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Question (please like or comment if this applies to you):

Have you been diagnosed with both Borderline and ADHD?

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(Who made this? It’s beautiful.) Mental and physical illnesses are draining. And not having anyone to relate to, only makes it worse.

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And your relapses do not diminish your progress. Please try to gently note the relapse without bullying yourself, then continue to move forward on the path of progress which you strive to follow.

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Break the stigma

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Being isolated to your home is one thing, being isolated with mood swings is a weird, new ballpark that I do not care for thank you very much.

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(An Instagram post by @thehorrorgallery with art from @zenophrenic)

I love this artwork because my therapist has told me to try turning the demons in my head into supporters. To challenge their negative, repetitive“what if?” questions with positive ones. To fight until it comes to my side. To use the demons in my head to push me forward rather than hold me back. It is not easy, it takes practice, then more practice, and if you tell your parents they will think you are insane, but it’s therapist approved and a good way to change the way you think.

You. Have. A. Right. To. Decency.

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Borderline Problem #21

Feeling Invisible and Unappreciated

“We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others, that in the end, we become disguised to ourselves.” -Francois de La Rouchefoucauld

I think we all want to be seen for our true selves, but we also want to please others. If we are our authentic selves, yet not appreciated for it then we hurt and feel invisible. If we put on the costume of what people want us to be, we feel invisible because we’re hiding our true selves. Some of our loved ones may not even take the time to truly get to know us because BPD facts scare them or depresses them. They inadvertently add to the stigma we hope to erase and by ignoring our mental health we are once again made more and more opaque. None of us deserve to be forced to fade into the background in order to make other’s comfortable, none of us deserve to feel invisible.

The feeling of being invisible makes me want appreciation. I dedicate myself to cleaning, cooking, making presents, running errands, etc. for others, along with being (overly) loyal, caring too much, and putting everyone else first. I’m working on not doing those last three. I know I don’t “deserve” a thank you for those things, but I still want to be appreciated since I feel invisible so often. I’m not being my authentic self when I go out of my way to do so much for others. I am forcing my authentic self smaller and smaller when I do this. I have started the practice of letting my loved ones know I need words of affirmation occasionally, and I believe that’s something we are all allowed to ask. A lot of them understand and those who don’t (more so the one’s who refuse to learn why) have shown their true colors. Authenticity on the other hand is a daily practice for me, but it’s worth it.

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(From BPDmatters on Instagram)

What other stigma(s) do you hate about Borderline Personality Disorder?

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Do not let them consume you. They don’t define who you are.

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paralyzed

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Borderline PSA

A lot of people ask me how Borderline will affect their future. I have had the privilege of knowing many wonderful BPD-diagnosed people through my friends, group therapy, support groups, etc. and so many of them are:

In healthy, long-term relationships

Holding down long-term jobs in fields that interest them

Able to facilitate lasting friendships

Creating stronger family ties with family members that are healthy for them

Happier than when they were first diagnosed

Intelligent and quick-witted

Hard-working and honest

Still in therapy and group therapy

On medication

Relapsing to old habits

Practicing DBT skills daily

Borderline is not a linear progression, it is something we have to constantly work on. Having Borderline does not mean we will be unable to have some of the best parts of life. Your future is bright, stigma be damned.

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Borderline Problem #19

Thinking Differently

This is a hard aspect of BPD to explain to non-BPD people because it can accidentally come off as a brag. “I think differently” is often assumed to mean anything from “my thoughts are unique and better” to “I’m saying this to get out of a discussion”. And being accused of bragging or escaping while trying to explain an aspect of your mental illness is...hard.

What it really means is I process things differently, I absorb too much and shutdown, I spiral because I can’t understand someone else’s train of thought, I can’t follow a linear plan, and I never have just one train of thought in my head— I have multiple trains and they crash into each other often.

This is hard to explain because the only minds we actually know are our own, and honestly, sometimes I don’t know my own mind. So we have to rely on other’s telling us their perspective, be it friends and family or a mental health professional, and over time we slowly realize they have a certain healthy pattern in their perspective that we don’t. Growing up, it takes a while to question “how should I be thinking?”, but once you ask yourself that question everything changes.

It can be scary because explaining feelings, emotions, actions, thoughts, etc. comes out differently, an innocuous comment from someone else can send us spiraling, and likewise we may make a comment that angers a friend while we stew in our thoughts trying to figure out where we went wrong; we need explanations and gentle confrontations so we can learn, but how do we ask for that? And isn’t it scary to think of asking someone to do that for us? We are all brave enough to ask, despite the fear. And I hope we all ask those close to us for patience and understanding as we rewire our brains without getting rid of some of the great attributes of BPD.

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Does anybody else hate Summer and the pressure to enjoy all of it?

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Borderline Problem #18

(Trigger warning at the end about self harm)

(Can’t find artist name)

Some people with BPD or EUPD can have explosive outbursts of anger. For myself, I know sometimes no matter the DBT skills I practice or the amount I try to calm down in any way, I can’t control all of the anger.

It can be triggered easily and when we act in anger we all generally feel shame afterwards. That shame can then start the cycle of guilt, feelings of worthlessness, self punishment, more shame, etc. None of us want that. So what can we do to help our anger? (Please feel free to comment suggestions, I’m still learning too)

As I’ve said, I still can’t always control it. The skills I use when I can control it are the following:

-when in an argument or frustrated with someone then I will ask for a minute to calm down, I will also practice 5 senses meditation during that time (one at a time focusing on what do you smell, what do you taste, what do you hear, what do you feel, what do you see)

-when randomly angry with no one around then I try to exercise, but if that isn’t an option I try to radically accept this symptom of BPD and try to be mindful of the fact that I simply don’t want to be angry (seems a bit silly, I know)

Once again, I am still working on it. For a long time my anger was internal, I took it out on myself and I hope I never self-harm again (but once again I have to radically accept that this is a symptom; also sorry I keep using DBT terms, feel free to message me if you don’t know about DBT and want to learn more!). Now it’s a mixture of external and internal, sometimes speaking my mind turns hostile, sometimes I’m simply mad at the world.

The best tip I have about anger is simply let your loved ones know. If they can understand ahead of time that you may get angry, then they can be prepared and mindful.

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