💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Five sample dialogues to show how you can respond to insults or criticism:
Them: “It’s too bad you’re unemployed. Don’t you feel useless that you just stay at home and others have to support you financially?”
🔹You: “I’m still searching for a good job. Don’t you have important tasks to focus on instead of constantly acting like you gave birth to me?”
Them: “Your husband works in the medical field, but he’s a fat guy. Does he overstuff himself with his patients?”
🔹You: “My husband has a right to eat what he likes when he wants to. Is your partner so plain and uninteresting that you have all the free time to check out other women’s husbands and analyze them? Are you ignorant of the concept of lowering your gaze, or is evaluating my husband’s body size your new profession?”
Them: “Eww. Your room is a total dumpster. Are you too lazy to clean it?”
🔹 You: “I’ll tidy it up when I’m ready. Since you’re obsessed with perfection, how about you do some assessment on your heart and ensure it’s completely free from impure qualities? If you were really fabulous and worthy of admiration, your overall personality wouldn’t be wretchedly disgusting.”
Them: “It’s a shame you don’t make as much money as we do. We get to dine at classy buffet restaurants anytime and all you enjoy is simple food.”
🔹You: “Alhamdulillah I’m gratefully contented with what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to give me. You must be incredibly delusional if you assume your financial greed triggers envy. With your gigantic ignorance of dunya’s reality and your substantially low morals, you’re no better than donkeys.”
Them: “Wow. You’re one greedy eater. Control yourself, you hippo.”
🔹 You: “Yeah I’ll stop eating when I’m done. In the meantime, why don’t you control your tongue and lousy character? I don’t recall hiring you to be my fitness coach or weight loss trainer.”
🌻 Ways to confidently deal when insulted or criticized:
1] If there were some undeniable facts in the criticism you received, utilize them to develop yourself and be willing to improve for Allah’s sake. If the statements you heard aren’t true however and you know those words can’t describe you at all, smile on the inside and be glad Alhamdulillah that you’re not the liar who’s falsely accusing others due to absurdity, immaturity, awful upbringing or jealousy.
2] Understand the possibility of the critics being jealously threatened by your achievements, positive traits like generosity, confident vibes, strong faith/Imaan, and/or inner beauty.
3] Acknowledge the truth that the one who is actually suffering on the inside is that troll who spends much of their energy trying to annoy, insult or disturb you, as they can’t stand their own inner struggles, self-hatred and insecurities.
4] Keep in mind that your critics also have their own set of imperfections, flaws and shortcomings. A gorilla doesn’t need to worry if other gorillas make fun of it for enjoying bananas, just as human beings with lighter skin tone shouldn’t feel entitled to ridicule those who are dark-skinned, because ultimately all of us are Allah’s servants and we’ll be questioned about our actions on the Day of Judgment.
5] Note that you’re not the only one in the universe who has to cope with being despised by insecure or envious individuals.
Even the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam was disliked by numerous unbelievers and hypocrites yet his enemies’ criticism and hostility do not change the fact that he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam will always be the best of all living beings.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.’ Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim