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#love #i loved you #hurt #sad #lost love #bpd #bpd problems #actually bpd #emotion #attachment issues #fear of abandonment #depression #yearning #unrequited love #feelings #overwhelmed #textpost #sunset #love letter

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Unlearning Purity Culture & How To Embrace Your Sexuality

Some words on how to unlearn purity culture and embrace your sexuality on your terms. For the women, men, girls, gays, theys, and anyone else who grew up in a religious, ultra-conservative, or sex-negative environment.

Remember that no one is "tainted" from engaging in such a natural act with someone they have chemistry with. The only "damage" that can happen from consensual sex is STDs or unwanted pregnancy if you don't use protection.

From what I've seen, religious indoctrination tends to promote an otherness around sex – it is a purpose-driven act (uphold a marriage, create children), rather than an innate desire that matures just like the rest of your being (body, mind, spirit). Once you consider that your sexuality is simply a part of your human existence – like your desire for certain foods, emotions, interpersonal connections, sensory experiences, and creativity – it is easier to perceive sex as a morally-neutral act.

Because one's sexuality is so personal, you need to learn, explore, and accept your preferences at any given stage in your life. If you find the idea of casual sex or purely physically-driven sex to be unappealing, that is completely fine. Some people prefer to have sex with someone only after they've established an emotional connection or were friends with the person beforehand. Others crave more dynamic or adventurous sexual experiences that can incline them to become bored in long-term relationships. These pleasure-seekers may be more inclined to seek the thrill, novelty, and lack of inhibitions that come with casual relationships. It's like someone preferring smooth or chunky peanut butter. You might not understand why someone likes the other option, and you might change your mind over time, but neither option is inherently "good" nor "bad." Either option should align with your personal preference to ensure you're getting the most pleasure and satisfaction out of the experience.

While sex and love are not the same, you need to learn for yourself whether you prefer to have experiences that mesh or separate the two. Beneficial connections manifest in all forms. Sit with yourself honestly without judgment to pursue the path that feels most authentic to you.

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Hey, hell isnt real, god a figment of the churchs collective imagination. You can enjoy yourself, you can be queer and happy, you can have sex and put yourself first. You are not going to suffer for it. 

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i hope you buy things that bring you joy. i hope you wear clothes that make you feel good. i hope you decorate your home however you like. i hope you don’t wake up dreading going to work. i hope you meet people that make your heart sing. i hope you discover hobbies that fulfill you. i hope you go on fantastic adventures that give you unforgettable memories. i hope you do things just because you want to, and i hope you don’t feel like you have to justify your decisions to anybody. i hope you find happiness. i hope you cultivate a life you love

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would you take this pill

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this post hasn't left my mind since i've first saw it

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Peak bpd culture is listening to Lithium on full blast and crying while waiting for your mood stabilizers to kick in.

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How much more can i give before there's nothing left of me?

#im so tired of trying to be something for anyone #im so tired of grieving #i just want to be loved #actually bpd #actually ocd #love #bpd #religious trauma #ocd #im sad #sadness #im hurting #hurt #pain #theres nothing #unloved #unwanted #depressed

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Love how Catholics are just obsessed with suffering, like yes you child please oh please kill yourself for Jesus please be a martyr it’s so awesome and cool all the other kids are doing it🥺🥺🥺

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i think if god was all loving he would celebrate love. i think if god was all loving he wouldn't send people to hell. i think if god was all loving the devil would still be in heaven. i think if god was all loving we would have stayed in the garden. i think if god was all loving jesus wouldnt have died. i think if god was all loving childbirth wouldn't hurt. i think if god was all loving hell wouldn't exist. i think if god was all loving confession wouldn't exist. i think if god was all loving women would be priests. i think of god was all loving all of the fucked up things the church did would never happen. because those certainly werent about love. not one bit of love. for a god who loves love, his followers have a lot of hatred.

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Oh man I forgot it’s Ash Wednesday lemme just

*dips thumb into spent bong bowl* +

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I love how there's this like. really specific phase of faith deconstruction that almost everyone goes through in the very beginning that's like "hmmm.. maybe I CAN have a little happiness. a little self acceptance maybe. as a treat. if i don't tell anyone. wait oh no God is gonna find out I'm going to hell oh GoD-"

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“I believe that when you lose someone you don’t necessarily learn how to live without them. You don’t have to. You build your life back up around the cracks they left. Around the gaping abyss in your heart. We’re so scared of letting go and moving on, of finally being happy - even years later - because a tiny part of us still thinks we’re supposed or expected to be grieving. The best thing we can do is to look for traces of the people we lost in every place we can think of, in their favourite songs, in photos, in everyday life - whenever we feel like they’re close. Don’t stop looking for signs. In the end it doesn’t matter if they’re really signs or coincidences. As long as we feel their presence in these signs, there is no reason to stop believing in them. We can choose to remember the beautiful memories. The funny ones. Those who make us forget we were ever sad in the first place, only lucky to have had them. To have had the chance to spend a fraction of our lives with them. We can keep them alive through conversations. Maybe we don’t have to let it all go in order to move on. You can always keep the parts that matter.”

— the parts that matter / n.j.

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You’re still in my life, even if you don’t think you are. You’re in every show you told me about. You’re in every book you love. You’re in every song you sang. I won’t pretend I don’t miss you. I see you in everything that we once shared.

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my ultimate fantasy is having a brain that lets me enjoy being alive

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I have crossed over to the dark side. I now have a spit kink.

#help #hoeing #sad slut #fun times #kinky #what has my life come to #catholic to horny pipeline #ex catholic

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ITS SLIMEY THE WORMS BIRTHDAY EVERYONE

EVERYONE GIVE IT UP FOR SLIMEY THE WORM