onceiwasabitch

[onceiwasabitch]

🚫UNCREDITED ART REPOST ALERT #3🚫

gross. don't do this, people. @piinfeathers deserves her flowers.

Emma et Kilian Jones

[onceiwasabitch]

🚨UNCREDITED ART REPOST ALERT #2🚨

not cool.

Hook, Emma, hope

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⚠️UNCREDITED ART REPOST ALERT⚠️

don't do this ish 😒

[onceiwasabitch]

Me, in the early days of this blog: …IDK, blocking people seems a little extreme. Do they really deserve a full on block? Me, now, years into this nonsense:

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#lookin' at you SQ #lookin' at you #20 bloody 21 and you're still on this nonsense #like #full blown conspiracy about jmo and her bf #like??? get a grip 🤣

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don't ever feel bad about muting, unfollowing, or blocking someone online. you have a responsibility to take care of yourself, and if that person is disrupting your peace, there's nothing wrong with removing them from your online space.

[onceiwasabitch]

Y'all need to type paragraphs of arguments less and learn to say “blow me bitch” to people

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"wow you blocked me just cuz i disagreed with you???"

yes. yes, exactly. this is a social media site. i come here to look at pictures of birds and shitpost with my friends. this is not a town hall meeting; i am not your elected official. i do not owe you my energy, my space, or my time. you and i are strangers that use the same website. i can block you for literally any reason and that's okay. take a deep breath. block me too. you'll feel better.

#boom #you're not entitled to not being blocked #this isn't some snooty academic forum where we have to tolerate every shitty take-maker we see #slam that bye-bye button 👋 #looking at some fellow colin fandomites real hard on this one

[onceiwasabitch]

How to respond when someone tries to drag you into shipping or kink discourse when you don't want to

Copy and paste the following:

I understand. You found paradise in America, you had a good trade, you made a good living. The police protected you and there were courts of law. You didn’t need a friend like me. But, now you come to me, and you say: “Don Corleone, do you support this ship/kink?” But you don’t ask with respect. You don’t offer friendship. You don’t even think to call me Godfather. Instead, you come into my house on the day my daughter is to be married, and you ask me to get involved in your discourse.

[onceiwasabitch]

normalize creators replying to fanon shippers with “that’s great that you’re inspired to write your own version of things. keep doing that! but please respect our version of our story.”

normalize fans being reminded that boundaries between fandom and creators exist for a reason.

normalize fans recognizing their own creative potential without seeking canon validation

normalize the idea that fandom is a hobby, not an identity to threaten and fight and harass people over

normalize a healthy understanding of the boundaries between fiction and reality

normalize just chilling the fuck out lmao

[onceiwasabitch]

if you wanna use my gifs on twitter, all you gotta do is ask me first. there’s no need to be rude and post things without credit. this goes particularly to the colin o'donoghue fandom, and user colinsbrows on twitter who just took my content without crediting and lied about asking me first when confronted. all it takes is asking, it’s that simple. they have blocked me on twitter when i asked them to not use my gifs anymore, so be on the lookout if that person uses my stuff again on their best of colin account. 

[onceiwasabitch]

The five deadly sins of transformative fandom:

Treating popular fanon regarding a character as authoritative, and getting angry at people whose feelings toward that character are informed by the version who appears in the actual text  

Conflating “it’s possible to construct this particular narrative from elements present in the text” with “this is the narrative the text in fact presents“  

Dismissing criticism of a particular aspect of the text on the grounds that you can imagine some hypothetical context in which the cited elements wouldn’t be problematic  

Elevating a particular body of fan-work above the actual source material, and acting like anybody whose fandom doesn’t take the former into account is missing the point  

Getting so immersed in a deep subtextual reading that you reflexively assume anyone who has an issue with the explicit text of the source material is engaging in bad faith

#that's a big @ to sq #🤣

[onceiwasabitch]

normalize creators replying to fanon shippers with “that’s great that you’re inspired to write your own version of things. keep doing that! but please respect our version of our story.”

normalize fans being reminded that boundaries between fandom and creators exist for a reason.

normalize fans recognizing their own creative potential without seeking canon validation

normalize the idea that fandom is a hobby, not an identity to threaten and fight and harass people over

normalize a healthy understanding of the boundaries between fiction and reality

normalize just chilling the fuck out lmao

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I don’t understand how people can hate Captain Swan. Like there’s this post floating around saying ‘reblog if you think CS ruined OUAT.’

I mean??? How?? Why are these people so against Emma getting her HEA? Hook ain’t your favorite, we get it, but he’s her One True Love. Her husband. The father of her daughter. Step father to her son. Sooooo 🤷‍♀️. To be fair the post was made by a SwanQueener and all the reblogs on it are 97% SQ’s. The only reason I say anything is because it surprised me to see a post like that when the show has been over for 3 years now. Are they still that salty they didn’t get their way even though A&E made it clear from S2 on that SQ would only ever be a fanon ship? I don’t know. Seems a bit ridiculous to still be so hard up about it when the show got a lovely end. Even if Regina got an ending she didn’t deserve but that’s a whole other conversation.

#it's 2020 #these dumbass fucks need to get a life #a ship you don't like being a thing doesn't ruin a show #there were plenty of other formatting issues that fucked with ouat by the end #without touching on anything character related #so spare me #🥱

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Social media self-care includes blocking people who post negative comments about your favorite fictional characters. It’s not petty, it’s not uncalled for, it’s called “I engage with this content to feel better about myself and it makes me feel bad to see this character I identify with called all sorts of bad names.”

You really don’t have to have a reason to block people beyond “seeing their content makes me feel bad and I’m not here to feel bad, I am here to have fun.”

The biggest thing we get wrong about the internet is this idea that blocking someone is a sign of weakness or irrationality.

Sometimes you just don’t like someone’s content and don’t want to interact with them, and that’s fine.

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old tea, but good tea.

I was the anon who sent the ask about cs, and you actually addressed some of the major arguments i've seen - being with hook turned emma from a strong, independent woman into just a love interest, hook pursued emma with no reciprocated feelings, and that he never really redeemed himself. I've also seen arguments that cs is abusive, which i've seen to some extent in anti-kataang posts. i try not to dive too deep into the anti tag for my own sanity but these are some of the main things i've seen

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

ok, sorry, i was just caught up in the euphoria of reminiscing about my captain swan feelings that for a moment there i lived in a world where the Anti CS Brigade didn’t exist. but no, yeah, i know exactly what you’re talking about and honestly i think i just......blocked 90% of it from my mind because so many of those arguments were so vitriolic and widespread but also baseless, like...

gods, ok, here we go. anon you have activated my dormant ouat wordvomit processors and idk if i’ll be able to shut up any time soon but i have A Lot Of Thoughts Here, and also a lot of really bad memories cause ye gods, the ouat shipping wars of the days of yore were vicious.

ANYWAY, like, the vast majority of these arguments came from the ‘swan queen nation’, which is where you can trace a lot of super toxic wlw ship stans back to--just for a little context, but clexa and supercorp both had their roots in swan queen, among other ships, but those are the Big Three i always go back to because what they have in common is ‘the main character of the series is explicitly abused/treated horribly by another woman and for some reason the shippers go nuts over this pairing and will insist the show is queerbaiting them if this specific pairing is not made canon’. and swan queen stans, in particular, had it out for captain swan, because they were incredibly insistent about regina and emma being in love, and naturally the existence of emma’s romantic arc with killian threatened that.

as a result, they quite literally made shit up.

it’s funny (not ‘funny ha ha’ but like funny depressing), because a lot of what they accused CS of is actually shit that happened explicitly on screen with regina and emma. they claimed that emma was no longer strong or independent because she fell in love with killian, while ignoring the fact that she’d become a literal doormat for regina’s many abuses (there are so many things regina did to emma even after her alleged redemption which, if she weren’t being so coddled by the narrative, emma would never have let her get away with--like blaming her for saving the life of a woman regina had murdered in the past, or like telling emma to her face that she wanted to tear killian’s throat out because he managed to come back from the underworld while the man regina loved stayed dead) because, for some reason, they interpreted emma being happy and no longer closed off to the people she loved, choosing to let down the walls she’d built up over a lifetime of trauma as her being ‘reduced to a love interest’ which just did not happen.

like, factually, straight up, emma was every bit as badass while dating killian as she was back in season 1. the only difference is, in season 1 emma didn’t trust anyone, she was closed off, she had a million walls built high around her by trauma, and she wasn’t willing to let anyone in because she believed that if she did then she’d only be traumatized again when they inevitably left. by season 4, when she started officially dating killian, many of those walls had come down, she was happier and healthier, she was falling in love and she was letting herself be in love, she had her parents, her son, the whole town full of people she loved. she was fucking happy, but she wasn’t happy with the right love interest, so swan queen shippers insisted they wanted ‘season 1 emma back’. because they would rather emma be miserable so they could interpret her antagonism with regina as closeted gay pining, than have her dare to be happy with a man and a family that didn’t include regina.

as to the other claims, while hook did make his feelings for emma clear once he realized he felt them, the ball was in her court almost completely. he made comments, told her how he felt, said things like ‘when i win your heart, and i will win it, it will be because you want me’ where the clear emphasis was on emma’s feelings--he believed she had some feeling for him, but he wanted anything between them to be because it was what she wanted. emma initiated every explicitly romantic interaction. killian made a flirty comment, which he was wont to do, and which she could easily have brushed off--instead, she grabbed him by the coat and yanked him into a kiss which lasted far longer than it needed to if all she wanted to do was make a point. (sorry, that scene is just burned into the brain of every CS shipper, i know it literally by heart lmfao) he made it clear that if she wanted him he would be there, but i she didn’t he wasn’t going to push her. he followed her through an entire damn portal into the past because he wanted to help her, because he’d go anywhere for her--to the end of the world, or time--but emma was the one who invited him to dinner with her family. emma was the one who noticed he hadn’t come in yet, and went to see him. emma was the one who kissed him, initiating their relationship.

like @storynightlight said in the replies to the last ask you sent, a majority of the important milestones in killian and emma’s relationship were initiated by emma. she was the one constantly progressing their relationship, it went entirely at her pace in large part because one damaged soul recognizes another, and killian had been through enough trauma in his long (long, long) life to understand that emma needed to work things through on her own terms. he wanted to be part of her life, but it had to be when she was willing to let him in. and he was perfectly content to wait for her to be ready.

as far as the ‘abuse’ claims go, that was honestly just straight up fabrication on the part of swan queen shippers mostly, which is intensely ironic considering the state of emma and regina’s ‘friendship’ for literally the entire damn series. most of them referenced things that happened while emma and killian were enemies (they called their sword fight ‘abuse’, which like.... i’m sorry but two people on opposite sides of a violent conflict having a fight is not abuse, and incidentally that’s an argument that zutara gets hit with too, to this day, clearly words don’t actually mean things anymore), and ignored the fact that killian’s behavior changed as his redemption arc progressed. he didn’t become a good upstanding citizen overnight, but he did feel remorse for his prior bad actions and the harm he caused, he went to great lengths to make up for that harm when and where he could, and he tried to be as good a man as he possibly could in later seasons, even when circumstances (like, oh, gold having possession of his heart and using it to control him, which anti CSers also blamed him for, go figure) made that nearly impossible.

meanwhile, as late as season 6, regina was still blaming emma for everything that went wrong in her life. regina happily browbeat emma about everything she ‘stole’ from her for basically the entire series. regina, in the context of their friendship after her alleged redemption, was constantly verbally and emotionally abusive to emma--and yet that behavior was completely overlooked, or deemed ‘pining’ or some other obvious evidence of romantic feelings, by swan queen shippers who would prefer to claim emma was being abused by her caring and loyal boyfriend who constantly believed in her even when she had trouble believing in herself. (incidentally, it truly is incredibly rich of regina stans (and rumple stans, a lot of them say this too) to claim that killian never redeemed himself, when regina is the one with a vault full of hearts she never returned to their proper owners, and regina is the one who murdered someone emma cared about and never confessed to it, let alone apologized for it; graham died in emma’s arms while regina crushed his heart, and it was never once brought up again. regina got away with it scott free, and it is just one on a list of crimes she literally never expressed even the slightest bit of remorse for, let alone tried to atone for. yet killian is the one who ‘never redeemed himself’ mmhmmm ok sure jan.)

I’M SO SORRY ANON, you probably had no idea the can of Worms you were opening with these asks, but CLEARLY i still have a lot of damn feelings about this fucking show lmfao. THANK YOU THOUGH!!! i haven’t talked about captain swan or even really reminisced much in a while, and i miss them a lot, so it was nice to dive back into my Feelings and remember so much of what i loved about them! i may do a rewatch soon >.> it’s ok if i just skip 4b except the finale and then turn it off immediately after emma and killian’s reunion at the end and pretend the entire show ended there, right????

i hope you’re having a good night! thanks again for the asks <33

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There is a difference between saying

This ship makes me uncomfortable and/or it makes me experience negative emotions or memories. I am going to avoid this ship so that I won’t experience these feelings and memories again in the future.

and saying

This ship makes me uncomfortable and/or it makes me experience negative emotions or memories. Everyone should avoid this ship and anyone who fails to avoid it (or worse yet, actively ships it!) is a horrible person. No content for this ship should exist and any content that already does exist for this ship should be removed from the internet. Once no one ships it anymore and all evidence that the ship ever existed has been removed, I will stop experiencing these feelings and memories.