randomfatechidna

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inka on procreate is literally The harrowhark brush sorry i do make the rules

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New Taylor swift song called fuck like a mountain rat

#world heritage

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swamp jimin hwaiting

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i can't believe this is real this sounds like it was pulled directly from the "i wanna have straight sex" tiktok

#she didn’t say homophobia. #did she.

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there was a tiktok I made a while ago basically saying "your abusive ex boyfriend is more likely a misogynist than a narcissist" and while most people agreed some said I was victim blaming(?) and that I couldn't know what their ex is like, and while obviously I don't, every fucking person describing their narcissistic ex is describing a typical misogynist. ask yourself, is this behavior you associate with narcissism directed at women or does he treat his male friends the same way? is his general functioning in life impaired?

many people don't seem to know this, but a mental disorder is NOT based on symptoms alone, it's based on how much the symptoms actually impair you in daily life. most people could look at a list of mental disorder symptoms and identify either themselves or someone else with them. as far as a narcissistic personality, we all know people who appear more self absorbed than others, but this is typically subclinical narcissism (presence of narcissistic traits without significant impairment of functioning) which is not a disorder. there is also a misunderstanding of what npd is. a narcissist is not a supervillain invincible to emotion. npd is a defensive reaction to trauma that lead to deep insecurity and fear of being seen as weak or vulnerable. so narcissists aren't actually "in love with themselves" at all and often are diagnosed when seeking help for other issues such as substance abuse resulting from their struggles.

this focus a lot of abused women in online pop psychology have on narcissism is particularly concerning because it completely glosses over misogyny which is literally a huge factor in violence against women. people really only know misogyny as a surface level thing. they don't know it can lead to family annihilation, for example, and is one reason most family annihilations are committed by the husband. it's always "this man is a sociopath" "this man is a narcissist" when the man's behavior is driven by ideology. I am so fucking tired of everything being tied to mental illness and left at that. you know what this leads to? courts "fixing" abusive men by...giving them anger management therapy. guess what? it doesn't fucking do anything because the problem isn't mental instability leading to anger, it's targeted, purposeful abuse. we are getting nowhere

#GOD THIS #this is what fucks me about the bondi murderer being framed as a schizophrenic BEFORE a violent misogynist #‘it’s not terrorism because there was no ideology behind it’ HE KILLED WOMEN BUDDY!

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the humble "like" is oft mocked despite what it does for us. "like, three people" is a vastly different statement from "three people". "and i was like 'what the fuck'" is vastly different from "and i said 'what the fuck'". i love you "like" and anyone who says you make people sound stupid will be killed on sight

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#it’s literally 17 seven 76 amennn

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oh well. at least we have leg hair.

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serial unaliver takes me out every fucking time

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How i sleep knowing I’ll never bring a child into this world

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#repel dust but the sounds one was a HUGE contender

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losing my mind at this

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nothing makes me go "ooooh we are NOT the same" quite like reading some post about how people talk with their parents about their interests. what do you mean you told your father about stevebucky. what do you mean he asked further questions

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#none its sooo fucked #i need to break the ice and just get one

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I cant do this anymore

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next year will be half a decade since the confession btw

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sighing dreamily thinking about vampire!dulcie.

#god. head in hands. fuck. #gtn