You don’t get to choose your parents.
But when you get to be a certain age, you get to choose the nature of your relationship.
You don’t have to settle for ongoing abuse just bc “you only get one mom/dad”. And I hope you don’t.
Cut off anyone and everyone who disturbs your peace.
You don’t deserve that treatment.
I lost my mom today.
She still alive. Just racist.
and black women bear the burden of carrying most of this activism but get virtually NO recognition or advocating for us when we’re also harmed by the same system
idk how to say this without sounding ungrateful that people are speaking up about the treatment of the black community….
….but like so many people wanted to act like us black people who spoke up and advocated for YEARS were CRAZY for tryna tell y’all about this treatment. we were called “sjw’s” and conspiracy theorists, damn people treated us like we were just making up and picking fights.
now you got a TV network or two showing an 8 minute black screen, a few black posts on Instagram and suddenly everyone’s always been on board.
i just wanna see who’s on board in a few weeks ago when protesting isn’t a trendy social media post and a lot of the “clout activists” go back to not caring about this problem.
white people are racist by default (in the united states as well as other countries). are you white? congrats, you’re racist, and here’s the explanation:
you grew up in a racist society -> you were socialized to be racist thanks to racism being a dominant ideology -> you benefit from racism -> you’re racist no matter how much u think you’re not.
unlearning it is going to be a constant battle and u will never unlearn it fully. accept this. it is ingrained in you as a result of your upbringing and the media you’ve consumed. the sooner you come to terms with your own racism, the sooner u can better yourself. recognize the problem in yourself instead of setting yourself apart from those “other” white people.
I fux heavy with the White people who keep putting this post on my dash
This applies to all social structures by the way.
You’re a man? You grew up benefitting from sexism.
You’re straight? You grew up with homophobic ideals.
You’re cis? You grew up with transphobic ideals.
You’re able bodied? You grew up with ableist tendencies.
The process of unlearning all of the ideology you were surrounded by is what activism is about. Do it.
And even if you’re not privileged under a given social structure, you might still have a lot of internalized things to unlearn
Our society teaches us to hate the oppressed, if an oppressed person says that what you believe or do is harmful and they tell you - don’t get offended, learn and do better