people with she/her pronouns do not owe you femininity.
people with they/them pronouns do not owe you androgyny.
people with he/him pronouns do not owe you masculinity.
Why do parents think that it’s alright to comment on our own body like it’s their own? Why do they think they can comment on the weight of it?, or how it looks in certain clothes? or just make comments when I’m wearing something more revealing?
They don’t have the right to and yet they still do it. Constantly. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable.
Then when I tell them to stop and tell them the comments are unwanted and make me uncomfortable, why do I get shouted at? Why am I told that I make them feel bad about what I said? Or that I make them feel unloved?
It’s my body, Not theirs. I lost weight to make me feel comfortable and not to get attention from them or anyone. I will wear a short skirt and a tank top with some bomb-ass makeup because I want to look pretty. Or I will wear no makeup and decide I don’t want to shave for I feel empowered and I love myself for who I am. I will wear a button up and shove my hair in a beanie for I feel good being in masculine clothing. I am who I am - I am a non-binary bisexual and I am proud; My pronouns are they/them.
This is just your friendly, slightly passive-aggressive reminder that bisexual people owe you absolutely NOTHING and you don’t get to invalidate them or doubt their sexuality REGARDLESS OF WHO THEY DATE/MARRY.
When someone says "I am trans" or "I am gay" thats all that matters. It doesn't matter why they are gay or trans, if they knew since they were a kid, or just decided on it 5 seconds ago. It doesn't matter if they experience gender dysphoria, or what gender their previous dating/sex partners were. The only thing that matters when someone says they are gay/trans is that it is respected.
Accidentally misgendering someone because you didn’t know them or because they recently came out to you and you’re still learning: It’s okay, it happens to the best of us.
Repeatedly misgendering someone/doing it on purpose: Not okay, you’re really hurting this person and are being transphobic and cruel.
Today I felt more masculine. For the past few days it had been getting more androgynous and less feminine. I want to feel good dressing more masculine but I struggle to.
I’m still struggling to find a name for myself but I have found out the name Bo is one I could possibly have.
The people who love and support you unconditionally can be your family, even if you aren’t blood related. Family doesn’t always have to mean the people you share DNA with.