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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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reminder that addicts who aren't in recovery deserve just as much compassion and support as those who are.
and that addicts in recovery don't inherently have any moral high ground over those who aren't.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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DBT strengthening statements
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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i am begging everyone to cease using the phrase “differently abled”. “differently abled” implies i can do the same things as abled/able-bodied people, just in my own unique way.  no.  i am disabled.  there are things i literally cannot do no matter how hard i try.  words matter. choose wisely. 
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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As y'all have probably picked up on, we did not launch in July as planned. As all members of the team are currently stressed or depressed etc beyond the usual, I cannot say when/if we will be able to return to the project. I'm so sorry.
I'm going to close the inbox, because none of us have the spoons to answer asks, and I feel really bad about ignoring all of you guys reaching out for help and information.
That means the project is on hiatus. I'm not going to delete the blog, and Kat may or may not continue the queue, and we all sincerely hope to return to the project as it's something of a dream.
Unfortunately it can't be sustained right now, and therefore I'm taking these measures. Thank you so much everyone for your support of the project.
I really hope this will become a reality in the future.
Take care everyone!
Quinn
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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You have approximately a 50% chance of experiencing either temporary or long-term disability before the age of 65...
The struggles experienced by disabled people might not effect you today but fighting for proper accessibility and inclusivity might save you tomorrow.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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most people have a hard time accepting what they are going through is valid to begin with. Don’t add to that insecurity. 
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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Daily reminder that disability is not a punishment, no matter what. Anyone can become disabled at any time and that includes you, it is not retribution for doing bad things, it’s just a fact of life.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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As I've previously mentioned, my grandmother grew up on a farm in Småland.
Her father had hired a farmhand to help with the cattle and the farm work. The farmhand had a disabled brother named Gunnar.
This was back in the 1930s, so Gunnar didn't have any diagnosis or anything. But his body simply didn't allow him to do heavy lifting and physically demanding jobs. He also seems to have had a poor immune system. And so he struggled to make a living. Working as a farmhand was one of very few career opportunities for a man with no (formal) education back then. (At least in that area.)
So the able-bodied brother asked if Gunnar could come and work on the farm, despite not being able to do hard manual labor. And my great-grandfather agreed to this.
Gunnar started helping my great-grandmother around the house. He was physically unable to do "a man's job", but he turned out to be incredibly good at "women's" work. My great-grandmother had been feeling lonely, working alone in a big farmhouse all day. Gunnar didn't just help lessen the burden of running a household. Him and my great-grandmother became close friends. They talked and sang and drank coffee in the comfortable silence between people who truly know, trust and love eachother.
My grandmother was an only child for most of her childhood, and Gunnar was her best friend. He always had time to tell her a story, or to play with her, or to just let her sit in his lap while he drank his coffee. And she loved him to bits.
According to my grandmother, nobody could tell as good stories and fairy tales as Gunnar. He had a way of bringing any story to life, to make you feel like you were there, with the prince in the enchanted castle. (He also accidentally put her off eating liquorice for an entire lifetime, but that's a story for another day.)
I never got to meet Gunnar. He died when I was just a child. (My grandmother actually brought me along to the funeral.) But despite never having met him, I still feel like I know him, because my grandmother has told me so much about him.
The only thing she didn't tell me about until very recently was his disability.
Because it simply didn't matter. Not to her, and not to the rest of the family. He wasn't "the disabled one" - he was just Gunnar. And if Gunnar couldn't do heavy lifting, someone else could do it so what did it matter?
Gunnar had his own responsibilities on the farm. He was allowed to work and contribute to the survival of the farm pretty much on his own terms. He wasn't forced (or expected) to do things that hurt his body. He was allowed to focus on the things that he could do, and he was respected for doing them.
Gunnar was not a burden. Gunnar was a skilled and diligent worker. He was also a good friend and a loving member of the family.
I wanted to share this story with y'all because I feel like this is a perspective on disability that's almost never brought up.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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You are under no obligation to forgive anyone who has hurt and/or wronged you. If you forgive them, please make sure it’s something you’re doing for you and not someone else. You’re what’s important in your healing.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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disability advocacy went wrong when it became about inspiration porn and “differently abled” and savants. its incredible that that guy with no legs did a triathlon but your sister with no legs will not and she doesnt need prosthetics or five hour training days to deserve respect and compassion and accommodations. its incredible that that autistic guy can look at a city from a helicopter for an hour and then draw the entire detailed skyline from memory when he lands but your autistic friend cannot and they dont need to have a special Autism Power to deserve respect and compassion and accommodations. 
activism framed around “we are just as CAPABLE” means that when people genuinely are less capable they are left behind. activism framed around “we are just as WORTHY” is fundamental to radical compassion.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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Just because you gained weight doesn't mean you've lost value. Just because you're disabled doesn't mean you've lost value. We're all perfect how we are, and just need to learn how to accept ourselves.
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A drawing of a person from the side, they are taking their fingers through their hair, wearing a green bra, underwear, and socks; the bra having a green sheer fabric that covers up their stomach and back, but it's still possible to see the person's belly fat and back rolls. There is text that says "sometimes we gain weight because of our disabilities" above the person, and "and that's okay" below them.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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yes, internalised ableism is a real thing that many disabled people grapple with. but I’ve seen a few people use the term incorrectly, so I’m just going to make something clear
if someone with POTS makes a diabetes joke, that’s not internalised ableism. that’s ableism.
if someone with ADHD steals someone’s mobility aid, that’s not internalised ableism. that’s ableism.
having one disability and being insecure about that is not an excuse to act like a dick towards other disabled people. internalised ableism explains the pressures you put on yourself. it doesn’t explain ableist behaviour that is completely unrelated to your own struggles
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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Disabled pride is putting your own feelings about your disability above all else. Mourn want you feel must be mourned; celebrate what you feel must be celebrated. Nobody gets to tell you how you are supposed to feel.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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The term trigger(ed) is a valid and extremely useful medical and psychological term. It is used by all forms of mental health professionals.
Neurotypicals have tried to make it “embarassing” or “cringey” to use it, and try to make us ashamed of using accurate and scientific terminology to describe our experiences as trauma survivors, mentally ill and developmentally disabled people.
I believe a large part of the reason they do this is to silence us. To try and make us ashamed of describing our experiences. To try and make is hide away our symptoms. To try and silence us.
Don’t let them. If the word trigger/triggered describes your experiences and helps you express them, use them! No matter how much they mock it and try to turn it into a meme, we wont let them ruin such a useful (and sometimes life saving!) psychological term.
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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I don’t care if something is “natural”, because natural is not the same as real. maybe being trans is unnatural or medication is unnatural. or whatever else. but. that doesn’t make the experiences any less real or helpful. we live in a very unnatural world. get over it
stop asking yourself if something is natural and start asking yourself if it improves your quality of life
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psyched-for-you · 2 years
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it’s not your fault if people are ableist towards you.
you could be the most “cringe” disabled person in the world and you wouldn’t deserve ableism.
you could be the loudest or most assertive disabled person in the world and you wouldn’t deserve ableism.
it doesn’t matter who you are, what disability you have, or how you act… no disabled person is asking for ableism. you shouldn’t have to earn basic human respect and decency
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