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I wanna take a moment to appreciate Kim’s way of caring.

I know it seems a bit cold of him to tell Harry to focus on work and get his personal affairs in order, but he mentions that focusing on work helps him when he’s feeling down or anxious. This is classic autistic empathy. He doesn’t know what’s going to work for you, but he knows what works for him, so he offers that.

He doesn’t judge you too harshly for being an addict and even sympathizes that the hangover you’re nursing won’t help with the corpse smell. He doesn’t tell you to suck it up here, he doesn’t rub it in your face that it’s your fault the body smells like it does. It is what it is and what is done has been done.

He knows how to spot and deal with a panic attack. He uses grounding techniques when you spiral, giving you water and touching you gently.

I truly believe Kim is a high empathy autistic and that might be a factor into his ptsd surrounding children. He doesn’t know how to show this empathy and has probably taught himself to repress it for his own safety. This makes him seem a lot colder than he actually is. But when he slips up, like during the tribunal, god does it show.

#disco elysium #kim kitsuragi

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Still a wip but we've got color and I fixed Harry's face

#disco elysium #harry du bois #kim kitsuragi

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one of the old ones, sept 2022. it was a time of very flat hands

#disco elysium #harry du bois #kim kitsuragi

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when I see you in the street / and you look down at your feet / is it me who should feel / the defeat?

#disco elysium #jean vicquemare

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I LOVE THIS WET DOG OF A MAN!!!!!

#disco elysium #harry du bois

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harry your paperwork… oh no harry your paperwork 🤭

#disco elysium #trantharry #trant heidelstam #harry du bois

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"A past delusion of a better future"

Harry + Apricots / Kim + Forget-Me-Nots

#disco elysium #kim kitsuragi #harry du bois #kimharry

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who are you?

#disco elysium #jeanharry #harry du bois #jean vicquemare

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Pinned

#detroit become human #reed900 #dbh #dbh gavin reed #dbh rk900

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How did you get so cool, Kim?

This piece took over my physical body and banged out the most detailed piece of art I've done in like 8 years. Anyways, Kim Kitsuragi my beloved, am I right fellas? Sorry for the shit quality. I had to resize the image to run through ArtShield because Glaze kept spitting it out with too many artifacts.

#disco elysium #kim kitsuragi

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Wait, so you said that you can learn to trust others by building friendships, but how does one go about doing that? Wouldn't someone I don't know be creeped out or annoyed if I suddenly walked up and started talking to them?

Friendships are built of repeated low-stakes interactions and returned bids for attention with slowly increasing intimacy over time.

It takes a long time to make friends as an adult. People will probably think you're weird if you just walk up and start talking to them as though you are already their friend (people think it's weird when I do this, I try not to do this) but people won't think it's weird if you're someone they've seen a few times who says "hey" and then gradually has more conversations (consisting of more words) with them.

I cheat at forming adult friendships by joining groups where people meet regularly. If you're part of a radio club that meets once a week and you just join up to talk about radios, eventually those will be your radio friends.

If there's a hiking meetup near you and you go regularly, you will eventually have hiking friends.

Deeper friendships are formed with people from those kinds of groups when you do things with them outside of the context of the original interaction; if you go camping with your radio friend, that person is probably more friend than acquaintance. If you go to the movies with a hiking friend who likes the same horror movies as you do, that is deepening the friendship.

In, like 2011 Large Bastard decided he wanted more friends to do stuff with so he started a local radio meetup. These people started as strangers who shared an interest. Now they are people who give each other rides after surgery and help each other move and have started businesses together and have gone on many radio-based camping trips and have worked on each other's cars.

Finding a meetup or starting a meetup is genuinely the cheat-code for making friends.

This is also how making friendships at schools works - you're around a group of people very regularly and eventually you get to know them better and you start figuring out who you get along with and you start spending more time with those people.

If you want to do this in the most fast and dramatic way possible, join a band.

In 2020 I wrote something of a primer on how to turn low-stakes interactions with neighbors and acquaintances into more meaningful relationships; check the notes of this post over the next couple days, I'll dig up the link and share it in a reblog.

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man sometimes i really want to get back into welding but then i remember that the guys from the first course i took won’t be there and change my mind

#check when sad #aww

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Matching cones

#baldur's gate 3 #astarion #dark urge

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I made something

#also goes for #writing

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guys. they're just really good friends. i swear !!

#disco elysium #kimharry #harry du bois #kim kitsuragi

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I understand this is a boar (that's fucking huge??) but my first thought was. Rat king

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the sillies

#team fortress 2 #tf2