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i wrote this in the notes of another post originally and am copy + pasting it here because im right but "tell the cops nothing, tell the doctors everything" is such a stupid ass fucking abled take. doctors engage in policing idk how to explain to yall that some people cannot in fact just tell doctors everything without it putting them at risk
like im not gonna go into the myriad of ways this is bs but like a quick example is i cant tell my doctors about my substance use issues because if i get that listed on my medical records it will actively endanger me. It will impact how I'm treated in emergency situations and will get me labeled as "drug seeking" when i try to get other issues dealt with.
i dont say this to scare people but because this is actually important information for people to have. if a medical professional claims this isnt an issue, they are NOT "one of the good ones". they are either straight up lying or theyre utterly unaware, which is frankly not better. doctors are cops. never forget it
like YES tell ur doctor abt being sexually active but stop saying "tell the cops nothing and the doctor everything" before i start killing in cold blood
in the interests of Showing Willing i did pick out the two skills in the book that were not meltdown-specific to try out and in the interests of honesty jesus christ i am never doing those again
sticking your face in very very cold water or putting an ice pack on it and holding your breath in an effort to simulate diving underwater. this is a great way to replace the current anxiety you are feeling with a much bigger panic anxiety about being freezing cold, uncomfortable, in pain and drowning.
clenching all of the muscles in your body one at a time. this is a great way to augment the current anxiety you are feeling with the worst migraine you have had in months.
my counsellor gave me a book of ND therapeutic skills and told me to look up the distress tolerance chapter and i appreciate her factoring my autism into my therapy but this whole thing is about meltdowns. and i am 32 years old with a job, a feat accomplished entirely by killing the part of my brain that has feelings. i would love to have a meltdown, a meltdown would be so refreshing rn after years of emotional deadening, and i do not think these skills are apt for the task at hand. in many ways my worst problem rn is repressing my autistic traits, not being overwhelmed by them
a lot of queer people i know in real life are either into or open to talking about astrology but online i think ive noticed a lot more people who dislike astrology and im super curious to see if that holds up.
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The “oh I could definitely write this fanfic in under 5000 words and it really wouldn’t take me that long” voice in your head is actually the devil speaking