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btw there's no hard barriers between any queer identities- where one identity ends and another begins, they meld together, creating a gradient between the two, and every other identity around it. it's one big gradient, not rigid boxes that can never be touched by one another. queerness involves embracing those gray areas, celebrating them, and the lives of people who occupy them. being unique does not involve casting away those who are similar to you- there are no barriers between different queers, we are all part of the the same beautiful tapestry.

#identity #queer #lgbtqiap+ #lgbt #binary #binaries #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

Piggybacking off this post I made last night, but I think two things can be true at once:

Being diagnosed or undiagnosed can both be disadvantages. Neither a state of diagnosis nor undiagnosis can be more "beneficial" because both can be harmful dependent on the situation. We need to be open to the possibility that a diagnosis can be helpful, harmful, a mix, or neither, and not having a diagnosis can also be helpful, harmful, a mix, or neither.

Basically, disability is complex. We live in an ableist world that simultaneously demands disabled people adhere to strict standards but also just not exist in the first place. It's hard enough to navigate diagnosis, and making it harder is only going to harm us, not abled people. They don't care about the intricacies of disability, more often than not.

#disability #diagnosis #ableism #not gender #reblog #healthcare #health care

[nonbinaryresource]

Everyone told me testosterone would make me angrier. My family has a habit of attributing any anger I feel these days to the testosterone. I didn't feel any angrier, but my mother would still tell me that no, I am angrier now, and testosterone did make me angrier and *she* could tell.

A week or two ago, I got my proof to the contrary. I'd been having a difficult day, woke up late, and had to rush out the door, ran into minor inconvenience after minor inconvenience, and then the straw broke the camel's back.

I wrote out the kind of angry vindictive seething text message I used to write constantly. I didn't send it, of course, I copied it out and pasted it in the folder of my notes where I put all my rage venting.

And then I thought.

Huh, it's been a little while since I did that. And I checked the time and dates on my previous notes. The last one was a few days before I started testosterone.

And scrolling back, I noticed that they were *constant* at least one a week for *years* I used to get so angry that I would get the serious urge to say cruel hurtful things to or about people I cared about on a near-daily basis. I didn't realize how big of a problem it was until all of a sudden I hadn't gotten that angry in Eleven Months. Nearly a YEAR.

And then I realized in my rush to get out the door in the morning, I hadn't taken my T shot. My testosterone was the lowest it's been since August.

All of a sudden, I had demonstrable proof that testosterone really did make me less angry. That all that "you may not think you're any angrier but you are" was bullshit.

I feel like I should be angrier about this than I am. I know how angry I used to get. About everything. I just felt it again for the first time in a while. For once, it would feel justified to be that angry. But I'm not. I'm not mad. I'm just... disappointed, I guess.

#patriarchy #gender binary #misogyny #testosterone #t #socialization #reblog #toxic masculinity #gender myths

[nonbinaryresource]

It's okay for you to be trans. I realize you know people can be trans, but you're not listening. It's okay for you to be trans.

It's okay for you, specifically you, to be trans.

I'm not sure how long you've been looking for permission to be trans. You don't need the permission, but you have it.

There's a whole community of other trans people that want to support you.

#trans #validation #support #trans validation #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

Everybody always asks what's today's gender but nobody asks how's today's gender :'))

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#humor #fun #reblog #gender

[nonbinaryresource]

Hey, I was wondering of youd share your guy's stance on kit being outed as well as other celebrity's being pressured to share their sexuality/orientation.

I am not for it and now might be a good time to discuss something more personal since we are on the topic. Since starting this project, I have had my identity as a queer person poked and prodded at, and I have chosen not to discuss that in depth. I am going to continue with that decision, but I do want to say something. I have recently come out as transgender, specifically genderfluid, and there was some bitterness tainting what should have been an easy happy decision. Because people have spent their time and their energy attacking and targeting me based on their misunderstanding of my gender identity.

I have been told I don't have the authority to speak on transgender issues, despite spending a good portion of my life studying queer and trans history. I have been told my stances are less valid because I was not publicly under a particular set of labels. I have been publicly attacked and dismissed.

This discussion of people's identities does not only affect celebrities. I am just a regular person, doing a job they are passionate about and I have deserved more compassion than I've gotten. I haven't been hurting people, and the things I was most often attacked based on were minor intercommunity squabbles.

This whole mess is just an example of petty infighting that the queer community should be ashamed has been blasted on such a large stage as to affect these young men. Actors, who were simply doing their job are being bullied for no good reason, and outing people is always a disgraceful decision. All of this is based on a simple misapplication of a political framework that has also been proven to be just as ineffective in other communities.

The idea that you need a certain set of identities to even speak on discrimination, or be a part of the discussion, is so silly. That's how you lose important valuable insights. In real strong community work, people of all experiences are listened to and their voices are valued because of their unique perspectives. Yes, people facing the lived realities of oppression should have their voices amplified, but that truth was never meant to be used as a weapon or a silencer. It was meant to lift up people, not to tear others down.

#coming out #forced outing #queer #trans #lgbtqiap+ #lgbt #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

Hi. I know im boyflux and agender but its kinda confusing and my identities co-exist. But i cant really tell what im feeling gender-wise at certain times and it kinda feels like there's no gender there at all but i like being called boyflux, it feels like its the right label and i identify as a dude most of the time. but its really confusing and it just feels like a void. Gendervoid could be an option but it feels like more then just that (p.s i stumbled upon one of your posts and i really dont know if this is what you do on your blog, so if it isnt just tell me)

but i like being called boyflux, it feels like its the right label and i identify as a dude most of the time

This is 100% what labelling is all about. If boyflux makes you feel good, then identify as boyflux! You don't need to prove anything to anyone about you picking this term. There is no Gender God or Omniscient Identity Being that is going to storm down from the heavens to declare that you're doing it wrong. Our labels are absolutely human-made for the purpose of humaning. Which means you get to identify off of gut feelings or happiness or absolutely whatever reasoning you have for identifying whatever way.

i really dont know if this is what you do on your blog

We do whatever we want and whatever is needed on this blog. :)

~Pluto

#ask #identity #nonbinary #boyflux #agender #gendervoid #labels #labeling #validation #apollothegaybitch #mod pluto

[nonbinaryresource]

I’m tempted to go on T, but there’s one thing thats really setting me back. Both my father and his father went bald very early on in life (starting around senior year of high school). I’m absolutely terrified that I’m going to start balding if I begin taking testosterone

Finasteride will help mitigate hair loss. You can also bring up your concerns with your doctor, and they can discuss best prevention methods with you. There are lots of options (hair loss is a common dysphoria trigger for many cis men), and you can see some of the different treatments people have chosen from this reddit thread.

You can also go for a low-dose of T. It won't stop hair loss, but it will let you take a slower journey through your transition to explore if testosterone is right for you. Do know not all effects of T are reversible, though, including hair loss. But a low dose could give you time to see how being on T makes you feel, and if it's something you feel is worth pursuing even though your fears of hair loss. And if you notice the beginning of hair loss and hate it, you can stop taking T and prevent further loss from occurring.

Finally...it's hair. Hair is one of the most dynamic/least static things on our bodies. Hair loss happens. Hair thinning happens. Hair color changes happen. If you really hate it, then you might find salvation in wigs. But you might also find being bald empowering. There's nothing wrong with baldness! Especially if you're able to just own that and rock it. I think it's worth exploring...what about balding triggers fear for you? What's the underlying fear you're struggling with?

But also - you don't have to have the answers now. It's fine to take as much time as you need to consider this, weigh the pros and cons, and make your decision. It's also completely fine to make one decision now and change your mind later. Spend some time on other transition aspects that may feel more approachable right now. Those might be social, fashion, surgery oriented or anything else. See what kind of happiness you can find without T. It might help you make your decision later down the road.

It's okay. You're not alone. <3

~Mod Pluto

#thanks! #t #testosterone #hrt #transitioning #hair loss #hair #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

I’m tempted to go on T, but there’s one thing thats really setting me back. Both my father and his father went bald very early on in life (starting around senior year of high school). I’m absolutely terrified that I’m going to start balding if I begin taking testosterone

Finasteride will help mitigate hair loss. You can also bring up your concerns with your doctor, and they can discuss best prevention methods with you. There are lots of options (hair loss is a common dysphoria trigger for many cis men), and you can see some of the different treatments people have chosen from this reddit thread.

You can also go for a low-dose of T. It won't stop hair loss, but it will let you take a slower journey through your transition to explore if testosterone is right for you. Do know not all effects of T are reversible, though, including hair loss. But a low dose could give you time to see how being on T makes you feel, and if it's something you feel is worth pursuing even though your fears of hair loss. And if you notice the beginning of hair loss and hate it, you can stop taking T and prevent further loss from occurring.

Finally...it's hair. Hair is one of the most dynamic/least static things on our bodies. Hair loss happens. Hair thinning happens. Hair color changes happen. If you really hate it, then you might find salvation in wigs. But you might also find being bald empowering. There's nothing wrong with baldness! Especially if you're able to just own that and rock it. I think it's worth exploring...what about balding triggers fear for you? What's the underlying fear you're struggling with?

But also - you don't have to have the answers now. It's fine to take as much time as you need to consider this, weigh the pros and cons, and make your decision. It's also completely fine to make one decision now and change your mind later. Spend some time on other transition aspects that may feel more approachable right now. Those might be social, fashion, surgery oriented or anything else. See what kind of happiness you can find without T. It might help you make your decision later down the road.

It's okay. You're not alone. <3

~Mod Pluto

#thanks! #t #testosterone #hrt #transitioning #hair loss #hair #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

my kingdom for people On Line to understand that yes, it is still sexual harassment if you're casting yourself as the receiver and not the aggressor in the hypothetical scenario you've constructed. in particular it is still sexual harassment to cold approach butches and masc dykes with shit like omg pin me down step on me. yes, even when you mean it as a compliment. yes, even if you're complimenting them on something else at the same time. i would encourage you in fact to try Not casting people you don't really know in sexual roles based off of their body type or gender presentation. maybe do some self-work instead. go to therapy. anything

#transmisogyny #sexualization #sexual harassment #lesbophobia #butchphobia #sexual violence #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

The whole "breasts shouldn't be politicized because the primary purpose of breasts is to feed babies!" can be a fine jumping-off point, but I really wish people thought deeper than that when we talk about the ways in which bodies are politicized and restricted.

Like, why's it that when we talk about breasts, they must have some Higher Purpose? It's true that breasts aren't inherently sexual, but they aren't valuable solely because they can potentially feed a baby. A human body doesn't have to serve a Higher Purpose in order for it to not be legislated against or policed, and I just wish people would remember it isn't always about babies, about other people, about anything else other than the people who have that body.

#bodies #misogyny #transphobia #cissexism #sexualization #white supremacy #politicization #excellent point #humanity #reblog #body policing

[nonbinaryresource]

“Today, the fields of queer and trans history are still in the process of finding ways to talk about gender and sexuality diversity among Native people in a way that is neither appropriative nor exotifying. Here I am trying to tell the story of Ozaawindib’s life, not as a way to show the myriad possibilities of gender and sexuality among “primitive” peoples, as some white queer writers have done. Nor am I telling her story so it can be used as a sort of precursor or opening scene which non-Native queer people can inherit after Native people seemingly vanish from the dominant narrative of history. I am sharing her story simply because it is an apt demonstration of how gender diverse Native people were important actors in North American history. Ozaawindib’s story reveals important historical realities of queer, trans, and/or Two-Spirit experiences in North America, especially relating to the process of colonization and the erasure of people who did not conform to the accepted dominant standards of gender and sexuality.[i] Both her story and its subsequent narrative fracturing are symptomatic of larger trends in the history of North American queer, trans, and Two-Spirit peoples.”

—

Kai Pyle Ozaawindib, the Ojibwe Trans Woman the US Declared a Chief

(via makingqueerhistory)

#Ozaawindib #ojibwe #history #native #indigenous #trans #trans history #queer history #quote #kai pyle #woman chief #not nonbinary specific #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

Hello!

Do you happen to have any resources or tips or advice for transfeminine voice training that you can share online?

Ive been meaning to start that, especially since for the next few years i still wont be able to take a significant amount of hrt, if at all. But frankly i havent done more than just sing indie girl ukulele songs.

that i do! here’s some content creators that i follow who make quality trans voice content (for all trans people, not just trans femmes 🙂)

#voice training #transfem #transfeminine #transfem resources #resources #reblog #trans #transmasc #transmasculine #transmasc resources

[nonbinaryresource]

happy pride to polyamorous people, non-monogamists, relationship anarchists, swingers, people who follow to multiple models of love, people in kink families/houses, and anyone else who feels their love and the way they conduct their life does not suit the amatonormative "one partner for life" model. i hope you have an amazing time loving and being loved and enjoying life

#pride #relationships #amatonormativity #polyamory #relationship anarchy #polyam #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

New Medium publication for erotica and erotic romance, so this Pride Month you can put forward some of your fiction!

If you've been looking for somewhere other than Ao3 to branch out with your original work from fanworks, definitely give this a look!

Submission guidelines are outlined here:

#erotica #fiction #writing #writers #trans #nonbinary #reblog

[nonbinaryresource]

I can't describe all the images right now, so I will just clarify that the first image is EstroLab's "I Can't Believe It's Not Estrogen" and the third is their "Femboy Tummy Pills" which are laxatives. The tweets advertising these are by some QueerQurk.com account. The post after the "Femboy Tummy Pills" is talking about how the "I Can't Believe It's Not Estrogen" utilizes ashwagandha which will actually make you produce MORE E/T dependent on what your gonads already produce, so if you're a trans woman with testes, you'll end up with increased levels of testosterone.

This site has been going around Twitter trans accounts quite a bit lately, so just pointing out here too that it'll do fuck all, they're exploiting trans people at a time when hrt is particularly hard to access and please don't give them your money

#hrt #honeypost #safety #boost #head's up #healthcare #health care #medical care #estrogen #estrolabs #queerquirk #queerquirk.com #estrolabs.com #i can't believe it's not estrogen #femboy tummy pills #laxatives #dangerous #transphobia #transmisogyny #cissexism #scam #predatory #trans #nonbinary #transfem #transfeminine #reblog #long post #undescribed #ashwagandha

[nonbinaryresource]

cw: vent, dysphoria, no negativity to nb people who comfortable with these terms. need some support : (

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using terms like AMAB or AFAB feels dysphoric and uncomfortable for me. please say it's normal feeling... feel like I'm just "hiding" my """real""" sex. but my "real" sex it's third or X or null sex, and I'm transitioning to it.

and so I found out I need a label for my sex, like, not only gender. and some validation...

otherwise I feel like "yea, I'm nb, and my sex/AGAB doesn't matter" ― like no??? my sex is matter for me. I'm transitioning to bringing it back, to my true self. this is about me and my body, not only social part. and this is why I call myself "trans-"

need sex & gender being in harmony in myself. it's impossible without sex identity. idk still thinking about "third sex" thing.

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for admins: I'm @nullandrogyne if it's ok to publish, just can't ask from this sideblog for some reason

Preaching to the choir, nullandrogyne. There's a reason the ask box disclaimer shouts at people to not include their agab in their ask. It definitely become a tool used to misgender trans people and for us to psychologically self-harm giving away private information no one else was entitled to. There was a point on this blog where people were including it for EVERY ask no matter what, and while I know it had more to do with people's own struggles accepting themselves and finding themselves valid, it got to the point where I was struggling to support my own mental health and self-acceptance being inundated with the subliminal idea that I'm not really anything more than my agab.

We're not our agab. We're nonbinary. That's fucking valid. No one is obligated to information like what gender you were coercively assigned at birth.

You are nonbinary, and that's the full story. Period.

~Mod Pluto

#nonbinary #agab #gender #misgendering #privacy #private information #psychological self harm #ask #nullandrogyne #vent #support #mod pluto