Would Love to re-normalize the idea of queer attraction. Like, yeah, Sometimes a butch lesbian and a gay twink fuck, sometimes they make out a punk show, sometimes they dance together in a queer bar. Gender and sexuality are social falsities and an attraction to other queer people for their queerness is actually incredibly common. It’s not weird that butch lesbians might be really into evil gay twinks and its not weird that gay twinks might be really into big butch dykes. Queer attraction, up until the liberal distinctions of enforced queer identities, was just something that we didn’t question – it was just there.
there’s a post i’ve seen make the rounds about “queer attraction” like various different types of gay and trans people being attracted and interacting in erotic or romantic contexts outside of the strict definitions of their identities, like a lesbian being attracted to a gay man in drag or whatever, and both of them being comfortable with exploring that mutually and consensually.
however the post was made by someone who is in a calloutpost for le bad and gross kinks and all the notes of the post are filled with “this post is explained by person’s gross weird fetishes” and its a perfect case of how disgust and puritan sexual ethics take precedence in most people’s brains (especially online in “queer spaces” that are filled with people that have never actually interacted with like, down to earth fags and gender freak transvestites and shit) over any form of autonomy or solidarity or even like. a sense of “fun” or openness and willingness to play around with things a bit. like maybe you are a butch lesbian, and yknow what, maybe you do find that cis gay guy attractive. or maybe you are a trans woman who gets off to the idea of being misgendered by a cis lesbian or whatever the fuck. maybe a straight guy has sex with other men because he lieks being fucked in the ass but isn’t actually “”attracted”” to men. i dont know, and i dont fucking care. like being a bit open to the idea that “people are people a priori to my conceptions of them AND their conceptions of themselves” is a fine thing to think and just because someone did some gross sex kink shit (which is IRRELEVANT to the point at hand) doesn’t mean this idea (that happened to be said by a person who MAY OR MAY NOT BE bad, on the basis of gross sex stuff that you dont like) is worth throwing it. its not jsut throwing the baby out with the bathwater, its drowning the baby in the bath before you throw the whole lot out.
like if you see a post that says “maybe you should be more open to the idea that identities do not have to be static, and also that you can try different behaviours and activities with people without it permanently staining a concrete identity you belong to” and your first response is “hm. this person has problematic kinks, that explains their opinions (which i am conveniently not critiquing on their own merits)” idk what to tell you but you don’t actually give a shit about anything you claim to give a shit about. you don’t care about solidarity or exploring gender or sexuality or interpersonal relationships, you don’t care about lgbt history or anything, you dont! you just don’t. you are just looking for another outrage train to get on, another headline to reblog with a snide comment with 0 reading comprehension or intellectual integrity.