Every August, my friends, and loved ones tell me how I should take some time to relax and do a little "self-care".
While I appreciate the sentiment, that's not how "self-care" works for me.
I don't care about getting my hair or nails done. Spa days & wine don't help me relax. I really hate shopping.
Most years, I prefer the day remain unacknowledged.
“Give what you can, take only what you need” This idea has always been a guiding principle in my life. As a Virgo, helping people IS what makes my heart happy.
I love that my work allows me to be of service to others. Before COVID, my Freedom Overground work was fulfilling, cathartic, and the best kind of self-care.
But now, COVID-19 has decimated our resources. The current administration is actively pushing us back. We went from making huge advances for TGNC prisoners' rights to fighting for their basic human needs and survival. The folks I support aren't just numbers or "clients". They are human beings, with feelings, hopes, and dreams...just like everyone else. They have been abandoned, abused & neglected. The state has written them off as less than human and undeserving. My fear and anxiety for the people I fight to protect every day, is taking a toll on my health.
What is self-care for Pinky?
Not having to worry about my client’s safety helps me sleep at night.
Not having to tell a client that I can't buy soap or hygiene items is good for my mental health.
Not having to deny someone the ability to talk to their loved ones, reduces my stress.
Being able to provide security for someone coming home with nothing, makes my anxiety disappear.
This year, for my 45th Birthday, I'm asking those who are able,
to support Freedom Overground.
*We are currently supporting 22 TGNC incarceration loved ones.
“I was a police officer for nearly ten years and I was a bastard. We all were.
“This essay has been kicking around in my head for years now and I’ve never felt confident enough to write it. It’s a time in my life I’m ashamed of. It’s a time that I hurt people and, through inaction, allowed others to be hurt. It’s a time that I acted as a violent agent of capitalism and white supremacy. Under the guise of public safety, I personally ruined people’s lives but in so doing, made the public no safer… so did the family members and close friends of mine who also bore the badge alongside me.
“But enough is enough.
“The reforms aren’t working. Incrementalism isn’t happening. Unarmed Black, indigenous, and people of color are being killed by cops in the streets and the police are savagely attacking the people protesting these murders.
“American policing is a thick blue tumor strangling the life from our communities and if you don’t believe it when the poor and the marginalized say it, if you don’t believe it when you see cops across the country shooting journalists with less-lethal bullets and caustic chemicals, maybe you’ll believe it when you hear it straight from the pig’s mouth.”
black lives matter and pride are intrinsically linked. the black trans community have done so much for us, we owe it to them to not forget their movement this month. without black lives, there would be no pride. black lives matter, today and always