How To Deal With TERFs Harassing You
From, someone who has had TERFs harass aer multiple times, and is exceptionally terrible at following hir own advice.
My number one piece of advice is, if you're a mutual who knows me pretty well: Picture what I would do. Do the opposite.
Don't engage with the TERFs. They don't want a debate. They aren't going to listen to you. They're just baiting you, and they want you to waste your time and energy on them. Don't.
If the TERF makes a point that you feel you have a really good counterpoint to, and you actually do want to talk about that, make a separate post. Say, "I heard the terrible take xyz and here's why that's wrong." Don't engage with the TERF.
Let your friends know what's going on. Request that they send you nice asks. Vent to someone if they say it's okay.
Don't look through the TERF's blog. Does anyone other than me do this anyway? If you also do that, try not to. Look through trans positivity tags or blogs.
Block, block, block.
Turn off notifications if you don't have them off already.
Don't look through the notes of the post they found.
Turn off anon. TERFs are cowards and they don't like showing their faces. (Some of them- get this- go on anon because they don't want anon hate to their blog. Don't send hate if you aren't willing to receive it, jackass.)
If you manage to find the rare brave TERF, consider just turning off asks.
Log off. You can always log off. That is always an option.
Take care of yourself offline. Go outside, if the weather's nice. Drink some tea. Eat some good food. Chat with a friend. Just, be nice to yourself.
If a TERF tells you to kill yourself, or if anyone does- don't do it, please don't do it. That's so disgusting and awful and I'm so sorry if it's happened to you, but that person is wrong and you do not deserve to die, the world would not be a better place if you killed yourself. I'm so, so sorry that someone thinks that, and especially sorry if you believe them, but please don't. Don't let the TERF win. Stay alive out of pure spite, if you must. Don't do it.
It'll go away eventually. They'll get bored and find something new to interest them. It's going to be okay.
They are absolute shitbags and I'm very sorry if they harass you, but here's what to do if they do.
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I envie those pets that have those owners that are like, "spot is apart of the family, we feed home well and give regular vet check ups and play with him all the time but now he is old and we take good care of him."
I wanna be spot. I wanna watch the world go by after a decade of living, while the rain beats off someone's tin roof and the windows are painted blue due to the thick clouds and time of day. A fire would be crackling inside a fire place and I'd go quietly into the night, with a blanket over my old and wethered body.
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