel as good as other types of orgasms

You deserve as much pleasure as he does

If the effort isn’t there in the beginning it never will be

You can kneel in slip-on Converse just as well as you can in heels

You can be a kick-ass submissive and not own a single piece of lingerie

You can defer to someone and respect them as a leader even while watching Netflix and eating steak nachos with your fingers

Dominants can get sick and be huge babies and still be worthy of obedience and respect

Not every Dominant is an executive with an expense account

Submissives can make more money than their partner

You don’t have to say ‘Daddy’ to feel it in your bones

You can love someone and not be a match

Toxicity isn’t gender specific

Wanting to be wanted can lead to seriously poor decision-making

It’s ok to demand more for yourself; having standards solidifies self-worth

Strength is a process

Self-esteem requires active management

Submission doesn’t cease to exist when you’re single

Submission doesn’t end when you hit 30 or 50 or 70

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do

You can change your mind

You can use your voice

You have to use your voice

Every time I start to think how things have changed over the years I have to stop and remind myself: Nothing has changed but you. Sometimes I think about that 27 year old, that 34 year old, hell - even that 40 year old, and I cringe. The mistakes she made. The positions (literally and figuratively) she put herself in. How much mental and emotional energy she expended on him. How much she didn’t know. 

How much more she still has to learn.

But I’ll tell you what: If the next twenty bring as much joy as the last twenty, I’m in for a helluva ride. And I want all of it - every bump and swoop and whirl. The twists and turns are what make you who you are. 

And I’ve learned to like that girl.

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Twenty Years of Kink

I don’t remember the day or even the month, but I remember the feeling vividly. I was wandering aimlessly, searching everything and nothing, then all of a sudden there it was. I couldn’t believe my eyes. The things they were saying were things I’d thought, things I wanted, things I was too embarrassed to admit to anyone. And here they were - men and women - talking about those feelings I had, one darker than the next, and giving it - all of it - a name.

D/s.

Dominance and submission.

I started reading and couldn’t stop. I flitted from room to room, watching the conversations roll by, the experiences people shared with me and other anonymous faces behind a screen. They were open and honest and raw. I don’t know how much time passed before I took an effective breath, but with it came the realization that I was not alone. I was not a freak. What I wanted - no, what I needed - was something other people wanted and needed, as well.

That was 20 years ago. Now I look back and cringe quite often, but I wouldn’t trade those years for anything. I have a lot of ‘If I knew then what I know now…’ moments, but I wouldn’t go back and do it again, because you have to go through it to learn it. You just do. Because your track is different than the next person’s, and to learn what you need to learn takes living it yourself.

So what does twenty years teach you? Here are some things I’ve learned:

Not everyone likes the spotlight; it’s ok to live D/s very privately

It’s ok to make things like rope bondage and tickling hard limits; it’s ok to make anything a hard limit

Dominants can use a safeword or otherwise stop an activity

You can be the one to walk away; you don’t have to be ‘released’ from shit

Liars and cheaters will always lie and cheat

Moving quickly rarely leads to longevity

Your gut is never wrong; listen to it

It’s ok to not look like a fetish model; most people don’t

Sex can feel good even without orgasming

Squirting orgasms are a bit of a parlour trick; and they don’t always feel as good as other types of orgasms

You deserve as much pleasure as he does

If the effort isn’t there in the beginning it never will be

You can kneel in slip-on Converse just as well as you can in heels

You can be a kick-ass submissive and not own a single piece of lingerie

You can defer to someone and respect them as a leader even while watching Netflix and eating steak nachos with your fingers

Dominants can get sick and be huge babies and still be worthy of obedience and respect

Not every Dominant is an executive with an expense account

Submissives can make more money than their partner

You don’t have to say ‘Daddy’ to feel it in your bones

You can love someone and not be a match

Toxicity isn’t gender specific

Wanting to be wanted can lead to seriously poor decision-making

It’s ok to demand more for yourself; having standards solidifies self-worth

Strength is a process

Self-esteem requires active management

Submission doesn’t cease to exist when you’re single

Submission doesn’t end when you hit 30 or 50 or 70

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do

You can change your mind

You can use your voice

You have to use your voice

Every time I start to think how things have changed over the years I have to stop and remind myself: Nothing has changed but you. Sometimes I think about that 27 year old, that 34 year old, hell - even that 40 year old, and I cringe. The mistakes she made. The positions (literally and figuratively) she put herself in. How much mental and emotional energy she expended on him. How much she didn’t know. 

How much more she still has to learn.

But I’ll tell you what: If the next twenty bring as much joy as the last twenty, I’m in for a helluva ride. And I want all of it - every bump and swoop and whirl. The twists and turns are what make you who you are. 

And I’ve learned to like that girl.

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@his-4-life xx

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What are your slave rules?

“Do as you are told”

Sorry for such a basic, boring answer, lol, but that’s literally it.

My entire life as a “slave” falls into that category.

Nothing fancy, no high protocol, no contract or list of rules.

Obey Him in all matters, at all times. It’s as simple as that.

Thank you for your question 🙂