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#abbott elementary

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When you get this, please respond with five things that make you happy~! Then, send to the last ten people in your notifications anonymously. You never know who might benefit from spreading positivity~!

I'm having a rough few days and gratitude journaling type stuff can be triggering of some of my mental illness particulars, but I'm drinking a really really good cup of coffee right now so we may have lucked out and found a this-works-for-me window!

this cup of coffee

the song I'm listening to right now (In the Name of Love by Jacob Banks)

the thing I'm gonna hang up on my wall tomorrow when it's socially acceptable to make hammer noises

dipping cheese-covered matzo in peach pineapple salsa

that you anon thought to send this to me <3

Dev Patel

#<333 #fandom friends

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#🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 #dev patel #monkey man

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While you were eating dates in Babylonia, I studied the bl…Torah

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Do you think that dog is still waiting for Dev Patel to come back 🥺

#noooooooo 😭 #wait hang on this is what happened #sita escaped with hmm shall we say a hefty severance package #she took the dog with her and now they live somewhere beautiful and peaceful #monkey man

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#django #<- DJANGO

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When your partner has a praise kink but you're Montessori trained so you know that praise is an ineffective way to encourage development and it's much more productive to acknowledge their effort so that they learn to effectively give themselves feedback so they can develop a healthy intrinsic motivation instead of deriving their self worth from labels put on them by other people .... "baby it's amazing how much you could last today compared to last week"

#the way i bark-laughed #fic ideas #tagging it that in the hopes that it gives me fic ideas

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Amaury the chocolate guy has done it again

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#hell yes you did it!!!!!

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Happy

#happy hops and tippy taps!!! #kitty

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#what fun if this could work but alas #corporations and individuals who are landlords bc it's a way to extract capital would just... stop doing it #not as in stop extracting capital #as in stop being landlords #capitalism incentivizes activities that produce capital whether or not they meet human needs #it's a system hostile to meeting human needs in ways that don't also produce capital #so while this is a delightful joke post #as a standalone policy it would just create even more homelessness than the crisis we already have #(at least in the us where i'm familiar with the revolting details of the housing shortage) #something like this would need to be in concert with a lot of other things like robust public housing #and ways of covering the high up-front costs of building new housing without earmarking most new units for the highest rent brackets #if only our economic system allowed us to simply build more housing bc people need housing #SIGH #things that make me want to burn it all down and start from scratch #except for how that would um well create more of a housing shortage #thanks for coming to my ted talk?

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Let's Talk About Missing Persons

So, I've seen this post circulating last week, and a few others like it in the past year. I think this probably needs to be discussed every few years, and it feels like time.

First, a few caveats: there are reports on the post that Abby has been located and is fine, so no need to reblog and also that's great news, I'm very happy she is safe. Second, I did not especially doubt the veracity of the post, so I'm not impugning the people who made and posted it, but I also declined to reblog it for reasons I'll get into. Third, I know that especially in marginalized communities it can be dangerous to involve the police, and that Missing White Woman Syndrome means it can be difficult to get media coverage. I understand why Abby's community may have chosen to search for her in the way they did.

However, for everyone's safety, I do not link any missing persons post that requires you to contact an individual to report the missing person's whereabouts. If the poster doesn't ask you to contact the police or a known missing persons organization, I won't do it.

This is for the safety of the missing person.

When you see a post with someone's photo, name, and last known whereabouts, and you are asked to contact an individual -- a family member, partner, friend, etc -- what you are being asked to do is report on the whereabouts of one person you don't know to another person you don't know. You don't know that the person you're talking to isn't an abusive partner or parent, a stalker, or a person who means them material harm. One of the Insta accounts in the missing image doesn't appear to exist, and another has no bio and very little captioning on their images. I couldn't verify that Abby even knew these people.

Again: when I looked at the image, it looked sincere to me. I didn't doubt those people were earnestly searching for a friend they were worried about. But also, an abuser doesn't look like an abuser until they do. So I don't make exceptions, because a missing person is missing but a victim outed to their abuser has strong odds of being murdered. The most dangerous time in the life of an abused person is when they are leaving their abuser. Even if a victim simply logs on to say "Hey, I'm fine, these people mean me harm" the abuser has now flushed them out of hiding, and manipulated them into making a public statement.

If you can't verify positively that the person searching does not mean the missing person harm, you should not be circulating a post, full stop. At the very least, if the community doesn't wish for the help of the police (understandable) or can't get the help of an organization or community (frequent), the missing persons poster should advise you to speak to the missing person, not the searcher, and notify them they're being sought, as long as it's safe for both you and them to do so.

This isn't intuitive. We want to help, and search posters like that tug on the heartstrings. We know that when the police get involved even in something this innocuous, it can be perilous for everyone. But in situations where someone is so vulnerable, we have to concern ourselves first with harm reduction, which in this case means not spreading someone's photo with a stranger's contact information on it.

I'm glad Abby was found and is fine and that her searchers were in earnest. But that will not always be the case, and it's important to remember that.

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Syd, why'd you tear Fenway?

#i LOVE Marcus comment here avsjdke #<- SAME #the bear

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Saw this on a door at work.

#fdkjslajf;asd #les mis

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call!

#NILE #nile freeman #tog

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a wikipedia poem on software entropy

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fotos of pets in buenos aires that i forgot i'd taken, 2022

#kitty