radicalromanov

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i got rickrolled today but it didn't work because i have adblocker installed, so youtube just told me i violated the terms of service. yesterday i was trying to edit a picture as a joke for my girlfriend, and google made me check a box to prove i'm human because i wasn't "searching normally".

it isn't just that capitalism is killing fun and whimsy, it is that any element of entertainment or joy is being fed upon by this mosquito body, one that will suck you dry at any vulnerability.

do you want to meet new friends in your city? download this app, visit our website, sign up for our email list. pay for this class on making a terrarium, on candlemaking, on cooking. it will be 90 dollars a session. you can go to group fitness, but only under our specific gym membership. solve the puzzle, sign up for our puzzle-of-the-month-club. what is a club if not just a paid opportunity - you are all paying for the same thing, which makes you a community.

but you're like me, i know it - you're careful, you try the library meetings and the stuff at the local school and all of that. the problem is that you kind of want really specific opportunities that used to exist. you are so grateful for libraries and the publicly-funded things: they are, however, an exception - and everything they have, they've fought tooth-and-nail to protect. you read a headline about how in many other states, libraries have virtually nothing left.

do you want to meet up with your friends afterwards? gift your friends the discord app. you can choose to go to a cafe (buy a coffee, at least), a bar (money, alcohol) or you can all stay in and catch a movie (streaming) or you can all stay in bed (rent. don't get me started) and scream (noise complaint. ticket at least).

you want to read a new book, but the book has to have 124 buzzwords from tiktok readers that are, like, weirdly horny. you can purchase this audiobook on audible! your podcast isn't on spotify, it's on its own server, pay for a different site. fuck, at least you're supporting artists you like. the art museum just raised their ticket price. once, they had a temporary exhibit that acknowledged that ~85% of their permanent art galleries were from cis white men, and that they had thousands of works by women (even famous women, like frida! georgia o'keefe!) just rotting in their basement. that exhibit lasted for 3 months and then they put everything away again.

walmart proudly supports this strip of land by the street! here are some flowers with wilting leaves. its employees have to pay out-of-pocket for their uniforms. my friend once got fined by the city because she organized a community pick-up of the riverfront, which was technically private property.

no, you cannot afford to take that dance class, neither can i. by the way - i'm a teacher. i'm absolutely not saying "educators shouldn't be paid fairly." i'm saying that when i taught classes, renting a studio went from 20 bucks an hour to 180 in the span of 6 months. no significant changes to the studio were made, except they now list the place as updated and friendly. the heat still doesn't work in the building. i have literally never seen the landlord who ignores my emails. recently they've been renting it out at night as an "unusual nightclub; a once-in-a-lifetime close-knit party." they spent some of those 180 dollars on LEDs and called it renovating. the high heels they invite in have been ruining the marley.

do you want to experience the old internet? do you want to play flash games or get back the temporary joy of club penguin? you can, you just need to pay for it. i have a weird, neurodivergent obsession with occasionally checking in to watch the downfall and NFT-ification of neopets. if i'm honest with you all - i never got into webkins, my family didn't have the money to buy me a pointless elephant. people forget that "being poor" can mean literally "if i buy you that toy, i can't afford rent."

you and i don't have time to make good food, and we don't have the budget for it. we are not gonna be able to host dinner parties, we're not made of money, kid. do you want some kind of 3rd space? a space that isn't home or work or school? you could try being online, but - what places actually exist for you? tiktok counts as social media because you see other people on it, not because they actually talk to you.

there was a local winter tradition of sledding down the hill at my school. kids would use pizza boxes and jackets and whatever worked, howling and laughing. back in september, they made a big announcement that this time, rules were changing, and everyone must pay 10 dollars to participate. when im not scared shitless, i kind of appreciate the environmental irony - it hasn't gone below 40. so much for snow & joyriding.

i saw a bulletin for a local dogwalking group and, nervous about making a good first impression, showed up early. the first guy there grimaced at me. "sorry," he said. "there's a 30-dollar buy-in fee." i thought he was joking. wait. for what? the group doesn't offer anything except friendship and people with whom to walk around the city.

he didn't know the answer. just shrugged at me. "you know," he said. "these days, everything costs money."

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It is not a coincidence that asexuality is becoming more popular as mainstream depiction of human sexuality is becoming more violent. Perfectly normal, healthy young people, are looking at this filthy and feeling understandable disgusted by it. But because sex is depicted by porn and online discourse as violent and "kinky", the disgust for this type of sex becomes disgust of sex in general.

You are not asexual, you are a sane person in an insane world.

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Anyway that Females bullshit by andrea long chu is only about 100 pages and I found a PDF so im gonna read it and report back

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it's so cringe how every song on the radio by a woman is about how good she is at having sex. id make a song about being ass at sex. i twist the dick like a pretzel and bite it off that's what id sing

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If the men with power were not predators, it would be impossible for a woman to sleep her way to the top.

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boy moms make me so mad that i am going to make having a daughter my whole personality the way they make having a son theirs. yes she's a genius yes she feels things very deeply and profoundly yes she's a month old. i am a girl mom and everyone is just coping and seething about it

#terf #radfem #terf safe #me

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can someone let boymoms know that these are normal baby things that pretty much all babies do regardless of sex

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The culture is so bad all the songs are made from samples of old songs all the movies are remakes of movies that didn’t need to be remade everyone gets surgery to look the same

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Since Fried Green Tomatoes was recently added to Netflix, there’s been a surge of posting about it, and a lot of it is so flabbergasting to me as a woman who is so thoroughly Fannie Flagg-pilled.

A public service announcement to all and sundry complaining about it not being more explicitly gay:

It was the early ‘90s and this is a mid-budget mainstream PG-13 movie meant for mass appeal

Ruth and Idgie are very clearly in love and considered a married couple in the book

The food fight scene is a metaphor for sex (the director confirmed this)

The author of the book and co-screen writer of the movie is an extremely hot lesbian

Like I need you to know the author is this woman:

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I was at a courthouse once, and saw an indigenous australian woman in a dressing gown very carefully and gingerly making her way down the steps outside the courthouse, surrounded by family who were helping her down the stairs. We asked if she was OK, because she looked awful. She looked like she should have been wrapped up in bed with blankets and hot soup, not on the steps of a courthouse.

One of her family told us that she had given birth yesterday evening, but that Child Protection services had taken her baby away with no warning, claiming that she wasnt prepared to look after him. What had happened, is that she'd literally only just given birth -- hadn't even passed the afterbirth yet, is holding her blood-coated, crying, newborn baby to her chest -- and a nurse asked what her feeding plan was. She was tired from the birth and distracted by the brand new baby in her arms and thrown off by the timing of the question, but still, she managed to answer, and said she planned to breastfeed him whenever he was hungry.

Well apparently that wasn't enough of a plan for the hospital staff, who reported her and claimed that she was unprepared to look after the child, and claimed that had no social supports, and that the baby was at risk if left with her. All because a brand new mother, 30 seconds after giving birth, didn't have a PowerPoint presentation ready to go that cited the timing cycle she would feed her kid on, and instead simply said that she would feed him when he was hungry.

Child Protection services showed up, took her kid, and she was told to show up to court the next day to contest custody if she wanted her baby back.

So a woman who had given birth less than 24 hours prior was forced to rally her family and show up to court to prove that she a) had a feeding plan for the child, and b) had enough social supports to justify reclaiming her baby.

It was one of the most appalling things I'd ever seen. I don't even know if she won her case. They didn't know at the time we saw them, and after that brief interaction on the stairs, i never saw them again. I sincerely hope she got her newborn baby back.

That was about 5 years ago. And the exact same kind of thing is still happening today.

News broke today from a South Australian whistle-blower of the appalling treatment new mothers frequently receive, including hospital staff taking the baby away from the mother "for medical tests," only for the mother to then be told, with absolutely no prior warning, that the baby was not going to be returned to her.

Here's the article, and here are some excerpts:

#when i gave birth they asked me the same question #and i said essentially the same thing #i cannot imagine them taking my baby for that #im nursing her as i type this

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Maïwenn looks at me. “I have to be honest. It’s difficult to shoot with him... all the crew were scared because he has a different kind of humour and we didn’t know if he was going to be on time, or if he was going to be OK to say his lines... I mean, even if he was there on set, on time, the crew were afraid of him.” Nor has the situation improved. “There’s been no normal relationship since the shoot,” says Maïwenn. She shrugs. “Johnny for me is a huge genius but he’s in another world. I cannot communicate with him.”

once again depp proving that he is a truly piece of shit.

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U.S. conservatives always talk about creating jobs but get SO MAD whenever anyone mentions banning prison labor like imagine the insane ammout of jobs that would be created literally overnight if companies in your country had to actually employ people instead of using slave labor from people that got caught with weed 10 years ago.

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the constant pressure women have to figure out how to be eco responsible for things like diapers, pads, tampons, condoms, birth control pills, the food they feed their kids, the soaps and laundry detergent they use...yes, it's on the table. but it's crazy that you hardly see the same pressures applied to men who most definitely have more leniency to use products for their pleasure. "do you know how many diapers are in land fills?" idk do we know how much energy is consumed by video games?? imagine a campaign around turning off your video games to save the earth or comparing the difference between the energy consumption of 2 hour board game vs 6 hours of video games. instead of focusing on moms who have to take care of their completely dependent baby or women who can't help but menstruate or w/e

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is it mean that i legit think that a large portion of young people who claim to be asexual are just socially inept so no one wants to date or have sex with them, leading to a large group of virgins who go 'well, i didn't want to be with anyone anyway!', meanwhile they are constantly hornyposting and talking about how sexually attracted they are to fictional characters?

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"How did we not see this?" "How did we not know that what Ariana Grande/Jamie Lynn/Amanda Bynes were doing was a sexual reference?"

Because that is part of the appeal, guys. The fact that you're part of an unwilling, not-understanding audience exposed to metaphors of sexual acts performed by unwilling, not-understanding actors.

You were not supposed to get what "Taynt" was supposed to mean, or what milking potatoes was a nod to, or what a pickle being passed through a hole in a bathroom door was meant to be.

It's all part of the fantasy, pushing children so, so close to the edge without "ruining" them, without giving them access to enough information that they turn into adults.

Wonder why Ariana Grande, in those internet skits, kept repeating "Can a teenage girl do this?" and "Can a teenage girl do that?" This is why. She's supposed to perform sexual adjacent acts, but constantly remind her audience that she's just too young to know what she's doing.

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"There's nothing wrong with plastic surgery" stfu everything is wrong w plastic surgery altering ur healthy face and body and 4 what? 2 fit into a misogynistic trend it's insane 2 me how bbls and implants and nose jobs have become so normalized in society like it's pure mental illness these women should be spending money on therapy not getting under the knife risking their lives and still get criticized 4 it

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can we talk about how literally 64% of people wear glasses, and yet we NEVER see them in movies/tv unless it's on some nerdy or uncool character? why do we adhere to such a weird beauty standard that subconsciously makes us feel bad for,, not being able to see???