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heal from the narrative you told yourself in survival mode. heal from the narrative other people told you while they were in survival mode. it’s all false.

you did your best. you are good enough. you don’t have to operate out of fear anymore.

and i know what you’re thinking… “but i don’t have a choice.” you do. you can give yourself those moments of living and being present with yourself. even if it’s for five minutes.

everything doesn’t have to be processed right away, but you’ve got to stop operating as if time is running out and as if your life needs to play the background and be blurry as it moves by so quickly.

life isn’t as ephemeral as our trauma makes it seem. we have blocked parts out, and survival mode is how we compartmentalize and get it back. that’s okay, but it’s no way to live. it’s not sustainable.

it’s time to be sick of being on autopilot. stop surviving and start living.

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small details that make you more elegant

listen without interrupting

choose a perfume that is your personal brand

know something about art

be a good conversationalist

keep your shoes clean

always remember important dates

simplify your life, your house, your agenda

practice a good posture

be punctual

keep your house clean and tidy

don't point out other people's mistakes

learn another language

don't shout when you speak

always remember your courage

always keep your hands groomed

have a positive attitude

always have a pleasant scent in your home

take care to make others feel comfortable

your manners must be impeccable

educate yourself on a good variety of topics

keep your phone away when you are eating at the table

be wholehearted

say please and thank you ALWAYS

apologize first and sincerely

practice empathy

give sincere compliments

dress appropriately for every occasion

do favors without expecting anything in return

take responsibility for your own happiness

less is more

enjoy the moment

remember elegance is not only based on the way you dress, it is the way you interact with yourself and with the world 🤍

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I was recently hit with some bad health news so now I’m on a mission to change my health and turn it into a lifestyle. I’ve been planning my meals out as a way to get the nutrients I need and doing hot girl walks because it helps with my mental health. It’s been one week and so far I feel and look better and my mood has shifted where I feel less anxious and depressed and more calm and happy.

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If you want to be with the best you have to become the best. You can’t expect to level up your life by doing the same things you used to with the same people you used to do them with.

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So true. I see so many women trying to be feminine only in an attempt to get a man. You should be on your feminine journey for you and no one else.

#femme fatale #maneater #female manipulator #secrets of a femme fatale #divine feminine #dark femininity #female empowerment #dark feminine energy #light feminine energy #the art of seduction

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reminder:

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♡ Romantic life affirmations ♡

I am grateful that I live a romantic life

Romance comes easily to me

I am surrounded by romance every day

Everything that surrounds me is my definition of beautiful

I have many charming and charismatic features

My life feels like a romantic movie

Life is beautiful

I am a charm

My desired person is completely in love with me

I am living the most romantic life

It is natural for me to romanticize life

Happiness is simple I am always motivated to start my day with gratitude

I live intentionally and mindfully

Every new and fresh opportunity opens itself up to me right now

I truly believe in my own abilities and strengths

All my wildest dreams have come true

I am living in pure bliss

Isn’t it lovely that I have everything I could ever imagine

Love and abundance flow easily to me

I am experiencing my romantic life right now

I am experiencing my dream life right now

I have mastered all of my desired skills and talents

Happiness is inevitable for me

I get everyone’s admiration and respect

I have luck and success in every aspect of my life

I am free from overwhelming emotions

I have infinite opportunities

I have a beautiful and glowing aura

I only attract high and positive energy

I am loved by all who surround me

My life is filled with meaningful connections

I am currently living my ideal aesthetic life

I am mentally and physically healthy

I show myself kindness, care and compassion as well as others

My life is like my Pinterest mood board

I am like a quiet walk through a forest after it rained

I know what I am here to do and I am achieving it

I am filled with confidence no matter what I am doing

Others admire my romantic lifestyle

Everything works for me right now

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Dating 101!

When a man is in survival mode (homeless, no place, no job, no car, etc.), some will plot & find a vulnerable woman to exploit. He will even marry her. Have children with her. He will tell her he loves her. He will waste yearsss of your life if you let him.

If/When you meet a man you really like & he’s struggling, root for him as a FRIEND, not a PARTNER. You will see if he’s genuinely into you once he gets his life together.

Until then, focus on yourself & date stable men

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You are the prize. So act accordingly.

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Not too long ago, a man I was on a date with told me although he thought I was really attractive, he would have never approached me on the street or in the grocery store because I carry myself well, always look put together and exude confidence. He said that would have discouraged him from coming up to me because it would have intimated him.

I’m sharing this to say three things. One: people notice how you carry yourself, dress and act when you’re out in public. No, you don’t dress for other people and no people’s opinions about you don’t matter, but that doesn’t change the fact that people notice. It doesn’t change the fact that you never know who (or what opportunity) you might run into while out and about. Two: any man who says anything like that to you is not the man for you. I don’t care how attractive he is. I don’t care if he’s Michael B. Jordan himself. When a man says something like that, it alludes to the fact he isn’t confident in himself or his abilities and it tells you he won’t be able to handle you. Huge red flag. No matter how its spun. Three: when you elevate yourself, when you carry yourself with respect and confidence, it will in limit your dating pool. In no way is this a bad thing. You’re raising the price to who has access to you. Lower caliber men no longer will, which can make it seem like you don’t have as many options but that’s not true. It’s always quality over quantity. 

You better believe I dropped that man so fast after the check was paid. I thanked him for the dinner and the company and I took my leave. This is a prime example of boundaries and respect for yourself saving you from a low quality experience. Never lower your price for anyone. That’s the mantra for 2023 and forever.

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My business is going to grow in 2023✨

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“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

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2023 is the time to take responsibility for our own happiness and future. No more blaming others and no more playing the victim. We are in charge of our reality.

Tips on becoming better this new year:

1. Take the time to heal old wounds and trauma through prayer and meditation.

2. Establish a spiritual relationship.

3. Distance yourself from toxicity and people who are energy vampires.

4. Write a list of specific goals. Create a plan on how you can achieve them and focus.

5. Start a gratitude journal. Write down everything you’re thankful for.

6. Release anger. Forgive yourself and forgive others.

7. Work on discovering hobbies that you enjoy.

8. Make a conscious effort to smile more. It helps rewire your nervous system.

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2023.

Be selfish with your time.

Be selfish with your energy.

Be selfish with your body.

Be selfish with your emotions.

Be selfish with your mind.

Let them take it personally.

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Merry Christmas! 🎄✨