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If you’ve never taken the bus as your primary mode of transportation you should know that a ten minute drive is like a one hour bus ride.

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actually really warming up to the idea of never coming out explicitly. like i’ll just be. casually queer. if you ask i will tell you

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Too many of you believe that the evils of capitalism begin and end with whether or not workers get paid enough. But capitalism is inherently wasteful by design. It is resource intensive and exploitative by design. Even if we killed every billionaire and redistributed all their wealth tomorrow (a good thing) we would still have to restructure how we manage society from the ground up, globally.

And no, you as an individual are not responsible for figuring out all of the answers, sad white person. There are people all over the world already working on the solutions their communities need. We just have to empower them to make those solutions happen.

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Images that make you enter a fugue state

#i hate cars

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I love watching How It’s Made. Though I wish they would go one level deeper. They show all of these manufacturing processes with gigantic proprietary custom engineered machines that spit out 4 billion Cheetos at once. I want to see how those are made. I want to see a show called How They Make the Things That Make Things.

That is truly some of the most creative engineering I’ve ever seen. Like, my brother designs airplane wings for fighter jets. Which is cool… but wings haven’t changed much in decades. He’s kind of a… re-engineer. (Sorry, bro.)

Whereas a custom built machine that sharpens dozens of pencils at once must have had some interesting trial and error problem-solving. How did they settle on this design and what other designs did they try?

Or how did they make this ice cream sandwich masturbation mechanism. 

I want to see the messy test footage of ice cream going everywhere on the beta version. 

Who engineers these things? How are they built? How much do they cost? 

I might have to go on a YouTube hunt. 

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Random socializing tip: Tell people when they’ve had a positive impact on your life!

e.g.: “Hey, remember when I asked you for advice on X? That was really helpful, I tried it and now (insert what has improved)”

“You kept gushing about (insert series/book/movie/recipe) and made it sound really appealing, so I checked it out and I really liked it!”

“Thank you for letting me vent recently, telling you what bothered me really helped me to work through it / helped me see it from another perspective / gave me the courage to address it with the person I was talking about.”

It helps people see their own strong points, it deepens your relationships, it makes the people in your life feel appreciated and special and it can give you warm fuzzy feelings!

Win/win all around!

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[Text: "Oh, you're experiencing a structural problem? Have you ever considered trying different personal choices instead?"]

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If you experienced trauma in childhood or had a rough childhood, dude listen to me. Offer yourself play. You were deprived of it.

Keep bubbles in the house, blow bubbles in the yard, blow them in your room, get a coloring book that doesn’t have to be an adult one with mandalas, watch cartoons, laugh at stupid things, dress up as a superhero for Halloween, wear a Santa hat on Christmas and big light up snowflake earrings, lay down on the floor, lay down in the grass, eat eggos for dinner sometimes. It’s not stupid. You’re not childish. You’re giving your inner child what they had taken from them. They deserve it.

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So many doors will open for you when you decide it's okay to start over.

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Have been having the worst cramps of my life, ibuprofen did nothing, but thank god for tylenol, now I'm just at "bad cramps" pain levels.

#like i get worse than usual cramps every so often #but this has been on another level #like the oh thank god the pain killers are finally working pain is still more than my usual crampa

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Acid Reflux is stupid because it's just a grab-bag of every symptom in existence that could scare the shit out of a hypochondriac

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I feel like some people have still been doing things & being people for the last nearly 2 years of pandemic but I have just been staring at a wall for 23 months aging through the entirety of my mid-twenties

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Hello! Do you know any way to make a weighted blanket? My therapist reccomended getting one of those for me but all I find in the internet is either really expensive or has a texture I hate or looks like a quilt (?), like lots of little weights sewn together. Adapting my house to my sensory needs in little ways is making my life so much easier nowadays and I think this would help a lot considering how much adhd is affected by sleep.

DIY weighted blanket

Weighted blankets are great but can be pricy. Luckily, there are DIY alternatives.

PrettySick Supply has several tutorials for weighted blankets. Autism-asks has also compiled a list of tutorials.

If you like knitting, you could also check out Knitboyknit's knitted weighted blanket tutorial.

Note that a weighed blanket should weigh about 10% of your own body weight.

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25 and it got me excited

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Dear internet: I want to read instructions, not watch a video. I’m glad you have a video. We all learn in different ways. But please have it in writing, too. Thanks.

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So I got some messages regarding my post yesterday (warning for moving gif at source) about never really having a career path or wanting to climb up a career ladder. One of the questions was... well it was less of a question and more of a judgement about my character and how immature I must be to be in my 30s and to have never had a "stable" job for more than a few years at a time.

And while that person is cheerfully invited to rethink their life values as well as take a long walk off a short pier, I just want to say for anyone out there who feels this way about themselves:

It's okay if you also struggle to stick to one career path and bounce around. It's okay to get itchy feet if you stay in one place too long. It's okay to not have everything figured out yet--regardless of how old you are. It's okay if your mental or physical health prevents you from reaching the same career milestones as your peers. It's okay.

You're okay.

Not all of us are capable of following the blueprints laid out by capitalism. Not all of us want to. Some of us are happy bouncing around from job to job for the rest of our lives. I know I would have been if my body hadn't nailed me to the ground.

You're okay. I promise.

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I want to say this bc it does not get said enough: most grief you experience in your life will have NOTHING to do with death.

This is not talked about enough and as a result ppl struggle to process grief bc the world is telling them that grief is something else.

Grief is about loss, and IF you’d like to define it as a loss of life it is not restricted to loss of life via death. Even then I’d implore you to not view grief as about death or life but again, just loss.

Grief is also about having a shitty childhood that nothing can fix even if you have healed from it as an adult; your childhood was shitty and there’s nothing retroactively you can do about it. You grieve the loss of thriving your past self was denied.

Grief is about friendships that ended abruptly, confusingly and again, there’s nothing you can do to change that. You just have to sit with it. This is the only way grief can ultimately be processed and all it wants by the way: to be accepted and sat with. That’s it.

Grief is about opportunities that have passed, experiences you can’t have because of the way situations have ended up, and having to accept that while you do have your whole future ahead of you, there were some things you wanted to be a certain way then and they weren’t, aren’t and will never be.

Grief is being estranged from your family and missing family closeness even though you do not want to be closer to your parents, because you’re grieving the fact that there is a healthy part of human life you will not experience through them.

Grief can be the job you lost, the plans that fell through, the events that spiraled out of your control

If grief is strictly about life and death, understand that it includes grieving the life you never had and the death of who you used to be, too.

But moreover, grief is about loss.

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