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Dungeon meshi girls :)

#art

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do not discuss your disability or medical conditions or pregnancy with the police. do not tell them your diagnosis. do not let them in your hospital room without a warrant. never talk to the cops. I don’t care if you’re white or cis or middle class or think you have nothing to hide. never ever ever talk to the cops without a lawyer. they will use every detail about your conditions against you and worse

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guy raised on 2020s video games: does anyone else think body type 1 people are more apollonian and thing-brained and body type 2 people are more dionysian and people-brained

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Boulware’s story likely became popular because it distracted from the more grisly question of what happens to all the trans girls whose parents don’t have a change of heart. In the logic of protection, which is fundamental to the politics of trans inclusion, the trans child who is mistreated, neglected, abused, or harmed must convince the people with power over her that she deserves to be loved. If she does, she can then be accepted because she has repaired the damage her existence caused, an obligation certified by the negative reactions and behavior of adults. The logic of protection preserves the private family, much as it preserves the power of medical experts, because it seeks to contain and control trans people. It is a ghastly proposition that chills my bones every single time. Imagine: a twenty-two-year-old man must come home to ask his parents to consent to his surgery. Imagine: a school-aged girl must convince her father she deserves his love.

Protection is a desperate attempt to produce the veneer of trans inclusion as progress while avoiding the genuine challenge of letting trans people transition simply because that is what they want. The logic of protection is not new, but it is today proving its ultimate futility. It not only fails to stop the restriction of medical transition because it has no collective vision or demand, just a series of private individuals upon whom the state shall not infringe (until it inevitably does). Worse, protecting trans people only if they repair the private family, and only if they submit to the authority of medicine, offers an uncompelling cause to fight for. Who, exactly, wants to march for the power of a psychiatrist to decide if a stranger deserves his own body? Who, exactly, wants to march for the right of parents to harm their kid until she convinces them that she can make the family whole again? As Sophie Lewis or Max Fox—who have each written incisive analyses of the moral panic over trans youth and the farce of child protection that you should read—might put it: In saying we wish to protect trans children, we lie to them, and we lie to ourselves. We are really protecting ourselves (adults) from what children ask of us.

-The Logic of Protection.

#this is a big part of why I don't like the 'parental rights' approach to trans healthcare either #it's true that bans on transition get in the way of accepting parents properly supporting their children #but that whole framework kinda fucks you over if you don't have accepting parents to begin with #maybe people's autonomy should not be tied to their parents or to psychologists

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Dislikes: radical's two-step of berating people for not supporting an unrealistic solution, but when asked about potential practical problems saying that their solution is so far from happening that focusing on the nitty gritty problems is obviously bad faith

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Cuddly

#art #me

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Something I always find bizarre is when people mention something along the lines of "You always act like your opinions are correct and everyone else is wrong" as like. A moral or personal flaw. Because like. I'm pretty sure that's just how opinions work.

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#I actually know a few people who just naturally don't have it #but they were men

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

#haven't seen any at all

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im gonna getcha! im gonna getcha!!!

omg stoppp!!! hehe ^_^ !!!!

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i think one big problem with the united states is that they forgot to name the country

#I wonder how some of the people in the notes feel about the fact that outside of the anglosphere a lot of people do in fact #use 'america' to refer to the continent as a whole rather than just the US #like that's just how it is taught in school and how it is portrayed in books and the like #they don't even call them “americanos” generally but “estadounidenses” #roughly translated to “USian” #and unsurprisingly they get stereotyped as arrogant and self-centered over this and the other things

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Back from the dead!

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the "cultural xtianity" website not knowing what hindutva is is like par for the course I think

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Okay so let me get this straight.

On one side you have people who are ostracized for transgressing against traditional gender norms, sometimes to the point of rejecting identification within that system entirely. They are even talked about like they are part of a malevolent conspiracy to undermine and destroy these conservative standards and western civilization as a whole.

On the other side you have religious conservatives, anti-feminists, and the catholic church saying that gender roles are innate and tied to chromosomes, that genders need to be strictly segregated in many contexts (requiring extensive gender policing), that defying gender norms in any way is a crime against god and nature, that eroding the distinction between genders is dangerous and that the people who do it are insane and predatory, and that people should not be able to so much as wear clothes that don't match their gender...

The first group gets called "gender ideology", "the gender cult", "genderism", and so on.

The second group calls itself "the anti-gender movement" and has political alliances with people who call themselves "gender abolitionists" but agree with them on much of the above.

Seems completely backwards to me.

#transphobia

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Do you ever forget that you have a gender to most people….. meaning that random people at the grocery store see me as a woman and not just a little internet guy

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Some guy on Twitter had his wife go to the Columbia protests with a shirt that had “JEW” written on it in big letters and the video was the biggest flop bc he kept having to turn the camera around so that signs like “JEWS FOR A FREE PALESTINE” wouldn’t be in the shot.

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Because I circulated a call to action about it here that got some traction: to those of you who contacted Maine legislators when it counted, thank you— it worked. Maine just passed sanctuary-state-level protection for trans rights.