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nelvana · 3 hours
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just a reminder that BetterHelp is selling your fucking data and that they themselves have said at industry meetings that they're a data-driven company more than a people-driven company
It feels like for a while in there that people were dropping them as a sponsor but now that the controversy has slightly dimmed there are so many ads for them again; do not give them your information, do not give them your money
I know insurance is a pain in the ass and mental health treatments cost too much out of pocket for most people. So do they, that's why they're making this little bait and switch operation. Helping people is, at best, a side product of their data harvesting, and at worst just a trick to lure people in.
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nelvana · 3 hours
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I respect neopronouns and even played a bit with them myself back in the day but I also think I need a pronunciation guide for some of them
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nelvana · 3 hours
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nelvana · 4 hours
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guy who has chronic pain and fatigue: man why can't i do more stuff
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nelvana · 4 hours
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haaaate how every website has a "Need help? I can give you misinformation" AI button now
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nelvana · 4 hours
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the firsteth rule of alchemy is to hath fun and beeth thy truest self. the secondeth rule is to think with thine pussy
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nelvana · 4 hours
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TODAY IS A HOLY DAY
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nelvana · 4 hours
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genuinely sincerely think people need to be more normal about nudity in nonsexual contexts. take a figure drawing class its good for you
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nelvana · 5 hours
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The One Who Holds My Ibeprofen
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nelvana · 5 hours
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carbon monoxide
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nelvana · 6 hours
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angel waiting at the bus stop will soon find that, freshly fallen from a higher dimension, it does not have any money for the fare, and its divine oddity will shock and blind the driver and passengers, but will not count towards any actual payment
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nelvana · 6 hours
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Takes a special kind of gentle
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nelvana · 6 hours
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Wake up babe. Time for your annual gecko depression art.
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nelvana · 6 hours
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Sleepy Eepy Mareepy
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nelvana · 6 hours
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nelvana · 7 hours
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MASKING MYTHS BUSTED: “Masking = Acting NT.”
FALSE.
Autistic masking does not necessarily mean “pretending to be allistic/neurotypical," although you’d definitely be forgiven for thinking it does.
Non-autistic researchers have been referring to it as “camouflaging” for years, framing it as an intentional choice to suppress autistic traits and replace them with allistic ones in order to “blend in.” Doing an internet search on the term will return several similar results.
But now, Autistic researchers are in the game, and their take is much more nuanced and comprehensive than that. (Funny how that happens, isn’t it?)
They’ve found that:
- It CAN be intentional but is often subconscious and involuntary 
- It is a protective response to trauma and feeling unsafe 
- It is often about suppressing more than just autistic traits 
- It is about identity management and being able to predict how people will treat you, not just “blending in”
Some people will lean into being “the bad kid” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Some people will even act “more autistic” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Others still will do things to attract attention in controllable, more “acceptable” ways to avoid attracting attention in unsafe, more stigmatizing ways. Not because they WANT to be that way, but because it lets them predict people’s responses better, which feels safer.
Also, there are Autistic people who can’t “pass” for non-autistic no matter how hard they try. That doesn’t mean they’re not masking. They may actually be working hard to suppress A LOT, they just can’t do everything to neuronormative standards.
None of these people will be accused of “blending in,” yet they are still masking their hearts out. When we assume they are not, we miss all the harm that masking is causing them. But they are suppressing themselves and suffering the consequences of that just as much as any Autistic person whose mask successfully says, “Hey, I’m just like you!”
(For more on this, please see the work of Dr. Amy Pearson and Kieran Rose.)
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