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"oh sorry, i guess i was infodumping again" - sad, shy, apologetic

"you sly dog, you got me monologuing" - cool, strong, confident

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i would make an advice post about executive function but unfortunately i havent figured it out yet. testing methods later. not rn though ill do it later. probably

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It kind of bugs me that Tumblr has seized upon “taking everything literally” as the Defining Neurodivergent Experience™ – not only because it’s actually pretty uncommon, but also because it’s erasing an enormous variety of other frequent communication style issues, including but not limited to:

Having your brain stubbornly seize upon the first interpretation that happens to pop into your head as the Only Possible Interpretation, regardless of whether it’s literal or figurative  

Easily identifying several possible interpretations of a statement, but having absolutely no ability to parse for context and identify which of those interpretations is most plausible  

Being confronted with a statement that has Implications, then getting thrown for a loop when it turns out that the speaker wasn’t considering any of that and really did just mean it literally  

Perfectly understanding a statement’s intended meaning, but getting annoyed with the speaker anyway because they didn’t phrase it Correctly, seriously, are you the only person here who gives a shit about the goddamn Rules?

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GOOD blog bro props on the blog big fan

*sonic the hedgehog voice* NICE BLOG

THANKS bro thanks for the ask bro appreciate it thabnks

-rat voice- THANK YOU

#eats you

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fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says "actually works" does actually work.

hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.

hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy

hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it

hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently

hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love

horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i'm gonna do it tho

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real quick reminder that there is no “right way” to be productive. there are ways that work for you as an individual, and there are ways that work better for others. you’re only doing something the “wrong way” if what you’re doing isn’t working 

#adhd #nuerodivergent #nuerodiversity #this isnt just for nuerodivergent people btw !!! #tips #reminder! #studyblr #study space #the right way is what works for you #productivity #advice

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hehe

that fun adhd time when you get so understimulated you have to do jumping jacks while listening to most obnoxious 2012 electronic dance music you can find on 1.25x speed and it’s still not enough

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How to Handle Having TOO MUCH To Do

So let’s say you’re in the same boat I am (this is a running theme, have you noticed?) and you’ve just got, like, SO MUCH STUFF that HAS to get done YESTERDAY or you will DIE (or fail/get fired/mope). Everything needs to be done yesterday, you’re sick, and for whatever reason you are focusing on the least important stuff first. What to do!

Take a deep breath, because this is a boot camp in prioritization.

Make a 3 by 4 grid. Make it pretty big. The line above your top row goes like this: Due YESTERDAY - due TOMORROW - due LATER. Along the side, write: Takes 5 min - Takes 30 min - Takes hours - Takes DAYS.

Divide ALL your tasks into one of these squares, based on how much work you still have to do. A thank you note for a present you received two weeks ago? That takes 5 minutes and was due YESTERDAY. Put it in that square. A five page paper that’s due tomorrow? That takes an hour/hours, place it appropriately. Tomorrow’s speech you just need to rehearse? Half an hour, due TOMORROW. Do the same for ALL of your tasks

Your priority goes like this:

5 minutes due YESTERDAY

5 minutes due TOMORROW

Half-hour due YESTERDAY

Half-hour due TOMORROW

Hours due YESTERDAY

Hours due TOMORROW

5 minutes due LATER

Half-hour due LATER

Hours due LATER

DAYS due YESTERDAY

DAYS due TOMORROW

DAYS due LATER

At this point you just go down the list in each section. If something feels especially urgent, for whatever reason - a certain professor is hounding you, you’re especially worried about that speech, whatever - you can bump that up to the top of the entire list. However, going through the list like this is what I find most efficient.

Some people do like to save the 5 minute tasks for kind of a break between longer-running tasks. If that’s what you want to try, go for it! You’re the one studying here.

So that’s how to prioritize. Now, how to actually do shit? That’s where the 20/10 method comes in. It’s simple: do stuff like a stuff-doing FIEND for 20 minutes, then take a ten minute break and do whatever you want. Repeat ad infinitum. It’s how I’ve gotten through my to do list, concussed and everything.

You’ve got this. Get a drink and start - we can do our stuff together!

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Sleep tip for the neurodivergent: While I agree that putting my phone away for an hour before bed is not ever gonna happen, I do intentionally have a slowdown period. Like how you can’t go from sprinting on a treadmill to a sudden standstill, your brain does need to calm down before bed.

For me, this means no loud noises or “fast” activities in the hour before sleep. I crawl into bed with my pets and read fanfic/ebooks or troll through Tumblr before listening to some lady on YT gently tell me to relax when actively trying to fall asleep.

No fast or loud activities means no TikTok/YouTube shorts/videos that require energy from me, especially in quick bursts. No TV shows or movies either. I also avoid strenuous activity and don’t do any house chores that aren’t part of my bedtime routine. My little autistic brain loves being primed for things so once my bedtime routine goes into motion and I crawl into bed, as long as I don’t get too sucked into what I’m doing, sleep is easy.

I recently talked to someone with ADHD and she has been sleeping like a mess and never goes to bed at normal hours. Part of it was that she hasn’t been giving her brain any ability to slow down to sleep. Please be gentle to your brain.

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the one twitter feature that tumblr desperately needs is polls. i need to be able to gather Data from you clowns. it’s not the same to have to embed an external link because then that data is tainted by only applying to the type of clowns to click an external link just to answer a poll question. 

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#TONIGHT... #me when i pavlov myself into being productive

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Manager: So can you talk to me a bit about your strengths and weaknesses?

Me: *literally just describes ADHD symptoms*

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ihm.

Him.

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When you have too many rules, some of which are critically important and some of which are completely random like this, people become less likely to know which rules are important and are therefore more likely to break the important rules.

"Don't throw your toys at other people." is an important rule. But if a child is punished for that and also for lining up their toys, they won't know that it's wrong to throw toys at people because the rules will seem random.

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being neurodivergent is all fun and games until someone is slightly critical of you and you suddenly feel physically ill

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If there was one thing I could get neurotypicals to understand it would be this:

The thing that is frustrating you about me is frustrating me far more than it could ever frustrate you. I know when I’m not functioning. I know when I’m falling short. I know when I’m falling apart. I also know that it takes a lot to regain the confidence of someone else once it has been lost, so I know I’m going to have to work harder than ever, and that is an exhausting thought for me, more than you could possibly imagine. It’s not your problem. I know that, and I don’t expect any special treatment. I’m not stupid. Just know that I know.

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FUN FACT!!!! the reason it’s so comforting is because doing that especially triggers your brain to release oxytocin, the same hormone that’s released when we cuddle or express physical affection with others, and the release of this chemical helps relieve stress, lower blood pressure, slow your heart rate, and is just really really comforting/grounding in general. hold breast to be less stressed amiright 

holding my boob for emotional support

#woman boob