JingYi: SiZhui is my bf.
Ling: Boyfriend or best friend?
JingYi: SiZhui is my bf.
Ling: Boyfriend or best friend?
Happy Asexual Awareness week to all my Aces and Aspecs. Here’s a friendly reminder that:
- The “A” in LGBTQIA does not stand for ally but asexual and aromantic as well as agender
- Asexuality is on a spectrum so depending where someone falls or how they identify, they may or may not experience intimate attraction
- Asexuals are not broken
- Asexuals aren’t “cishets trying to evade LGBTQ+ spaces”
- Asexual and aromanticism shouldn’t be used synonymously. They have similar principals but different meanings. Both primarily deal with experiencing little to no attraction
- Not all asexuals are virgins and that doesn’t make them any less asexual because of it
- Asexuality is real and valid
- Just because aphobia infrequently escalates to violence doesn’t mean it’s nonexistent
- Corrective assault isn’t limited to just bi and gay men/lesbians
A few pro tips while I’m at it:
- Using virginity as an insult to asexuals is like using heterosexuality to insult a straight person, you sound stupid
- If at one point you believed to be asexual but later discovered you weren’t that’s okay, but using that experience to invalidate others isn’t
- Spitefully sending nsfw to people who identify as ace, especially MINORS (and yes this has happened before) is disgusting. Seek help.
- Gatekeeping isn’t a personality trait
- Oppression isn’t a competition so quit acting as such
SiZhui: I want to hear those three little words.
JingYi: I love you 🥰.
SiZhui: That’s sweet, but try again.
JingYi: Fine, I will behave.
Like or reblog if you safe/use.
Like or reblog if you save/use
⚠️ TW | talking about panic attacks, anxiety, touching upon the situation ⚠️
[ there’s a keep reading where i talk about the situation so no one accidentally reads it ]
you’re going to be okay. this will pass. take care of yourself. he isn’t worth you panicking over.
look around the room you’re currently in.
find five things that you can see. focus on them. ground yourself.
find four things that you can touch. touch them. slow your breathing and your thoughts.
find three things that you can hear. shut your eyes and listen to them. the birds chirping, the vacuum cleaner, anything.
find two things that you can smell. even if it’s the smell of a garbage can, it’ll help. walk around, and find your smells. identify them, and focus on them. clear your mind.
find one thing that you like to taste. if you have it, go eat it.
take one more deep breath. you’re going to be okay. go get a sip of water. go take a walk outside and clear your mind. take care of yourself. you’re going to be okay.
Lan QiRen: Has anyone seen Wei Ying?
Wei WuXian, lying facedown on the floor: Present.
SiZhui: You’re forcing my mom side to come out. You’re grounded.
SiZhui: You have to sleep in your own bed for a week.
Lan JingYi, noticing Jin Ling is sad: Do you want a hug?
Jin Ling: No.
Lan JingYi: Did you heard what I said?
Jin Ling: Yes..?
Lan JingYi: What did I said?
Jin Ling: “Do you want a hug?”
Lan JingYi: Well if you insist.
Cable guy comes
Cable guy: How old is your baby?
Taeyong: That’s mark, he’s 21.
Kun: It’s Yang yang, Renjun hit him.
SiZhui: So, Xian gege send this letter.
ZiZhen: What does it’s said?
SiZhui: Umm, breath if you think A-Yuan is cute.
The juniors: *starts hyperventilating*
JingYi: SiZhui, can I ask you something?
SiZhui: *confused screeching between mom mode and boyfriend mode*
People, please be careful. There are also people tracking children and people and putting bids on them based on their profile pictures on whatsapp, tracking and kidnapping them. Especially young children, so please be cautious, especially parents who have their children as their profile pictures.
Please pass this on to everyone so that they are aware of the danger. I don’t how it is all around the world but I know it can’t just be here so please please spread the word. Thank you.
oh my god
I HAVE BEEN GETTING THIS TEXT REGULARLY FOR WEEKS
HOLY SHIT THANK GOD I DIDN’T
I’ve gotten a few of these. Never ever click a link from an unknown number!!!
oh yeahhhh, I saw that on snapchat. it’s been freakin’ EVERYWHERE lately. i haven’t been getting the text, luckily, but im still extremely cautious about it. shit’s scary.
not just girls, but boys and other genders have to be careful as well. this could happen to anyone. please be safe, my friends <3
FOR ALL THE YOUNGER PEOPLE THAT FOLLOW. YOU GUYS ARE SMART. YOU KNOW THIS. BUT JUST IN CASE THERE ARE SOME WHO MIGHT NOT. THAT DOESN’T MAKE YOU NOT SMART, PERHAPS JUST LESS INFORMED.
DO NOT CLICK LINKS IN TEXTS EVER. GO TO ACTUAL WEBSITES FOR ONES YOU RECOGNIZE AND TYPE IN THE URL. OR A BOOKMARK IF YOU HAVE ONE. DON’T CLICK LINKS IN TEXTS AND SOCIAL MEDIA MESSAGES/DMS AND EMAILS. EVEN IF YOU KNOW THE PERSON. TAKE EXTREME CAUTION.
IF YOU’RE GUTS SAYS EH WOULDN’T DO THAT BUDDY. LISTEN.
ALSO SIGNAL BOOST THE HELL OUT OF THIS
I DON’T CARE WHAT YOUR BLOG THEME IS!! REPOST THIS TO SAVE A LIFE!!
JingYi: Are we friends SiZhui?
SiZhui: A-Yi we’re married.
JingYi: Dianxia, don’t pause like that. You scared me.
SiZhui: This is our wedding reception, A-Yi. Please.
Of fucking course
What sick bastard doesn’t
“You’d be surprised”, said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely “men can’t be raped” anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.
If I don’t reblog this, assume I’m dead.
Always reblog this
If you Dont reblog this if u see it then i cant call u my friend
IF ANYONE TELLS ME THAT MEN CAN’T BE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND RAPE, I AM SICKENED BY THEIR MERE PRESENCE ON MY BLOG.
If you disagree with me, unfollow my blog, block me and never look at my blog again.
If you want to debate about this or send anon’s about this, I will reply but your actions have consequences.
Out of 19000+ followers I have, only one of you actually reblogged about this issue, yet a lot of you have reblogged and liked a picture by playboy about catcalling and that how men should never do it.
Additionally, I have received abuse in my ask box (which I will be answering when I can) and threats. In particular death threats and rape threats.
I can see the real problem here already. Male domestic violence and rape is just invisible in our society because we don’t want to talk about this because it just damages the status quo of this fucking website.
I’m a male victim of child sexual abuse. We matter. Please, reblog this.
Please never forget male victims are real and it can happen to everyone/anyone
Make sure the romance is there on both sides people
Male victims are REAL
Protecting our sons
I SHALL NEVER STOP REBLOGING THIS WHEN I SEE IT.
Who does not?!?!?!
so i want to talk for a minute about why it’s so important that you reblog fics on tumblr (yes, i know there’s a problem with art too but this is specifically about fics today)
first of all, let me kick this off by saying, if you’re reading this, this is for you specifically. yes, you with less than a hundred followers, you with less than ten followers, you with zero followers. there seems to be this misconception that it doesn’t matter if you don’t reblog something because no one will see it and i’m telling you right here, right now, that you’re wrong. it definitely 100% matters and i’m going to tell you why
last month, i reached a follower milestone and was very excited - for about a day and a half and then my excitement plummeted because what i realized was that i had just hit this milestone and yet the number of notes on my fics had never been lower. at first i was baffled. how could i have more followers than ever but be getting less notes than i used to? at the time, i was posting one to two ficlets every day so i thought maybe the quality was decreasing because of how much i was putting out and i just hadn’t noticed so i decided to take a break from posting ficlets and focused on my longer works and the events i was participating in
i went back to posting today after asking for prompts from followers yesterday and go figure, the number of notes is still lower than it was compared to posts from the beginning of the year, even factoring in the time that’s passed since then. so then i thought to check the notes themselves and what i ended up finding was that while the number of likes hadn’t changed, the reblogs had (interestingly, this drop in notes coincided with a post making the rounds telling writers to be happy with the silent readers who leave neither likes nor reblogs on works but that’s a story for another post)
this is when i went to a couple friends to complain that i didn’t know what i was doing wrong and made an off-hand comment about wondering if people were seeing all these posts begging for people to reblog and just not thinking it applied to them, which is when may - thank you, may - told me that yeah, that’s exactly what a lot of blogs think so let me tell you why it does actually matter that you reblog, even if you don’t think it does
firstly, as it relates just to the author, when you reblog, you’re telling the author that not only did you like their story, but you want to share it with everyone else too. i don’t know an author out there who doesn’t go through the reblogs and read the tags and i can pretty much guarantee that we all get that warm, fuzzy feeling when someone leaves a particularly nice tag
there are two common arguments that i hear for this point: what if i like something cringey and why does it matter if i reblog something when i don’t have any followers to share it with?
as for the first argument, no media is unproblematic and no media is something that everyone will consider non-cringey. there’s always going to be someone out there who thinks your chosen fandom is cringey and it’s best to realize that now and get over it. you can’t please everyone. besides, it’s your blog. why wouldn’t you want to post things you like on your blog?
as for the second argument, if it’s not enough for you that even just the act of wanting to share fics means something to the authors, then let me bring you to my second point: fandom is built on active, not passive, participation
we’ve all heard stories about the star trek fans who actively passed paper copies of fic around to share it with people. fandom was built on sharing those fics. friendships were built on sharing those fics. and if those fans had taken the fics they wrote and hidden them away, shared them with only a couple friends and told them not to distribute their works, modern fandom as it is today wouldn’t exist. we’d still be hiding our fics, hoping that we don’t get the all-terrifying dmca notice
along the same lines, tumblr is built on active participation. every couple of months, it seems like tumblr comes out with a new way to make it harder for content creators to share their stuff: the 2018 nsfk ban, shadow-banning, problems with the read more, and recently not being able to put links in your work if you want it to show up in the tags. all of this means that it’s up to us to keep fandom on tumblr going because tumblr isn’t going to do it for us
tumblr’s algorithm, unlike just about every other social media site, is designed around reblogs. this, in many ways, makes sense. tumblr is a blogging platform so of course its algorithm is designed around what gets shared. this means that posts that show up in the tags are the ones that get reblogged. the posts that show up in the On Your Dashboard, What You Missed, and Recommended features are all the ones that get reblogged. the posts that show up on the login screen, for those of you who regularly see it, are the ones that get, you guessed it, reblogged
so what that means is that, even though you might have only a couple or even no followers, your reblog counts toward that algorithm and that post gets bumped a little bit higher in the tag
which is why it’s such a big problem when people stop reblogging. i can’t tell you how many times i’ve seen a tag saying something along the lines of “wow this is so good, why doesn’t it have more notes?” well, typically it’s because anywhere between 2/3 and ¾ of the notes on that post are likes, which means that tumblr’s algorithm counted my fic as worthless and didn’t bother promoting it
which leaves me where i currently am: reblogging my own ficlets over and over in the hopes that someone will like it enough to reblog it, tagging it with something as pleading as “if you like please consider reblogging” because if i use anything stronger, i get a whole bunch of people telling me that i can’t tell people what to post
no, you’re right, i can’t tell you what to post. the most i can do is beg and explain yet again why every reblog counts
JingYi: I’m going to do a handstand!!
SiZhui: A-Yi you don’t tie your-
JingYi: *falls to the floor* I’m ok.
Jin Ling: JingYi can you get me a drink?
Lan JingYi: Sure, what do you want?
Jin Ling: Something as dark as my unforgiving soul.
Lan JingYi: *carries a glass of milk*
Jin Ling: I feel insulted.
Lan JingYi: You should.