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So why *can't* we have a word for, "adult human female?" Seems like a significant group with lots in common (and lots to talk about.) And why can't that word be "woman?"

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Confront yourself with the uncomfortable reality that gender, sex, and sexuality are all fuzzier than you want them to be.

You cannot hold the idea that gender is a social construct while also holding the idea that sex and sexuality are rigid, unchanging boxes. It's all just words and definitions we created to try to explain human experience and guess what! Human experience is messy and complex and not beholden to a dictionary!

Just like gender, sex and sexuality are also more complicated and complex than any lines you attempt to draw in sand around them. Do what you want forever.

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by will mcphail

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people who actually buy that "breaking the stigma around sex work" will solve the problems in the sex industry are so fucking stupid. oh yeah john the sex buyer definitely killed the woman he paid to rape because he was ashamed, not because he feels entitled to violence against women and has been nurtured by a culture that affirms that entitlement. how thick do you have to be to swallow this obvious pimp propaganda jesus christ

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idk if there's like a good anwser to this or not but

i always wondered why the solution for my dysphoria was hormones and surgery because the solution for my eating disorder isn't to just lose weight, the solution to my anxiety isn't to isolate myself, the solution for my ocd isn't to give into every compulsion, so why is the only solution for my dysphoria giving into it and letting it control my life?

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if you think there is no difference between flipping burgers and being fucked in the ass by a stranger, i cant help you. if you think being forced to work overtime stocking shelves is just as psychologically damaging and traumatic as being raped, i cant help you

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They hate gender non conforming women.

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Amending a sexist ad in Melbourne. “Women are not objects. Turning a woman into a sexualised object is the first step in justifying violence against her.”

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“Back Off Boys, They’re Butch!”

10 themed pin-up intaglio prints, each ~2”x3”

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I hate the constant bullshit trans people pull about how we’re debating about “their right to exist”.

Literally shut the fuck up. Like I know you genuinely don’t know how to talk to someone without attempting to manipulate anyone reading your conversation, but let me make this fucking clear: No radfems believe you don’t deserve to exist. What we believe is that you shouldn’t be allowed to trample the rights and protections of women and gays in pursuit of your own happiness. That’s it. If you see that as wanting you dead, that’s your own problem and also you’re fucking stupid.

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i love night walks. its such a shame im a woman

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It's monstrous how much boys and men love tormenting girls and women. The way so many boys and men actually love scaring and upsetting girls and women on purpose because they think it's funny.

I'm thinking specifically about how I have some phobias of bugs, and I specifically have to hide that from men because once they find out they purposely show me the bugs I'm afraid of to torment me because they think it's funny and cute to torment and upset a woman. Like when one of my male co-workers at my old job found out I was arachnophobic after that he made a point of if he found a spider in the store he'd purposely try to shove it in my face because he thought it was funny and cute to scare me and make me upset. I've had multiple instances of grown male co-workers behaving like this but never a grown female co-worker. Sure, I'm sure there's at least a few grown women in the world out there like that, but for the most part this behavior is only seen in small girls but quickly corrected and beat out of her while men are still tormenting women for fun as grown adults.

Or my mother has a pretty bad phobia of frogs, and she told me a story about how when she was a little girl some boys found out, and they specifically made it a point to collect frogs from outside to throw at her. One time they cornered her in the bathroom and threw buckets of frogs at her, she was sobbing and shaking and having a full blown panic attack while they were laughing. It was for no other reason than they thought it was funny to make a girl upset and scared.

And this ties in with how often if a girl or woman asks a boy or man to stop doing something that bothers her or annoys her they double down and start doing the behavior even more just because they want to upset girls and women. Like schoolgirls asking the boy next to her to stop drumming with his pencils because it's distracting her from being able to pay attention to class, how likely is it he'll actually stop vs just doing it even more loudly and frequently just to bother her? If this is a lifelong pattern for girls this makes girls back off and less likely to stand up to boys and men.

If a girl has for years had a pattern of every time she asks the boys in her class to stop drumming with their pencils while she's trying to pay attention or stop saying gross sexual jokes that make her uncomfortable to her during class or stop poking her and every time they just double down and start doing it even more and even louder or harder just to upset her, is she going to keep asking boys to stop doing things that bother her? Is she going to feel comfortable and safe standing up for herself and asserting her boundaries? Or is she going to get quiet and stop speaking up and hope for the love of god they don't notice the annoyance on her face because if they do that's enough just to make them double down and start doing it more to bother her?

I've seen countless examples of men purposely making women so scared or upset or angry that they're in tears for no other reason than fun and entertainment. Boys and men are fucking sadistic demons. And this keeps girls and women in line, keeps girls and women from being able to stand up for ourselves and assert our personal boundaries to boys and men.

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it’s always bothered me how rape is compared to stealing an object instead of like... torture. I’ve seen people try to explain rape as “even if the front door of the house is open you still shouldn’t go in and steal the tv” but theft is nothing like rape. rape is terrorism. rape is torture.

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look, if you cannot be in public barefaced without being self-conscious & feeling like shit, then your decision to wear makeup is not a choice freely made