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It's been an honor o7

o7

#asks

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I think I have said and rbed enough. I enjoyed being here. Thank you to everyone who laughed and joked alongside me. It meant more to me than you could know.

#my posts #final post. o7

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I just wanna say how happy I am, regarding how respectfully you're handling this. it reminds me that not everyone is terrible and so readily willing to defend their favorite media/content creator. its honestly devastating, and I'm realizing that I, and probably many others, didn't realize just how *little* we knew about him. its honestly bonkers. but I hope that you- and everyone else reading- are able to heal and move on. much care :]

I have dedicated a huge chunk of my life for the past 3-4ish years to a guy who turned out to not be worth it all. I love the community I built. I loved getting asks from people telling me I made their lives better- that they found me hilarious and enjoyed the banter and the posts and the asks. And I still see that sentiment now, with asks (I’ve chosen not to post) telling me that they appreciated me. That they’re sorry this was how it ended and that they wish me well.

What I loved was the people. I still do. But I cannot forgive Wilbur, and the more that comes out the more I want to spit in his face.

Wilbur is a liar. he’s a manipulator. And, fuck, he did it well. While we’re all aware people have personas they put on online, the extent of his was anything but ordinary. And I imagine more people will come forward about the shit he’s done. I had faith in him, I really did. I trusted that he was a good person because I believe people are good.

I hope his career rots, and I hope people don’t forget. I hope that everyone leaving the community does well in their next chapter. I hope Shelby prospers.

#asks #cw abuse

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hello! it says ur dms r only limited to ppl you follow so i hope you see this ask. could i get your main? :)

Oh my goodness I didn’t realize my messages were closed- so sorry abt that! Theyre open now :’)

#asks

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Confirmation from multiple sources that Wilbur would intimidate and manipulate his friends, and that he reacted poorly when he was held accountable for his actions in the past.

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When making posts about Wilbur being a piece of shit please do NOT:

-Call him “narcissistic”, perpetuating the perspective that NPD is an “abuser disorder”

-Say that it’s obvious he would do this “as a man”. Which gets us NOWHERE.

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Hi I really enjoy your vibe (why does this sound like the setup to a bad joke) and would love to continue following you, can I have your main??

Just made a post about this! You can PM me (via tumblr messages) for my main.

#asks

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If anyone wants to continue to follow me, especially mutuals (which I’ve gotten several asks abt) PM me and I’ll give the user of my main 👍 and fuck wilbur

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some more cc/circle of friends responses speaking out in support of shelby/against wilburs statement: This is not to give them acknowledgement I do believe we should be critical of the circle of friends in their history of silence against abusers. I just want to catalogue their tweets here.

I am not aware of anymore at this time feel free to add on

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Actually, before I log off for the day, I will say, please don't go labelling Wilbur a narcissist or trying to armchair diagnose him with any cluster B disorders. Having NPD doesn't make someone abusive. Being abusive is what makes someone abusive. By armchair diagnosing an abuser with NPD, it's not only just further stigmatising an already very stigmatised and often misunderstood disorder but also, by framing a mental disorder as "abuser disorder", it almost unintentionally shifts blame away from them as a person and their actions and more towards the mental illness that they may or may not have. This isn't to excuse anything Wilbur's done. Just please keep in mind, people with NPD aren't inherently abusive. Wilbur isn't an abuser because he's a "narcissist", he's an abuser because he's abused people

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Onstream, Tubbo called Wilbur's response "fucking vile" and made it clear that no one who defends abusers has a place in his chat. He's visibly pissed and talks about how angry the apology made him

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shout out to whichever admin did this to wilbur’s discord server

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some more cc/circle of friends responses speaking out in support of shelby/against wilburs statement: This is not to give them acknowledgement I do believe we should be critical of the circle of friends in their history of silence against abusers. I just want to catalogue their tweets here.

I am not aware of anymore at this time feel free to add on

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“He wrote songs about how he was a shitty person why are you surprised” I don’t think you understand how meaningful it is when you deal with self loathing to hear art created from an aligning perspective to see the things you’re not proud of in yourself reflected in someone else. You are not a bad person for relating to what he sang about. I’m sorry the self-awareness he feigned was all so hollow in the end.

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I’ve been thinking a lot about Lexi’s stream from yesterday and I just wanted to share my thoughts:

Hearing all the lies Wilbur has told has really like. Well I knew it was bad obviously I knew he was a BAD guy, but hearing the like. Genuine “Women aren’t funny”, just really got me thinking about how much of the platform he built was a lie.

It really hurts because you think of all his songs about all these things that connected with a lot of people, but if he can put on this role of. Actually caring about women’s issues. And it all have been a complete lie, what else has he straight up put on a facade about?

I understand that there is a difference between people and internet personas, but you have to admit that the lengths he went to are beyond normal. An internet persona is usually just more put together, more energetic, etc. It’s not straight up lying about your opinions in order to please your audience. Like that’s insanely shitty and weird.

Call me parasocial for this but it genuinely makes you wonder how far he went. All of it. I don’t know how to articulate this I might be being too vague. It just makes me think if he was willing to foster this community on safety that he didn’t believe in like… why? For the fame and money? Like is it not just easier to believe those opinions instead of just PRETENDING? How do you go so far lying on being on someone’s side just to say it’s all fake 😭Like at what point is it necessary to truly convince yourself of those things.

And again I understand it’s very easy to lie on the internet about you are. I know that. But just like… the sheer SCALE of it.

He’s always came across as pretty humble on and off of stream, so to hear that he was basically doing it all for the sake of getting money and fame and not a genuine care for creation it just. That fucks you up. I haven’t put as much money into him as other people have and I’m grateful but also. I know if I had had the means to that I would’ve. Why would you manipulate people like that, y’know? It’s just. insane to me.

You play this character on an SMP about someone whose struggling with mental health and suicide, and you turn around and abuse your partner, and you lie to your entire audience, and you hurt others in your life. At what point does it just become too much effort to lie to people like that? Why put up this elaborate facade?

I think I’m going in circles now 😭I just want to know if anyone else feels like this.

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Actually im sharing these thoughts here too:

I believe it is healthier to recognize that he IS human and that these emotions are ones that humans have. However he alone is responsible for his actions. While anyone can feel like this, they also have the opportunity to NOT act on it, but Wilbur did, and he has shown that he does not care, and if he does, than it’s not good enough. His actions represent who he is; not his emotions or what he says. Shelby and Lexi said this best on their stream yesterday saying the worded apologies dont matter but the actions you make DO. If you cannot present tangible proof of you changing, you are not sorry.

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Honestly the worst part of it is how much he downplayed it. I know for a fact Shelby brought it up to him that she was hurt and he brushed it off, so for him to turn around and say he was just “slobbish” and “disrespectful” and not ABUSIVE just shows how much he actually understands what he did, which is little to none. You can’t change if you cannot accept full accountability for your mistakes and I stand by that. He cannot claim to have changed while invalidating everything that Shubble has told us, and while it really hurts, these are his true colors. He does not care.

^100%. That is why later I feel the urge to really analyze what he said so people know just how minimizing it is.