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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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How to write about Grief:
There is no right or wrong way to experience grief. Just as there is no right or wrong way to write it. Everyone is different, each set of circumstances are different. 
The point of this post is to show you how different people react in different ways, and give points on how you might write that, depending on your character and story.
Reactions to Grief
Numbness: Your character may go into auto-pilot and be unable to process the events that have unfolded.
Anger: This can be aimed at other people, at a Higher Being, or at nothing in particular.
Unsteady: Your characters may be unsteady. For example, unable to stop their voice from shaking or they may find it difficult to stand.
Focusing on Others: Your character may disregard their own feelings because they are so overwhelmed and instead concentrate on someone else’s well-being. 
Seek out routines: Amid upheavals, your character may seek comfort in tasks that are familiar and “safe,” such as working, cleaning, making their bed, making absurd amounts of tea or taking a morning walk.
Pretending that Everything Is Okay: Grief is viewed as an emotion that should cease or be concealed once the funeral is over. So people mention the news in an offhand comment, then talk and laugh as if all is right with the world.
Denial: Some people deny the reality of death and convince themselves that the news is a joke or can’t be true.
Reactions from people surrounding your character:
People may avoid your character as they do not know what to say or simply can’t find the right words.
Some may even go as far as to cross the street when they notice your character approaching.
Even people that the character has known for years may act strange or standoff-ish, simply because they don’t know what to say.
On the other side of that, some people may be overly helpful and friendly.
It is not uncommon for estranged friends, family or others to suddenly reappear in a person’s life after they have experienced grief. 
Either because those people want to offer their support and love  or because they’re being nosy and they want to be kept up to date on the “drama”.
Most people will move on from the event fairly quickly if they weren’t emotionally invested. 
Some people may even get annoyed at your character for still being upset weeks or months later.
When talking about the person they have lost:
Your character may recall a memory or tell a story about their loved one, these are possible reactions. (I have encountered all of them.)
Your character may being to cry or get upset at the thought of the person they have lost. 
The person they are talking to may become awkward and avert eye contact when your character brings up the person they have lost. 
Others may ask or tell your character to stop talking about the person they have lost. They may roll their eyes, cough awkwardly, or cut off your character mid sentences so that they can change the subject.
Some people may ask inappropriate questions about the circumstances in which the character’s loved one passed away. Depending on the personality of your character then may react differently. 
Other things to note:
Grief is not constrained by time. 
One of the main problems with grief in fiction is that a character is typically heartbroken for a couple scenes and then happy again. But grief does not evaporate because the world needs saving. 
Allow your character to wrestle with their grief. 
Your character may feel guilty. Your character may feel a twinge of guilt when they laugh or have a good time with someone else; when they do something to remind them that they’re alive, and their loved one isn’t. 
Grief is a game changer. A previously outgoing character may withdraw and isolate themselves. Some people may take grief and/or bereavement as a sign that life is too short; they may make big decisions in an attempt to make themselves feel better and grow away from their pain.
Sometimes grief can help you find your purpose.
At first grief can be all consuming. It hurts and you can’t really control it. It may seem unrelenting. Eventually the grief will become easier to deal with, your character may find the days to be better, but that doesn’t mean that when the grief hits it doesn’t hurt any less.
For most people, grief never really goes away. “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to how they used to be.”
It is rare that a person will ever give a long speech about their feelings, a lot of people struggle to even find the words. But that’s okay. Show the reader how your character feels, rather than just telling them.
Don’t pause the plot to deal with the aspect of grief. This could overwhelm the readers and drag the pace down. In reality, life doesn’t just stop due to grief, the world keeps spinning and things still need to be done. Use the character’s grief as a backdrop for the story’s events.  
Yes, grief affects the character’s day-to-day life, goals, and relationships. But it shouldn’t drive readers away or stagnate the story. Instead, should engage readers and produce empathy that keeps them turning pages.
You don’t need to tell your readers that everything will be fine. You don’t need to provide all of the answers.
“Skirting grief and treating it lightly is easy. But by realistically portraying it through a variety of responses and its lasting effects on the character’s life, readers will form a connection with your characters.“
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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*listens to ur heart with a stethoscope* *takes ur temperature* *flashes a light in ur eyes* yep…. it’s exactly as i expected…. ur really cute….. *writes a prescription for lots of kisses*
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Comfort-ish Dialogue Starters
”I won’t let you die.”
”How are you feeling?”
”How’s the arm?”
”I’m trying really hard not to say I told you so.”
”You’re acting like you want to die.”
”I can’t lose you.”
”Focus on my voice.”
”Just keep breathing.”
”It’ll be alright.”
”Remember when we were young?”
”I never thought I could care for someone like this, but then I met you.”
”Squeeze my hand.”
”Don’t look down.”
”You’re going to be fine, trust me.”
”I’m going to get you out of here.”
”They can’t hurt you any more.”
”I got you.”
”Keep your eyes shut.”
”Stay awake.”
”Don’t do this to me, please!”
”I’m begging you!”
”I vividly remember telling you that this was a bad idea.”
”Maybe next time we’ll do it my way?”
”When will you learn?”
”Hey, I’m not the one injured right now.”
”Who did this to you?”
”I’m going to kill them.”
”Don’t give up on me! Fight, goddamnit!”
”We need to get you into a hospital.”
”I have to stop the bleeding.”
”Did it ever occur to you that maybe we don’t want to see you get hurt?”
”You may feel like you have nothing to lose, but I don’t want to lose you!”
”What is it going to take for you to realize you’re not bullet proof?”
”I can’t do this on my own.”
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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&. SOFT ANGST STARTERS.
“please look at me.”
“is s/he really just a friend?”
“i’m just disappointed.”
“you know i’m not like that.”
“don’t give me space. that’s the last thing i want with you.”
“i know you still love me.”
“i can’t think straight with you.”
“why are you so stubborn?”
“don’t do this here.”
“trust me on this.”
“please don’t misunderstand me.”
“you… you never had a problem with it before.”
“i know i shouldn’t be here.”
“what do you mean by that?”
“you deserve more.”
“can you just kiss me? one last time? that’s all i ask.”
“i’m scared.”
“i swear i’ll do things different this time.”
“s/he’s beautiful. i hope s/he makes you happy.”
“i want to believe you, i do.”
“not everyone is going to hurt you.”
“i’m… i’m trying. i really am.”
“i can’t sleep.”
“how long will this go on for?”
“can i hug you?”
“do you ever mean the things you say?”
“you won’t understand.”
“you’re making me think that what they told me about you was right.”
“am i too late?”
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Some good things about injury-based whump
Injuries that are so overwhelming the person can’t focus (esp in a still dangerous situation)
Injuries so painful/severe they cause fainting
Injuries so painful the person pukes
Dizziness/weakness from blood loss
Fresh injuries that keep getting aggravated too much to heal
Old injuries that start acting up
Injuries that looked to be healing but then got infected
Setting/resetting broken bones (especially in a makeshift setting without proper medical supplies or personnel)
Deep bruises that ache to the touch and take weeks to heal
Broken ribs that make it hurt to breathe, especially while you’re running away from danger
Trying to “power through” the pain, only to end up making the injury worse
Someone hurt struggling to take care of someone more hurt
Tasting blood and hoping it’s from a bitten lip and not a lacerated organ
A character concealing an injury they don’t think is that serious until they collapse because it actually is
Lingering weakness or pain even after the main period of recovery
Even better, lingering fear of whatever caused the injury
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Winter brings so many great whump tropes to the table.
Getting lost in the middle of a big snowstorm, snow so thick you can hardly see infront of you.
Going ice skating and the ice cracks, plumetting the whumpee into the freezing water below.
Hypothermia from falling into freezing water/getting lost in the snow.
Crimson blood staining the fresh white snow.
Foot prints the whumpee left clearly visable as they escape.
Foot prints being covered up as the whumpee runs awah into the snow.
A being able to see just how fast/slow/labored B’s breathing is.
Spending the holidays alone. Weather its locked away somewhere after being kidnapped, or the whumpee isolates themselves.
Its cold and flu season, enough said.
Feel free to add anything i missed.
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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domestic things I particularly love in sickfics
pressing a hand to their forehead to check if they have a temperature
pressing the back of their fingers to their cheek to check if they have a temperature
cuddles + hair stroking
even though it’s technically not a scientifically sound thing, characters getting sick from not wearing enough layers or getting caught in the rain
along those lines, one of the character’s who’s soaked through or shivering starts to sneeze a couple times, and their s/o just panicking a little and starting to fuss over them, wrapping them up in blankets and sitting them down in front of the fire and monitoring them to see if they’re symptoms get worse
the character being so sick and out of it that they can’t walk by themselves, and they have to be supported or carried
the character just looking like the poster of a sick person - pale face, flushed cheeks, bags under their eyes, blankets wrapped up to their neck, and a thermometer under their tongue
the sickie insisting that their s/o goes to work but the s/o refuses to leave their side
anxious hovering caretakers
the sickie having a coughing fit so hard that they sway and almost fall over and their friend/family member/partner has to steady them
the sickie waking up from a feverish sleep, expecting their s/o to be gone, only to find them asleep on a chair at their bedside
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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y’know what whump trope i love?
the caretaker seeing the extent of the whumpee’s injuries, and knowing that they’re dying, but lying to them. 
about the severity of their injuries…
“you’ll be okay”
“you’re not hurt that badly”
“help is coming”
“shh, it’s only a scratch”
“just breathe, you’re going to be fine”
“it’s just a minor injury”
“the ambulance will be here any minute”
about family members or friends…
“yes, she made it out okay”
“mom’s here, and she loves you”
“don’t worry, he’s being treated right now”
“your brother has always loved you, he just wasn’t that good at showing it”
about how the battle turned out…
“we won the fight”
“the villain is dead”
“you fought amazingly”
“they’re gone for good, and they’re not coming back”
“everything is alright; the battle is over”
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Mental Illnesses {Sentence Starters}
[both things said from someone with a mental illness and to someone with a mental illness; trigger warnings for suicide, depression, eating disorder, and self harm mentions]
❛❛ I don’t want to eat. ❜❜
❛❛ Stop trying to fix me. I can’t be fixed! ❜❜ 
❛❛ Can I have a hug? ❜❜
❛❛ I’m sorry… I’m sorry I’m like this. ❜❜
❛❛ I don’t want to die, but I don’t want to live either… I just wish I didn’t exist. ❜❜
❛❛ My room’s a mess because I have no energy. Not because I’m lazy. ❜❜
❛❛ I’m tired. I’m so tired and I don’t want to do this anymore. ❜❜
❛❛ If I pay you, will you kill me? ❜❜
❛❛ I didn’t mean to get blood on the floor… ❜❜
❛❛ I want you to take my razors and hide them. Don’t tell me where you put them no matter what, okay? ❜❜
❛❛ I can’t… can’t breathe, c-can’t… ❜❜
❛❛ No one would miss me if I was gone. ❜❜
❛❛ No, thanks. I’m not hungry. ❜❜
❛❛ Please give me permission to end it. Please. ❜❜
❛❛ It’s no big deal. Just cat scratches. ❜❜
❛❛ You’re the only reason I’m still here. ❜❜
❛❛ I’m too scared! ❜❜
❛❛ I just want to feel normal for once. ❜❜
❛❛ My therapist isn’t helping me. I don’t know what to do. ❜❜
❛❛ Give me three reasons why life is worth living. ❜❜
❛❛ Don’t make me get out of bed. I don’t want to move ever again. ❜❜
❛❛ You’re not alone in this. ❜❜ 
❛❛ You’re important to me. ❜❜ 
❛❛ Just breathe. Breathe. I’m here, it’s okay. ❜❜ 
❛❛ Here, let me do that for you. Go rest. ❜❜ 
❛❛ You are not going crazy. ❜❜ 
❛❛ We are not on this earth to see through one another, but to see one another through. ❜❜
❛❛  I know how hard it is for you to find the energy lately, so I made supper for you instead. ❜❜
❛❛ When all this is over, I’ll still be here and so will you. ❜❜
❛❛ If you need to cry, then cry. It’s okay. I’m here. ❜❜
❛❛ I can’t really understand what you are feeling, but I can offer my compassion. ❜❜
❛❛ Please eat. Even if it’s just a little. ❜❜
❛❛ Tell me what you need. ❜❜
❛❛ I’m not going to leave you or abandon you. ❜❜
❛❛ Please, if you stay alive for anyone or anything, let it be for me. I need you. ❜❜
❛❛ I am going to take care of myself, so you don’t need to worry that your pain might hurt me. I want to be here for you. ❜❜
❛❛ This is not your fault. ❜❜
❛❛ You don’t have to apologise. I’m not angry, I promise. ❜❜
❛❛ You can do this. I believe in you. ❜❜
❛❛ What kind of thoughts are you having? ❜❜
❛❛ I love you. ❜❜
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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hospital themed starters
“ stop messing with your IV. ”
“ hey there - you gave me quite a scare. ”
“ this IV itches. ”
“ i think my nurse is trying to kill me. ”
“ i don’t want to have another surgery. ”
“ i’m tired of laying here in this stupid bed. ”
“ this medicine makes me feel so out of it. ”
“ i just want to go home. ”
“ i’m not leaving this room. ”
“ i feel so tired all the time. ”
“ i’m pretty sure this place is haunted. ”
“ i keep telling them i’m fine. i can go home! ”
“ you’re not fine. you need to rest. ”
“ it’s just a few more days, then i’ll take you home. ”
“ will you stop playing with the bed settings? ”
“ they said i might need another surgery. ”
“ the doctor said it could be worse. ”
“ the doctors are still running some tests. ”
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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How to Self Rescue in the Event you Fall Through Frozen Ice
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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A vampire being locked in a room with their loved one. Their loved one is taken care of perfectly. They’re given food three times a day and as much water as they want. They cuddle. They kiss. The vampire tells them it’s okay and that they’ll get out and everything will be fine. The loved one nods. 
They both know it’s not true though. There’s no way out. They’ve tried every single way. They’re completely trapped and it doesn’t matter how well the human has been taken care of. 
The vampire hasn’t been given a single drop to drink. Their eyes are already turning dark. They’re looking like more and more like a monster every day as they become more desperate for blood.
Eventually, they don’t cuddle anymore. The vampire sits, hugging themselves on the other side of the room, trying not to breath in a single breath of their human’s scent. 
It doesn’t matter how hard they try. It doesn’t matter how long they make it. They both know what’s going to happen. 
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Whumptober #12: “Don’t Move.”
“Don’t move.”
The carer says as they stitch Up A’s Wound
Says the torturer who is going to get another instrument (though A cannot even move due to their injuries)
Says the torturer as a commotion can be heard outside of the room. 
Says A to B while B is stood in the middle of a minefield / a movement triggered trap
Orders A to B while A is rushing off out of the room to face the bad guys.
The carer says to the now waking up whumpee.
The torturer bellows in A’s face, as A’s body trembles with the exhaustion of being forced to stand. 
The police order A as they’ve been caught for a crime they didn’t commit (perhaps they were in the wrong place at the wrong time.)
The torturer whispers while holding a knife close to the whumpees eye.
The hero says finally, their gun trained on the bad guy at the end of the fight. They’re bleeding from multiple wounds and are favoring their left leg, but the fight is over and finally, finally, the whumpee can arrest the bad guy and get some rest. 
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Let’s talk about drowning.
Because drowning - or at least, almost drowning - is one of my favourite tropes. There’s so much you can do with it. 
Whumpee isn’t able to swim/can’t swim well and is struggling in vain against being dragged under. 
Alternatively, they’re being held under by someone and are struggling to escape. 
Alternatively alternatively, they’re wounded and it’s making it difficult to move/fight to the surface. 
Their panic at first, and then slowly becoming at peace as they run out of air. 
Rescue! 
Caretaker dragging the whumpee to the surface.
Whumpee unconscious, looking bedraggled and pathetic cos they’re soaking. 
Can throw in some mouth to mouth if that’s your thing. 
When they start to wake up they’re coughing and gasping and spewing water everywhere. 
SHIVERING! 
I love shivering whumpees, and being dragged from water is bound to make them shiver. 
The Caretaker hugging them to keep them warm. 
The whumpee shaking under a blanket, soaking wet. 
I just… drowning fics man. I love them. 
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Whump Writing Cheats
Want to write whump? Not sure how to get started? Here are a few whump writing cheats that make things easier! Feel free to add your cheats in reblogs!
Whumpee waking up. Has the character been drugged, beaned over the head, collapsed from exhaustion, does it matter? No one needs to know how, just what happens next! Have that whumpee regain consciousness dazed and confused, already tied up, and dive right in homies. 
Blindfolds. Not only are blindfolds lovely, but they remove the main sensory input for you to describe. Not sure who your whumper is? Blindfold. Not even sure where they are? Blindfold. This lets you focus on only dialog and touch descriptions and avoid the temptation to over describe visuals. 
Gags. Not sure what your whumpee would say? Can’t think of any witty comebacks? Gag ‘em. 
Start with Dialogue: “You look so peaceful when you’re sleeping…” “Hello, my dear.” “Have you missed me?” - Starting with dialogue lets you hook readers asap and helps get you over that ‘opening line’ road block. 
End on Dialogue: “We’re going to have so much fun together.” “Oh, how I’ve missed you pet.” “We are just getting started.”- Same as before, ending with some nicely worded dialogue leaves us hanging on the edge of our seats, aching for more! Perfect for when you don’t know where to go next!
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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Whump in the rain
I’m just in a really rainy, wet, whumpy state of mind, ya feel?
Give me slipping over mossy rocks, grazed palms, sprained ankles.
Give me whumpees dragged through mud, fast breathing, lying on their backs as heavy droplets hit their face.
Give me cracks of thunder swallowing desperate screams, swelling riverbanks, choppy seas.
Give me hammering sheets against the roof of a car, safe for now, but for how much longer?
Give me splashing footfalls in dim streetlight, worried caretakers and Where are you?
Give me tied down and struggling, trapped in the elements, thin clothes clinging to soaked skin.
Give me freezing skin and watery blood and Don’t you dare, don’t you dare die on me.
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mypoorfaves · 3 years
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I'm going to die.
Four underrated whump words. Words uttered- or maybe only thought- after a whumpee has been kidnapped. No matter what they seem to do, fight or comply, deny or oblige, they can't get the whumper to even consider letting them live.
They're panicked. This is all happening so suddenly, I'm tied up and this person has a knife--
And then the striking reality hits them.
They're not walking out of here alive.
They never get to finish that book. Never follow through with those weekend plans. Never live to accomplish their goals.
It hits them all at once. Out of nowhere, a timer is put on their lifespan and it's running out.
They freeze. Tears prick at the corners of their eyes. There's this lump in their throat and they can't seem to swallow it. The weight of everything they never apologized for pressing down on their shoulders. It's truly a crippling realization.
I'm going to die.
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