you heard of "hating female characters for traits people would find interesting and morally grey in male characters", now get ready for "calling female characters annoying for traits they would consider interesting or quirky in a male character" and its twin sibling "accusing a female character of 'holding grudges' and 'being selfish/unforgiving' over something that people would consider 'traumatised' and 'still feeling hurt' in a male character"