nobleelfwarrior

[nobleelfwarrior]

What a surprise… the overly moral, opinionated person is a paladin…

I was expecting anything but not Bard

#dnd class #dnd #dnd quiz #paladin #then ranger and wizard

[nobleelfwarrior]

She is scary.

No!!! Nobody understands. Mary Ann Skuttle is not uncaring and rude, or cute and sweet, OR terrifying and threatening. She's just autistic!!!! She's autistic, man. All of these things about her are autistic traits. She didn't do fucking nothing. Neutral/monotone voice? Speaking literally, asking direct questions, not knowing how to talk to people, not being keen on hanging out, not knowing what someone wants when they're being vague about it? Not uncaring, not rude, she's just autistic. Having certain interests that she focuses on more than anything else, (semi-canonically) eating the same things every day, being good at certain things, not knowing stuff? She's not "special", she's not CUTE, she's not "quirky", SHES NOT CREEPY OR THREATENING, SHES AUTISTIC. It's not "freaky" or "aggravating" to not have tone in your voice or to not converse very much, it's not "cute" or "silly" to have plush toys. She's never hurt anyone, she's never done fucking anything except exist. I'm gonna be honest, I'm kind of sick of this!! Mary Ann is not a "quirky" accessory to add to a crew, she's not a freaky little villain, she's not an annoying joke. Even for a fictional character this is shit treatment.

#not on purpose #but she did through gorging 50ft #riz almost died #dimension 20 #fantasy high #fantasy high junior year #fhjy

[nobleelfwarrior]

radfems reblog this if it’s okay to inbox you for a casual chat sometimes. I need more friends on here, I’ve had a radfem blog for like 6 months but haven’t made any acquaintances really

[nobleelfwarrior]

I’m glad you’re ok. And I believe in you! Just remember to take chances and see where they take you.

Hey, you good? You’ve been posting a lot all at once about your social difficulties and I want to make sure you’re ok. I’m open to dming if you want

Thank you for checking in! I appreciate it.

I’m good, I’ve just been frustrated recently, especially with dealing with my family (including extended family)… It was my uncle’s birthday yesterday, and he’s largely responsible for my Grama’s death (I was very close with my Grama), which did not help my mood. And usually my brother reassures me that I’m not crazy when dealing with our family, but he was away for a month, or I talk to my friend about it, but she’s been even busier than usual lately trying to leave her terrible workplace.

I’ve also been getting ready for my master’s program, which I’m super excited about, but I’m anxious about making sure it goes well. I’ll be moving away from my hometown, which I think will be good for me, but is also kind of scary. I’m worried making new social connections while in there — I have really high hopes, but that comes with anxiety that they won’t actually happen

[nobleelfwarrior]

There’s also how there are two ways kids develop psychologically.

1) social skills first and then academic skills.

2) academic skills first and then social skills.

How many gifted kids were outsiders or outcasts or even bullied. I’ve been called a know it all and I’m sure some of my peers thought I was uppity. In reality I just didn’t start developing the social skills they learned in 1-3 grade until I was in 6th grade. And I could tell that I was socially way behind.

Neither of these developmental pathways are bad, but the second one is not accounted for in elementary school.

people misunderstand what ‘gifted kid’ actually means but it’s ok it’s fine it’s cool it’s good

#gifted kid #talented and gifted #school #education #us

[nobleelfwarrior]

Ain’t no way I’m voting for a man to bite me.

#vampires #poll #tumblr poll #I don’t even know who Selene is

[nobleelfwarrior]

It’s good to see no one wants humans

#poll

[nobleelfwarrior]

How do you move to a new city?? Like, there are apartments that not only don’t do virtual tours but don’t have online applications!

Like, I need to move in when I get there. I don’t have time to wait for application approval.

#me myself and i #apartments #rent

[nobleelfwarrior]

For the most part, my approach to prescribing hormones is “sure,” but I will note that the one thing I lean HARD on patients about is smoking. If you’re transgender, and you’re on hormones, the number one thing we want to protect is your cardiovascular health. That’s frankly the number one thing I want to protect in all my patients, but anyone taking exogenous hormones is at higher baseline risk. And the best thing you can do for your heart is DON’T SMOKE. It’s a bitch to quit, and I didn’t even smoke much or long before I quit in my late teens, and I STILL didn’t enjoy quitting and had smoking dreams for years. It’s harder to quit than just about anything else up to and including crack and heroin, and that’s coming from a patient of mine who recently passed in her early 60s who’d done all of those things—for years and years—but eventually was able to quit everything except smoking. And that killed her. She developed severe COPD and eventually called to say her blood oxygen saturation was dipping into the 70s, which is incompatible with life. She was lucid enough to decline medical care, including refusing to call 911 or go to the ER. A week later, after both I and one of our outreach nurses had contacted her to ask her to please go to the ER, I got a notification that she’d been found dead. She had been so frustrated that she wasn’t a candidate for a lung transplant.

One of my oldest trans patients is in her late 50s. She’s had blood clots that went to the lungs. Repeatedly. Smoking raises that risk. Estrogen raises that risk. She’s a veteran with PTSD; of course she smoked.

These aren’t theoretical. These are humans I’ve cared for over years of their lives. I have been rooting for them—my beloved former addict, who spoke without shame about her years of homelessness and drug use in the city; my queer elders, who are slowly trading in their motorcycles for power scooters. I want everyone to live their fullest, best life.

Smoking doesn’t fit into that. Please don’t smoke. I don’t want you to die like that—not now and not later. I want you to have the future that you may not be able to see yet, but exists.

Since I moved home as an out queer, word got out, and there’s a whole apartment complex of lesbians in their 60s to their 80s who come see me—sitting next to their wives in the office, nagging about blood pressure meds, tattling about not having gotten the shingles shot they said they would. To be clear, when I was growing up in town, I knew no lesbians. Not one. I knew one gay kid in my class, which eventually turned into two. We were it. To see these women living decades with their wives and being able to squabble like any couple in my office over who was supposed to bring their home blood pressure cuff in for us to check it… it means the world to me.

#smoking #health #tobacco

[nobleelfwarrior]

*said sorry, and meant it.

#because he said sorry and he meant it but he still doesn’t understand what he did #he doesn’t understand how badly it hurt and he can’t understand how long he’s been doing this #and it’s too late because if he messes up again #even if it’s an accident #it will still be devastating and I can’t risk it anymore

[nobleelfwarrior]

I’ll say that I was raised religious so I just ignored my attraction to women for a long time. Around the same time I began to accept my attraction to women I started hearing about radical feminism. My observations about how men treated me and other women aligned with what radical feminism predicted. I found myself agreeing that being with a man would not only put me in great danger but would also strengthen the patriarchy no matter how strict I was.

Because men kept treating me badly I didn’t want to date any of the men I knew. Meanwhile, the women around me continued to be kinder and funnier and more pleasant to be around.

Basically, men proved the politics I was investigating and so my decision not to date them was simultaneously political and personal since I didn’t want the life that seems inevitable if I partnered with a man.

I know you as a lesbian most likely don’t have an opinion on the matter but i’m curious how many febfem radfems actually completely reject men because of their feminism or if it’s other reasons? like with me, even way before i became a radical feminist, i just never had any interest in men as people whatsoever. some of them might be pretty to look at to an extent, but their substance in my life seemed more negative than any potential small positives. i also just don’t find them nearly as attractive as women overall. women interest me, other women and i share similar experiences, we have similar physical struggles and worries usually, and yet despite all that women are so incredibly varied. discovering radical feminism has made my rejection of men gain even more ground, but it’s really not what made it initially. maybe i’m truly sexist but men just seem like such half people to me. their humor, their dismissals, their behavior, their aggression, their sexuality, all of it is so animal and off putting and demeaning to have to interact with and even 12 year old me could never see myself with a husband but a wife came easily, even if i as i aged have come to realize i don’t want marriage, i still do still as easily see a relationship with a woman taking place but a relationship with a male, even just a sexual one night thing, seems torturous and degrading. i have never believed in the good man or choosing well. even teen me just saw that as delusion and it wasn’t due to having read any data, it was simply due to having interacted with enough men and had enough male friends at the time(i don’t anymore) that i knew what they were like. even the “good ones”. that’s why to me, even though i’m bisexual technically, even entertaining the thought of being with a man is just silly. it is never hard. i’m wondering how many other febfems feel similar. or if they genuinely find it challenging.

will boost and let the febfems speak for themselves. <3

#radfem #sexism #febfem

[nobleelfwarrior]

Sorry to be a buzz kill, but this is the opposite of informed consent.

Testosterone does increase risk of certain cancers for female patients.

You are risking irreparable damage to your body. I don’t have the links on hand but I can go hunt them down or you can look up the risks of taking cross sex hormones. They are finding more and more negative side effects every day and the only people talking about are detransitioners.

Be careful, ok?

one of the weirdest experiences ive had being trans and out so far was when i went to the doctors about hrt and she walked me through the consent form (the one that tells you youre doing irreversible damage to your body and you're a freak) with a pen in her hand like crossing shit out and being like "this isn't true, this is actually completely false, this is totally an exaggeration" and it was stuff like "research on hrt is limited poor and speculative" or "hrt can increase risks of disease" or "testosterone makes you more violent and angry" like idk having it written in a way intended to make you feel like you're making a big mistake is one thing but the fact that the form has like literally proven false info in it and the doctor had to verbally be like sorry this isnt even true its just on there because society hates trans people. is wild

#trans #testosterone #detrans

[nobleelfwarrior]

This is the second time in my voting history that I’ve participated in flipping a red seat in Alabama for Democrats (the previous time being my beloved Doug Jones) so it’s always funny to see people turn around and say voting doesn’t matter when I’ve seen it twice in the past ten years flip seats in what is supposed to be safe Republican country. Republicans are digging their own grave with their radicalization and it is making them lose (and with your help we can make them lose harder). Vote.

[nobleelfwarrior]

Radical feminism says they go low and we hold them accountable. We stop dating, having sex with, marrying them. They kill us and we send them to prison for life. They rape or molest use and we send them to prison and we put them on the sex offender registry. They don’t do the dishes and we move out or kick him out and make him deal with his own place. He doesn’t know the kids allergies and we divorce him and fight to keep him from having parental rights.

We know education doesn’t work unless people want to change and men don’t want to change. So we stop letting them get away with it.

Liberal feminism says, when they go low, we go high. When the man rapes us, we educate them on consent. When the man abuses us, we educate them on power dynamics and the cycle of abuse. When the man impregnates us accidentally, but wants the kid anyway, we educate him on abortion. When the man doesn’t remember the kids’ allergies, we educate him on the mental load. When the man keeps doing those things, we educate him on emotional labour. Educate educate educate. All these terms are new, and we are emboldened by them, thinking that because they’re new, maybe once we educate the man, this time round he will finally understand. We accept that as the oppressor class, he is allowed to be ignorant whilst we are not. But that’s not a problem; we are enthusiastic, hopeful. We lead by example, we believe our kindness will be inspiring and will spread out of us, changing the world.

Instead it all gets consumed by the void in our homes.

#radfem #libfem

[nobleelfwarrior]

never wear a bra if you can help it do not let them win

#size I cup #only wear a bra if I’m going to be jumping #no one has ever commented

[nobleelfwarrior]

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[nobleelfwarrior]

Liars don’t like me because I’m confrontational. I’ll be quiet if I know the truth might be bad, though.

*I'm excluding work because I know, depending on where you work, that can be way more complicated and your reaction may be more subdued or nonexistent to avoid employment issues. I am talking about social situations where nothing is at risk except awkwardness.

*I am not talking about white lies that mean nothing and that can be ignored to no negative or positive effect. I'm talking about a lie that might influence the way people look at something or someone.