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1. I’m syscourse unaligned
2. My active blogs are as follows:
@circulars-reasoning for nuanced syscourse
@circular-bircular for non nuanced syscourse
@systemquirks for plurality quirkiness
@positivitycombopack for DID/OSDD positivity
And @circulars-userboxes to get to know me!
Since folks still wanna send me anon hate, let’s send them to the right place. Anyone wanna promo boost these new blogs?
Anyone can reblog!
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As promised, here’s the short version of my farewell post:
Syscourse is a goddamn drag. It made me a toxic, hateful person, someone I don’t want to be. So, I’ve left MotCR behind (Tho it’ll stay up for archive purposes), and I’ve moved to a new MAIN blog called @circulars-reasoning (which of course is currently glitched so I’m reaching out to tumblr support to get it fixed.)
I’ll be posting things I actually care about there, and I plan to stay away from the things that are genuinely making my life hell here. I’ve said a lot of things I regret here, and things I don’t fully agree with, and things I don’t think I ever agreed with too. But I’m going to work hard to be the person I want to be - syscourse sides be damned.
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A Farewell For Now
Hello All! I've been working on this final post for a little bit, and well. I think I'm ready today. It's why I cleared out my inbox so much, and why I have been so distant (which was a really good, healthy experience for me actually).
But I'm not ready to leave syscourse fully. I still have a lot to say about it. So, here it is - my big, final post.
For those not interested in my big long post, but wondering what's next for me, I'll be making a short post soon mentioning everything. I just want to get this out of the way.
This post started as a retelling of my experiences leaving radically inclusive pro-endogenic spaces. However, as I was writing it, it became more just… a trip down memory lane (lol, puns). It’s opened my eyes a lot to who I used to be, who I recently was, and who I want to be soon. 
While this is tagged as syscourse, I would appreciate it if you left debates off this post. You’re welcome to reblog and interact, but I want to remind everyone that this is my personal experience. Any general statements about behavior are directed at people I had interaction with. 
TW ahead for... yikes. Everything? Yeah. Just a generalized TW here for all of the content on my blog for the past 5 years.
I think it’s most important to start with context here. I joined the DID/OSDD Tumblr community around 2017. I was 19 years old, and WOEFULLY undereducated. I had a DSM-iii from the school library (the one that still had MPD as a diagnosis) and the internet at my disposal, along with overprotective parents that regularly spied on me and who I am certain checked my browsing history. At the time, Rice was a host of the system. She came out of hiding, stuck around for longer… but genuinely, I don’t think it was super healthy for her. 
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This was her first ever post on our DID blog. Mind you, we were not influenced by any other sources yet. This was from our own understanding. Rice didn’t switch out of the front anymore consciously, and the others rarely fronted. This, to her, based on our ignorant research, meant everyone was integrated (which she used to mean the word “fused” - and both words were inaccurate for what we were actually experiencing) and that she somehow didn’t have DID anymore because of it. 
SO… we entered the DID community with a LOT of stupid preconceptions. That’s the point of that screenshot. 
I started out by just reblogging pictures, memes, etc. Just barely starting to dip my toes into the DID/OSDD community. I gave advice when it was applicable to my own life, but given that I was so misinformed on other topics, people were… understandably wary. 
Around this time, I also created a sideblog of mine, probablydidrpgideas. I was just trying to find fun in a life that was quickly spiraling out of my control - I was terrified of having a mental disorder, likely because of internalized ableism. It just sounded so horrible. So I tried to make light of it, and tried to enjoy myself. I don’t regret that part, but then I tried my hand at “spreading information.” Yeah. THAT went great. I’d include a post here, but it was deleted after a system came after me for it. 
The first time I consciously started stepping into syscourse, the first time I participated was… well. 
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I was in denial. I didn’t realize that what I had been through (what little I remember of it) even counted. I knew high school was hard for me, but that was AFTER the cut off age. So this was me, trying to question, genuinely, when that “cut off” was. They responded genuinely and with good information, and kindly too. And my response was…
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Up until this point, I had only seen hate. I had seen endos - who claimed to be similar to me - who were being harassed. I saw systems - who, like me, claimed to not have trauma before a specific age - being harassed by people like this person, who claimed DID only happened before a certain age. They suggested I seek therapy, and that if I wasn’t traumatized, I may be experiencing something else. I reacted VERY poorly, like the uneducated (terrified) teenager I was. 
Because of this, and a few other factors, I moved into endogenic spaces. OSDD/DID spaces didn’t accept me, particularly because there were a lot of things about my system that made people doubt my existence. I was a supposed DID system who had “completely fused” in one year without any therapy, but still had alters fronting, who claimed to have formed without trauma (denial is a hell of a drug) and who had genuinely no idea what they were talking about. 
Proof of not knowing what I was talking about: my description of what it meant to be “integrated” 😥
I continued to interact with those who disagreed with endogenic plurality, primarily because I wanted to understand where they were coming from. If I WAS a traumagenic system, then surely I should understand???
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This was the first time I was fully fakeclaimed. Fair warning, it’s a loooong post and goes into a lot of back and forth. But this was what, ultimately, cemented me as a radically inclusive system. At this point, I was at least OPEN to the idea of being traumatized. So having someone tell me I was just RPing… It hurt. And it all started cause, looking back, I was immature and uninformed - as are the majority of new systems. This person - this JACKASS - looked at me, a clearly fucked up individual, and continued to believe the worst of me. 
I applied that belief to all anti-endos. And I ran to endogenic spaces to feel… safe. 
Endo spaces felt safe. I felt accepted, because, well, they accepted everyone! This was also at the same time I was exploring my gender and sexuality, and when I started falling in love with my nonbinary partner. Endogenic spaces kept comparing the trauma debate to LGBT+ debates. “They say trauma ALWAYS causes systems, just because they’ve never heard of it happening elsewhere!! That’s the same argument as Nonbinary people not existing because you’ve never heard of it!!” (Note: it’s not the same argument.)
It was so easy to become a pro-endo. I could talk for hours about why, but it boils down to feeling accepted and wanted. When I first started looking into things (uneducated, as the post said), I could not comprehend why people were excluding others. “Surely, if so many people say they have a disorder but don’t have trauma, that’s valid, because *I* have this disorder without trauma.” Again. Denial. 
It’s funny because, looking back, I remember things much clearer. I didn’t reblog much from Endogenics at first - largely because I didn’t want harassment. I was more fragile then than I am now, which is clearly saying something. It’s funny too, because I had very similar stances. Just… in an immature way. 
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Even by 2019, I wasn’t really certain where I stood. I knew I accepted all the identities I was coming across, but I also had my doubts about how healthy this all was. I didn’t strongly participate in syscourse, even then, but I scrolled it a LOT. I spent way too much of my life on tumblr. Also by this point, I was as stressed out as I had ever been - I was a senior in college, just turning 21 by now, fully realizing I’m traumagenic by this point (even if I didn’t fully accept it), and going through the most stressful goddamn year of my life. My symptoms were getting worse, and… I was always so angry. 
I scrolled major pro endo blogs. I scrolled major anti endo blogs. I was disgusted by what I saw, daily, because here the Evil Traumagenics were - supposedly MY people - bashing endos - who to me, were just existing. “Words change - why can’t they use those words?” I was so frustrated. I just wanted people to leave each other alone. 
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As you can see - I actually subscribed to some anti-endo beliefs by now. I acknowledged that some Endogenics have trauma. I just wasn’t outspoken at all, because I knew the harassment my friends in the pro-endo community got. I still considered myself strongly pro-endo, mostly because everyone else did, and partly because… I support endos. I always had. 
It wasn’t until November/December of 2019 that I really fell deeply into tumblr and started drowning in syscourse. Notably, that’s during thanksgiving/winter break - when I was home with my abusers. I started reblogging more from anti-endos (at least, the ones who I agreed with) and started separating DID/OSDD from Endogenics. 
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It was also at this time that I began to hate the community. 
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I was constantly angry by now. Syscourse was on my dash daily. And of course, quarantine didn’t help. I kept diving further and further into things I didn’t understand. 
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2020, November, was where I finally, finally started looking into other arguments. What did people mean when they advocated for non-shared spaces? What were they fighting for? I began reblogging from anti-endos. 
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But I slipped back into this. Angry place. I couldn’t shake that anger. And then… the INSTANT 2021 hit… I started turning that anger towards others, very very heavily. 
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I started to shift more neutral (slowly, very slowly), but still considered myself pro-endo because I supported them. But I reacted so negatively anytime anyone said ANYTHING negative about Endogenics. I genuinely couldn’t understand what harm they did. Mind you, this was already after I had crashed my car due to their beliefs, had Endogenics tell me I was a mixed-origin system at best, etc etc. i just couldn’t understand how people could be upset at a group of people just trying to exist and get support. 
I held onto my anger for too long. 
[I would post more screenshots, but it won't let me at this point. I'll be providing links from hereon out).
Link: (what even was the point of this? All to hold a grudge? Is that it?)
May was where things started to shift. I was so angry all the time that it was exhausting me. I spent hours of my day on tumblr, scrolled my entire dashboard at least 4 times a day, and scrolled through syscourse tags with obsessive focus. I was stuck now stuck at home, every day, all day, with my abusers. It was a crutch. 
I was so tired. And I started shifting to neutrality: not giving a shit anymore, because giving a shit was… god. It was exhausting. 
Link: This is where I started identifying as "plural" rather than the other terms, as I was so annoyed and frustrated by syscourse.
That didn’t stop me from being a disgusting, hate filled person to defend the people I have been with for so long, however. 
https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/650492132308746240/cant-reply-so-doing-it-this-way-this-here  (This entire post was just... So sickening. I just made comparisons to being gay as a way to defend how the DSM changes and isn’t correct and just. Ugh.) 
I hate scrolled anti-endo blogs (that I sometimes reblogged from, because. I agree with the things I reblogged.) I tried to do positivity to cheer myself up - which didn’t last.  I made positivity posts for Endogenics that got shat on by people, which just increased my anger. Everything just. Need more anger. I knew I wanted to stop, but I COULDN’T because god, everything was making me so angry, and here I was, with nowhere to put it - but in syscourse. 
Link: https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/655709219852615680/honey-im-blocking-people-thats-it-im-not 
It just kept getting worse. And worse. And worse. I kept fluctuating between a very aggressive pro-endo and a very dead inside “neutral.” 
And then I changed. 
Link: https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/672094051347070976/thanks-so-much-for-explaining-it-that-way-that 
@justanothersyscourse. You… heard my anger, and frustration, and you replied kindly. And while it itched inside, burned, to be talking to someone I had frequently complained about in private, you offered safety on the other side. Safety for me to research, to understand, to see. All I ever wanted, originally, was to understand. You have us that chance. 
The rest of tumblr never saw it - but Dude (the owner of that blog) sat with me for a half hour or so in DMs while I bawled my eyes out in a Covid testing line and as I tried to work out where I stood on the “disordered / dysfunctional” debate. He made me feel like someone understood for once; agreed that BOTH sides are toxic, and that BOTH sides have such majors flaws. I felt at the time that everybody hated me, because every post I made for backlash. Every post I made got people upset. I never got “good anons.” I never got asks at all. Just… people reblogging and telling me I was fake. 
Dude opened me up to actually breathing again. 
That was in December, 2021. About 6 months ago. Half a year. And it was the first time I felt less angry. 
Dude being kind made me look at other anti-endo blogs. I found kind people, through dude - and unkind people too. But I agreed with all of them, at first, and considered myself anti-endo in January. I started tagging posts as anti-endo infrequently. That lasted a little bit (though I oscillated the entire month between pro and anti). 
Jan 10: https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/673028376279302144/genuinely-not-sure-how-i-feel-about-endo-systems 
Also Jan 10, in response to that post: https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/673035335340539904/if-your-support-for-a-whole-demographic-changes 
I voiced my struggles regularly with this oscillation. Another thank you has to go to Agony - I sent so many anonymous asks to the Agony Auncles during this time in hope of some guidance, and I received it. 
Link: https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/674571799196041217/you-can-feel-free-to-delete-this-if-youd-like 
I started feeling a little better, but I’ve realized now why: I felt better because I could RECOGNIZE my anger now. Before, I didn’t even recognize my anger. Now, I did - but I wasn’t sure how to solve it. 
In February, I tried to step back, just like I did very recently.
Link: https://memoriesofthecircularroom.tumblr.com/post/676399663864266752/hey-message-from-mod-curtis-here-were-going-to 
I couldn’t though. I couldn’t stop scrolling syscourse; especially when I still had to be home. It was so much harder now, I was building up to coming out, so I hid in my phone and tried to ignore everything. I used syscourse to hide. 
I started trying to generalize my posts more - maybe if I wasn’t directly supporting either side, that anger (conscious or not) would die down. 
This… this, I think, is where hell broke loose. 
I started calling myself “neutral” - I didn’t fit cleanly into either of the boxes people appeared to have made. I started arguing “both sides are bad and here are their flaws” - and a very small group of people agree with me!! It’s been lovely having that group. 
The tumblr community, however…
Ugh. I don’t think I want to even dig anymore. Anyone who’s been reading this far likely already knows how these past few months went for me. I posted a lot of takes, got both support and heinous amounts of harassment. I was lightly threatened with Doxxing from the pro-endo doxxer, was told to kill myself numerous times, and went toe-to-toe with major pro-endo players. 
Nothing I did these past few months feels productive. Not anymore, at least. During the moment, it felt good - but I suppose self harm usually does, in the moment. It’s funny; I frequently make sure to remind people to step away from syscourse when it’s hurting them. So why is it so hard for me to do the same? 
I realized, when writing this post, just how damaging it’s all been for me. I started writing this post from a place of, what I’ll call it here, “boiling anger education.” I’ve frequently said that you cannot educate when you are just angry, and I still hold to that - but I wasn’t doing better myself. I didn’t realize I was so angry, so hateful, until I finally, finally managed to fully step away and see the bigger picture. 
I took a walk outside for the first time in months on Thursday. It was incredible. I started drawing again - granted, for system related things, but it’s been so refreshing. I started writing again, because I wasn’t busy refreshing my notifications to make sure nobody had misinterpreted what I said now, to make sure I didn’t need to respond to someone to clarify my point. 
It’s been about a week (I think - time is so hard for me to keep track of. It feels simultaneously like yesterday, and like years ago) since I wrote the post that made me step back. Genuinely, I don’t know how to feel about the take I made there. I don’t think it’s beneficial to even address it here; I’m not healthy enough for that yet. I think it would be a disservice, to myself and to others, to address it here. I always say “if you aren’t educated on the topic, you can share your thoughts and personal feelings, but you can’t give information.” I want to stand by that here, especially since I haven't been lately.
Looking back, Memories of the Circular Room has changed. That’s a good thing, in a lot of ways. It started as a way to me to learn more, to post about my experiences, and to become comfortable with my system. I believe I’ve done those things. I also believe it’s changed me for the worse - the syscourse, the hate, the anger I’ve held onto. 
I think MotCR served me well. But I also think I’m not that person anymore. I don’t need to remember anymore. I don’t need to be stuck in who I was, or who I was becoming. I can change, and grow, and hopefully, I can be kind. That’s all I wanted, back then: someone to be kind to me, to educate me. That’s who I want to be. 
This is my funeral pyre for Memories of the Circular Room. One last, final post - one last final memory of everything. A chronicle of all of the things that have happened, a quick summary, one that certainly doesn’t contain everything, but shows the changes I went through. I think I’m finally ready to move on. 
MotCR will remain “active” in the sense that you can scroll this blog to see any post made here. I’m not going to private it, because I think there are good things that were said here, and I want myself and others to be able to access those things. But I will no longer reblog things here, make original posts, or answer asks. I’m moving on, and away, and changing how I tackle syscourse. 
I’ll be making one last post when I fully am ready to share my new plans (which include a new blog). But for now? This is it. 
Thank you for reading ❤️💙💜💗🖤💛💚❣️🧡💟🤍❤️
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also i love sending an ask and then immediately going "...have i already talked about this?" lmao
Always, buddy. Always.
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(not directed @ you, just an acccumulation of thoughts) i feel like a big problem in syscourse is that people dont say "for me" enough? like people talk about how their system works for them and how their plurality works for them but like, they dont clarify that its specifically about them because the implication should be clear enough, or because they legit think its a more universal experience, and then people assume in bad faith that theyre for everyone ever
Is. Is it not assumed we can only speak to our personal experiences? Is that why so many people are assuming I keep talking about Every System Ever?
I've only known about my system for like. 5 years y'all. That's barely a blip on the radar. I can ONLY speak to what I currently know and my own personal knowledge. I'm not even that well researched on the disorder.
I always assume that the posts people make are from their own experiences, and then I try to comment on the post from my own experience. I thought that's how social media is supposed to work. Are others not doing that???? Are y'all not acknowledging other people are people and not encyclopedias?
(None of this @ you, anon. Just. Really???? People do that???)
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Really sorry many of the asks about the therapy thing were unkind <3 :/ fwiw, I didn't take it to mean you were saying other DID/OSDD systems always should use parts terminology! But it does seem noteworthy that, even if all endos used different terms, that wouldn't actually prevent the same type of issue you encountered with your therapist from occurring elsewhere? Bc the same 'contradictions' in preferred words and therapeutic frameworks exists purely within the OSDDID community, too. (1/2)
“Which isn't denying that in your specific case, the people with different needs but similar terminology happened to be endos, but using that as a reason why endos shouldn't use words like 'system' feels a bit like blaming endos for a problem that would still exist without them, if that makes sense? Absolutely we need ways/words to clearly communicate the different needs and wants of different groups in the multiplicity community, but often those needs actually aren't split "endo vs OSDDID" (2/2)”
Thanks for the ask! Yeah it was frustrating to get so many accusations that I was speaking for everyone.
I was just trying to remark on how the natural multiplicity movement taking the word “system” has made things much harder for me, personally, and how I think using proper terminology now would help reverse some of that damage. 💟
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So I feel like I’m walking a thin line between being a singlet and being a system. I make no claims to having alters but I make no claims to Not having them because frankly, it’s also likely with some experiences I have but could also be explained by other symptoms. I’m not in a rush to self dx, (but I am the type to rush into self dx because my family put a pressure on me to know Everything wrong with me or it wasn’t a big enough deal, but then if I knew Everything to extensive detail, then I’m either faking because I’m creating details that I simply wouldn’t know of if I actually had a problem. It’s a lose/lose), but I was wondering if you had any advice for the “idk what’s going on but I can’t afford a specialist and self dx doesn’t feel like the proper course of action” people?
My suggestion is to continue to research and continue to grow. You self dx as “idk somethings going on in this head of mine, I’m still working it out.”
Sounds like you definitely had the traumatic childhood tho, judging from how you just described your family. 😢 GL okay?
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I was wondering if you knew of any resources about identity confusion. I have recently discovered that while I'm uncomfortable with my birthname/most nicknames based on my birth name, I sometimes find a sort of comfort by internally introducing myself by a few different names. There's a few names that I stick to and sort of trade off with, but there still isn't really...an identity with them? At least not that I can discern.
I can say things like "My name is [birth name]" and that's fine, but when I say "I'm [birthname]" there's something that feels...untrue about it.
Meanwhile if I internally say "I am [Other Name]" there's a sense of rightness to it, but the rightness changes and sometimes the name changes throughout the day.
I do suspect OSDD due to some known trauma, and I'm also wondering about non-possesive switches, I believe they're called. But even with name changes the sense of identity is kinda just "*shrugs*", though there are slightly "mood" changes possibly. It's difficult to word it.
Honestly, I’m not sure. My identity is something I struggle with too. If others have ideas for what this user can try, please chime in!
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I think that singlets can have opinions in syscourse, but I do not think that they should share them publicly. In a small discord server or friend group chat? Sure. Just dear God can singlets please not debate with systems on syscourse.
Also I think it's fine if syscourse crosses into other discourse and topics. Like if a trans singlet wants to talk about the term sysmed, go ahead. It's derived from trans discourse and therefore it sorts crosses over.
I just think that it's very easy to start talking over minorities in any context and I think a lot of systems are scared of that
Clearing out my inbox!
I like singlets in syscourse when they don’t speak over systems. My singlet has a syscourse blog, one where they only make original posts about their experiences dating a system who’s entrenched in syscourse. I think that’s valuable.
I also think crossing into discourse is fine, but it walks a fine line.
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This is a SystemQuirks ask. I dunno what I'm doing really and I'm very sorry if this wasn't where you wanted this, but I kinda wanted to grab your platform to get more feedback on if other systems experience the thing..
So, we're a fairly recently discovered self-dx traumagenic system
I'm the host and I recently had an alter introduce hinself through a really long, super intense dream. It felt like about a month in duration and consisted of several memories over a couple years with him there. Mostly as a 'new kid' at school.
Like, we had detailed conversations and talked about what we wanted to do when we grew up too. (He wanted to go into politics to help with natural park conservation)
I also thought he was an actual new kid and asked one of my school friends where he was, giving a name and short description. After the friend had a mini crisis and told me she had no clue who I was talking about, I got it sorted out and easily seperated the dream bits from the normal bits
But anyway, I haven't heard of an alter intro like this before??
It just seems sorta weird and I was hoping that someone else related to something I described, so I can have a frame of reference
Thanks, 🐐
Hey! Sorry it took me so long to answer. Sounds like a weird situation, but it’s absolutely happened.
I actually was the alter to introduce themself in a dream. Roy did as well; though we weren’t quite as clear to the “viewers” of the dream as yours appeared to be!
We also often mix up reality and our dreams (both due to the DID and due to the REM Behavior disorder we believe we’re developing. Thanks, genetics!) It’s normal, imo, to be a little confused when you have this disorder.
Im glad you’re able to communicate with your alters like this! I hope it gets easier/less confusing with time.
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This might be late but I have a system quirk! A couple, actually. One is that the main part of our inner world started as a giant, glowing, enchanted tree! With a treehouse for every alter and stuff like bridges and ropes to move around. We also use teleportation type stuff to move around. We have since expanded our inner world in therapy and now have a forest and store-type building with more rooms for alters specifically designed for them.
Another semi-quirky thing is that a LOT of our young alters are basically like if our brain went Copy/Paste. They look and sound the same, with very slight differences in appearance that they ended up doing themselves, later in our life. They do have different names, thankfully, most that they chose themselves. Inner world meetings can be confusing with 8 or 9 nearly identical children!😅 (that's not even all of our kiddos, we are very child alter heavy.)
I love reading about system quirks. It's so interesting how different our brains worked. Quite incredible, actually!
Cleaning out my inbox, got another system quirk!!! <3
I love hearing about people’s innerworlds. They’re always so fascinating. Your enchanted tree sounds so epic and I’m more than a little jealous. The only plant life we have in here right now is Debra’s garden... which consists only of night-sky petunias. Yeah. I need more plants.
As for the children, wow! That sounds like a lot to handle. Sometimes our two littles can be a lot for us, and one of them even age-slides to 19, so he only counts half of the time. I can’t imagine dealing with so many!! You’re a full on daycare /lh
Thank you so much for sharing your unique plurality!
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“Your experiences are not universal”
Is such a weird take on a personal anecdote.
Like, I’m glad you find me so important that you assume I am the representative of all people and their opinions.
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Reblog this if...
You think syscourse hurts the entire plural community more than it helps anyone.
You think traumagenics and endogenics both deserve their own separate spaces/terms in addition to spaces/terms for all plural kinds.
You think that while there are certain requirements for DID/OSDD/UDD, the concept of plurality as a whole is nuanced.
You think all plural people and systems should respect each other. You think using "singlet" as an insult makes no sense.
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On the conversation with kipandkandicore about therapy + terms, what about disordered, DID/OSDD systems who *do* want to be treated as separate individuals rather than parts? Systems can absolutely be caused distress by things related to their plurality, go to therapy for it, and still prefer 'people' terminology--ideal treatment for them might look very different than what would work best for you, but does their DID/OSDD somehow 'not count' just because they frame their experience differently?
Hey - my post was just about my personal experiences and how endos have made things somewhat harder for me. Not a general statement about every DID/OSDD system in the world. Not sure why so many people took it to mean a general thing. I was just giving evidence of how it’s affected me :)
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i think the main thing for me is, when i joined this community, i expected decently calm, well-handled discussions out of most things. did i expect that all the time? absolutely not. i enjoy the memes and the jokes and the prodding here and there so long as it’s not deeply malicious, but overall, i expected the anti-endo side to be more focused on dispelling misinformation and discussing our thoughts and viewpoints.
but that is… definitely not what i got, i suppose.
things have devolved so drastically in just a few short months. this blog was made in November of 2021, and even during that time i’ve seen a dramatic change in how syscourse is handled. whatever chaos was stirred up during the height of some drama, it lingers, and we’re all living in its shadow at this point.
i’m not leaving this community, because i hold some genuine faith in the way we can handle things and come back together stronger, but i think we all (on all sides of syscourse) need to take a break and a breather and make sure there’s no tension festering from all that’s gone on. we need to relax for a moment, dedicate more time to hobbies, and learn that not everything is said in bad faith.
take a breather, take your meds, drink water, eat something nice, and just… get off the internet for a little while and go dedicate time to things you enjoy that are not discourse related. relax for a minute. syscourse will still exist and be here by the time you get back.
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Hey would you mind telling me what the title of the book you were reading with the passages on integration? I am very interested!
oh, i make sure to put it in the post, generally with the image ID. it's titled "understanding and treating dissociative identity disorder - a relational approach". i've been posting a lot of screenshots of it lately.
it's a good book so far. it's mostly a book for therapists who are learning to treat those with DID, or at least that's the impression i get, so go into it with that knowledge first.
the first part talks a lot about the history of dissociation and the formation of dissociative structures of the mind, as well as disorganized attachments, and going into the neurological aspects of DID as well, so that might get boring for some. it also talks about how certain parts can form, and generally talks of abuse, most specifically things like rape and sexual assault, so be careful.
the next part talks about the assessment and treatment of DID. i'm currently on chapter 9, making my way to chapter 10, so i'm not super far into this part, but it goes over the assessment and diagnostic tools for DID, how to establish therapeutic relationships with parts of a system, and it also goes over mapping parts, treatment options, stages of treatment and a general idea of how to go about them, and more.
some of the ideas in the book may be somewhat outdated, but so far i haven't found anything egregiously inaccurate, just a brief passage in part 1 talking about the "core", which has been disproven.
i'm on chapter 9 of 15, and so far it's a pretty good and insightful book.
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for the anon asking for inner world help so i didn’t really have one starting out, my therapist said some people have one bc they had a visual place to retreat to when trauma happened, and ofc some ppl are just better at visualizing than others. so its normal to have one or not. so to help me we visualize a place i feel safe while describing all five senses, and yeah meditate/visualize it. its a helpful tool in communication and recovery
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