Can you give some advice for a person who dropped out of college, to follow her dream (I want to be a doctor.) But I failed the test I need to take to get in med school (in Brazil) more than 3 times. And today my Mom said to me that when other people ask her what I'm doing... she feels ashamed to say that i'm still studying to get in college. I mean, I'm still nothing. I'm feeling like shit, but I can't give up, but I have the feeling that no one believes that I'll be in med school someday. :/
Nobody has ever been nothing. Â We are all equally something and some of us are much luckier than others. Â I was less lucky than I am now for over a quarter of my life, which is something like three quarters of my adult life - Iâm not lucky enough to be good at math - my point is, Iâve felt like ânothingâ for more waking hours on this planet than Iâve felt like anything.
Iâm as bad at giving advice to others as you are at passing that med school test. Â But believe me, thatâs all that test is measuring: your ability to pass it. Â It is not measuring the type or quality of doctor you might one day be, and it is certainly not measuring your worth as a person. Â If this is something you honestly want, I would bet youâre going to end up getting it. Â Or, at the very least, being totally satisfied that you left no stone unturned.
Your Mom is probably just expressing, in that frequently frustrating Mom way, that sheâs worried sheâs not being a good Mom. Â She doesnât want to see you fail, she doesnât want you to have a bad life, because sheâs measuring her abilities as a Mom by your outcomes, same as youâre measuring yourself by this med test. Â Iâm sure being a Mom is harder than being a doctor but Iâm also sure the entrance exam was easier. Â Moms canât push a button and stop being Moms just because weâve decided weâre grown up, and the things they say in an attempt to keep âraisingâ us can get under our skin. Â But the biggest favor you can do yourself and your Mom (and everyone else) is to be confident about what you want. Â To know why you want it. Â Then you have honesty on your side. Â Then anyone opposing you is opposing the truth, and thatâs a bad side to be on in the long run.
I donât know you, I donât know youâll be a perfect doctor, or a doctor at all. Â There are realities with which to contend. Â But because reality is inescapable, itâs important that we make a choice, in our heads, to counterbalance reality with things that defy it. Â Gravity is a reality, but humans fly. Â The language weâre exchanging, the fillings in our teeth, the pavement on the road outside, everywhere you look, for better or for worse, youâre going to see evidence that accepting reality is not a humanâs tendency, and not what weâre good at, and not, in my speculation, what God or Natural Selection hired us to do. Â Weâve been hired, by this universe, to dream, to aspire, to make things that werenât real real - and because that involves a lot of failure, weâre damn good at doing that, too.
Without the benefit of details, I say stay the course. Â I say keep failing. Â Fall flat on your face, feel every scrape, roll in the dirt and scream in frustration. Â Tell your mother you love her but the fact is, she either raised a doctor or she raised a girl thatâs going to fail, spectacularly, at it, and in either case, sheâs done her part. Â Go fail that test a fourth time. Â And get it on the fifth. Â Or sixth. Â Push this thing to the absolute limit, make them create a new law against your level of desire, make them arrest you for wanting to be a doctor, and when they let you out, run to fail the test again, so that when youâre slipping away from this reality, which could happen at any time, youâre not spending your last moments thinking anything but âwell, I did my best.â Â Also, watch Rick and Morty on Adult Swim in December.
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