this isn’t a meme, but i think something that bothers me and a lot of people about the culture “empaths” create is the idea that when they take on someone else’s pain, they become the victim deserving of support. there are countless short films and comics and #deep quotes where “empaths” go around aborsbing the literal darkness consuming other people, or taking the arrows from their back while they have a million in their own, and then that horrible, evil victim walks away and leaves them all alone with all the pain in the world. that is not reflective of any sort of reality outside of an “empath’s” own feelings.
because they don’t take away anyone else’s pain, really. emotionally empathising with someone, feeling their pain, is not the same as taking it from them. that person is still in pain - significantly more pain than anyone who’s just empathising with them - and they still have to deal with everything that led up to that pain, all the related conflict, trauma, etc. surrounding it, and the lasting effects it could have on them for a long, long time. someone empathising with them does not have to deal with those things. someone empathising with them just has to feel bad for a bit and then move on, because it’s not their life, their problem, nor their emotions.
at best, if you’re also providing support for someone, emotional empathy can be a (unnecessary but often helpful) tool in your arsenal. at worst, emotional empathy can drive you to respond irrationally and selfishly to someone else’s pain. anywhere in the middle, it is literally just a thing. feeling for someone is not the same as comforting them, taking on their pain is not the same as taking it away from them, and neither makes you entitled to their support when they’re the one in pain.
and even if you do take hours and hours out of your day to be there for someone, to support them, to make sure they’re okay, and in your time of need they can’t do the same for you? that’s fine. emotional support is not a transaction and receiving it does not make you owe anyone anything. no one has to support you just because you supported them once. there are billions of other people in the world to talk to - pick another.
ALLOW ME TO EXPLAIN WHY I DONT WANT TO ASSOCIATE WITH YOU IF YOU THINK TRUMP OR NEO NAZIS ARE GOOD PEOPLE
I don’t get why anyone who is not a white nationalist wants to say “they aren’t that bad"
Allow me to explain what neo nazis (who are a huge part of the white nationalist movement) want.
A nazi wants to kill you if you are not:
White, Straight, Christian, or have a mental disorder.
Let me explain
If you are born black, asian, latino, or anything that isn’t european white as paper white, they want to KILL you. Even if you are a baby, even if you have done nothing but exist. THEY WANT TO KILL YOU.
If you are born with parents that are not Christian or don’t follow a christian belief system, THEY WANT TO KILL YOU.
If you have shown any sign that you are trans, or gay or bi, or any intrest in the same sex as you, THEY WANT TO KILL YOU.
If you have adhd, autism, or anything mentally wrong with you that could be passes down genetically to future children, THEY. WANT. TO. KILL! YOU!
IF YOU DONT SEE A PROBABLY WITH SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO KILL CHILDREN, BABYS, WOMEN AND MEN FOR BEING BORN BLACK, OR HAVING JEWISH PARENTS, OR HAVING AUTISM, OR BEING GAY, THEN YOU ARE JUST AS BAD AS THEM.
If you have friends, or family who are any of these things. They want to kill them, and you are OK WITH THAT!
I’m just….I’m done. If you are ok with Trump, who says "white nationalists are good people,” then you are ok with him saying NAZIS who want to kill my partners, my family, and my friends, is ok, and I want NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU ANYMORE.
This is a STRAIGHT UP DEMAND!
Unfollow me, don’t talk to me, don’t tried to befriend me. I want you all gone and away from me and my friends.
If you can’t reblog this post then you have no right to follow my blog.
Look at my peppers they’re actually growing
I feel like a god now