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JODIE COMER as VILLANELLE

↳ Killing Eve 4.04 It's Agony and I'm Ravenous

#villanelle #killing eve

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#also this one #hbo succession

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succession 3.03 the disruption  /  succession 4.09 church and state

#filed under posts that make me insane #shiv roy #logan roy #logan + shiv #hbo succession

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#i need another them #only y'know #with a better ending #eve x villanelle #killing eve

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SUCCESSION (2018–2023)

#an angel #shiv roy #hbo succession

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Crazy ex girlfriend really put themselves out there with having a female protagonist. A female protagonist that dosent have the body of a supermodel. A mentally ill female protagonist. A female protagonist that is explicitly a bad person yet is treated with sympathy AND held responsible for her actions at the same time. A female protagonist that is a more fair and accurate portrayal of mental illness then most men with mental illness in media are. A female protagonist that is allowed to exist as a complicated person and not woman™. A female protagonist that is a parody and a empathetic exploration of a sexist stereotype. they did all of that while also having a mainly POC cast with diverse body types and sexualities that are all treated as actual people and not monoliths of the minority they are representing. And they balanced all that with being consistently funny, entertaining, touching, heartwarming and having really really good music for 4 seasons. WE SHOULD TALK ABOUT THIS SHOW MORE

#crazy ex-girlfriend

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Hi! I am at anon who asked for advice.  my best friend invited me to the social event, being the people pleaser I am I agreed to it. I have the worst social anxiety, and much rather be home than out, especially in a weekday when I have so much homework to do. My friend is the complete opposite. She is a social butterfly and thrives in social situations. this is a work event and I know it’s something that is important to her. I know I’m overthinking but I regret saying yes because now I’m so anxious over it. How do I tell her I don’t really really wanna go ? Should I even back out especially so close to the event . I can’t Help but think that if the roles were reverse, she would do it for me. I feel like a bad friend if I say no, what do you think? Have you ever been in this kind of situation ? 

Hey! I'm so sorry for the late reply, anon, the last couple of days got away from me a bit (my sister and little nephews have come to stay today, and the lead-up to them being here was a bit more hectic than I anticipated, haha), so I might have missed the window for this, and I'm sorry if I have!

But to answer truthfully - - I don't know. It's hard to give advice in approaching a situation like this without knowing all the dynamics at play, but I do tend to think that honesty is generally a good thing.

A frank conversation with your friend about what both her and your own needs and capacity are could go a long way.

To me, in answering this though, I think there are actually two areas to be unpacked and explored, one being to do with your feelings of social anxiety, and the other being to do with the expected reciprocity of friendship. I might start with the latter, if that's okay, just because I think I have an easier answer for it, haha.

So yeah, look, when it comes to friendship, I do believe in give and take. I believe in 50/50, but that doesn't mean every interaction and every exchange needs to be reciprotated then and there, nor does it need to be received or given back in the same way. When I look at my closest friendships, there are time where I feel I've given 110% of it - whether through break-ups or other troubled friendships or the loss of a parent or just general mental health, but in most of those, there have been times I know I've taken the same levels of support from them too.

Life's long, and friendships that are built to last are going to have ebb and flow to them. Listening to what your friends need, and giving when you have the capacity to give, is really important, just as being able to speak and lean on them when they have the capacity to give and you need to take is important too.

Thing is though, it can't just exist for the big stuff. The little stuff matters too. I suspect I'm a little older than you, given your mention of homework, haha, so my advice-built-off-experience is that friendships can schism over small things, especially when small things take on greater meaning. I'm not saying this to guilt you - you shouldn't feel guilted at all - but you say this is important to your friend, which means you're right (and already a good friend) to treat it as A Real Decision whether or not to go.

This might not be the popular take on tumblr.com, but if it's important to her, I do think you should go. If she's invited you, with notice, it likely means that beyond it mattering to her, she wants you there, and even showing up can be something that deepens your connection and further realises your friendship. Because again, as you get older, you realise how much showing up for people matters.

If you can't though, if it is too much, then find ways to make it up to her that are more comfortable to you. I'm currently going through a very difficult situation with my sister in family court, and one of my best friends in the world can't listen to me talk about it because it's a professional conflict of interest (she works in family court! And could even potentially work on my sister's case!) and that's!! Really fucking hard!! But she's found other ways to support me in ways I didn't expect which can really be boiled down to just being really present as a friend even if she can't actually talk to me about this stuff going on in my life. (And we've booked in a weekend away for once court is done, haha).

Right now, it's not always what I need from her, but it's what she's able to give, and it's deliberate and feels omnipresent at this point, and I love her for that.

With your social anxiety - - I don't think I have it to the same extent as you, but I feel it. I have it. I love cancelling plans, haha, but I find that cancelling plans rarely feels good in the long run. A (different) very good friend of mine told me a few years ago that when it comes to managing social anxiety, you tend to regret going less than you regret not going at all, and I think that's true.

So here's my advice: try and go, if you can, and just prepare a few questions. The thing to remember is that people love to talk about themselves, most of the time - in my experience, at least - because they're also a little awkward and their own experiences are something that they feel comfortable talking about. To ask them about them as a result keeps the lens away from you, but also builds opportunities for connection.

Questions I find are good openers / convo re-starters:

How do you know [our mutual friend]?

What do you do for a living / what are you studying? Oh! Does your family have a background in that / do your parents work in that industry [always a great one to invite usually a deluge of emotion and stories]

Have you watched / read anything good recently?

Habe you watched / read anything crap recently?

How'd you get here tonight? [especially if you're in a public transport city - people love to bitch about PT]

[compliment an accessory / hairstyle / item of clothing]

So yes! Sorry, this might be too late (and maybe not what you want to hear) but I think in the first instance, I'd assess your capacity, and what your friend needs in the situation to understand yourself how much you'd be giving in going, but if it's not too much, I'd encourage you to go. I think just showing up for people means a lot - - everything, some of the time (a lot of the time) - - and hell, if it's crap, at least you might get a good story out of it.

#rl #welcome to my ama

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Are you going to see The challengers thoughts on the trailer?

Yeah, I'm planning on it, anon! It actually came out last Thursday here, but my sister and little nephews are staying with me, so Kung Fu Panda 4 has been booked in for my weekly cinema slot, haha.

I haven't been sold on the trailer tbh, but I really like the cast a lot, and am excited by the good reviews! It sounds like a fun premise - throuples, duelling timelines and women puppeteering is always up my alley - so I'm hoping for the best and aiming to see it Tuesday week.

As an aside too, I'm really loving that Zendaya's gone the route she has in getting her team to scour The Blacklist for a script and approach a director like Luca Guadagnino to make a star vehicle for her. It feels old Hollywood! Too often these days actors try to write and/or direct star vehicles for themselves, and it almost always ends in disaster. For her to take her career into her own hands not by trying to (or thinking she can) do everything herself, but by seeking out, and surrounding herself with (and in turn, uplifting!) other talented people - - that's the way a healthy industry does and should work.

So yes! I hope it is a movie star vehicle for her, and I hope a lot of other creative people get lifted up in the process.

#film asks #welcome to my ama

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ANNA SAWAI as MARIKO in SHŌGUN (2024–) Chapter Nine: Crimson Sky

#toda mariko #shogun

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DAWSON'S CREEK (1998-2003) Season 3, Episode 22 - The Anti-Prom

#this scene... #joey x pacey #dawson's creek

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I acknowledge that, henceforth, my access to my memories will be spatially dictated. I will be unable to access outside recollections whilst on Lumon’s severed basement floor, nor retain work memories upon my ascent. I am aware that this alteration is comprehensive and irreversible. I make these statements freely.

Severance 1.02 “Half Loop”

#severance

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May 2024 Movie Challenge

Mother's Day s this month. Watch any movie where motherhood is a central theme.

Cannes Film Festival is also this month. Watch any movie that has won the festival's major award, the Palme D'Or.

Criterion has recently launched a 24/7 streaming channel. Watch one of the movies they've aired so far.

Furiosa comes out this month. Watch a car movie! Some suggestions.

Watch a movie where a character is out of their usual environment or a fish out of water. Some suggestions (but there are a lot more than this around!)

It's Free Comic Book Day this month! Watch a movie adapted from a comic book or manga.

Watch a movie where the justice system is involved (courtroom drama, prison drama, crime drama, etc.)

May is apparently mystery month. Watch a mystery film. Some suggestions.

It's Spring in the Northern Hemisphere and Autumn in the Southern. Watch a movie that embodies either season. Some suggestions for Spring and Autumn.

Watch a film with a character's name in the title i.e. Rebecca, Dr. Dolittle, Mrs. Harris Goes to Paris.

#will this finally be the month i watch mommie dearest? #i've still got half the movies on my april list to watch but am already dreaming about picks for may haha #movies

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#this is fascinating to me

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i think one thing that bridgerton s2 does well is establish why kate and anthony gravitate to each other. so many romance stories flop because they cant convince you what the deal is but bridgerton is like well they are both eldest siblings they are both patronizing and overbearing they are both control freak know it alls. put them in a jar lock them in a room. haha

#yessssss #anthony x kate #bridgerton

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Blackthorne x Mariko

SHŌGUN (2024)

#john x mariko #shogun #I am UNWELL

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#rita hayworth

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. I love your blog. you always give the most thoughtful answers. Would it be OK if I asked for some advice? 🥺

Of course, anon!