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[stupid-lil-catowl]

to every fanfic writer that feels like a "bad" writer because they "only" write drabbles and short oneshots,

there is always a reader that has trouble paying attention, or rarely has the energy and/or time to read, or cant commit to reading long fics that absolutely loves and appreciates what you write

#writeblr #writer positivity #fanfic writing #fanfic writer #fandom #fandom culture

[stupid-lil-catowl]

i want to use 11-in-one shampoo/body wash. i want to shower myself in shitty cologne. i want to get kicked in the nuts. i want my friends to hype me up when i ask someone out. i want to eat like shit. i want to dress like shit. i want to be a man in all the meaningless and stereotypical and stupid ways

(also, yes, i know i dont have to be a man to do these things 👍)

#trans man #transmasc #transmasculine #ftm #trans yearning

[stupid-lil-catowl]

hi, so ive learned that theres another dudegender label with its own definition and flag

ive decided to rename the label i coined to dudeial!!! (pronounced dude-ee-al)

its more accurate now, as my label is more about relating to the definitions of the word "dude" itself, instead of its vibe/energy ^_^

i'll be redesigning the flag soon ✌️

coining post here

#xenogender #xenogender coining #xeno coining #xenogender positivity #dudegender #dudeial #gender coining

[stupid-lil-catowl]

having bpd is desperately wanting them to be mad at you and yell at you than having them completely ignore your existence

#bpd #borderline personality disorder #actually bpd #personality disorder #catowl vents #vent #mental health

[stupid-lil-catowl]

How do I explain to them that I feel nothing towards them without making it sound bad?

How do I explain to them that I care about them so so much, more than I care about myself, and that I think about them all the time but I don't feel... anything?

How do I explain to them that I rarely, if at all, experience any attraction towards them but still adore them with my entire being?

And how do I explain to them that that's completely okay?

#catowl rambles #aroace #aromantic #aromanticism #aromantism #aromantic spectrum #arospec #asexual #asexuality #asexual spectrum #acespec #aro #ace #acearo #relationship #relationships #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+

[stupid-lil-catowl]

i hope every aro and arospec has an amazing february 14!! i hope we all have a great monday!!

if you dont celebrate valentines day, awesome!! i hope that you dont come across a SINGLE post pushing amatonormativity!! remember that its okay to be single and to never be interested in any romance!!

if you do celebrate valentines day, awesome!! i hope you enjoy celebrating!! remember that enjoying romance and being in a romantic relationship doesnt make you any less aro!!

#aro #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #aromantic pride #aromantic positivity #aro pride #aro positivity #valentines day #valentine's day #arospec #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #aromantism #aromanticism #aro spectrum

[stupid-lil-catowl]

hopeless romantic aro whos friends with a loveless aro

#who wants to be the loveless aro to my hopeless romantic and romantic fiction enjoying aro self- #aro #aromantic #arospec #aro pride #aromantic pride #aromantic positivity #aromantism #aromantic spectrum #aro positivity #aro memes #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #catowl rambles

[stupid-lil-catowl]

that feeling when youre obsessed with the "bestfriends to lovers" trope and prefer it to every other one and then you find out youre demiromantic

#demiromantic #aromantic #aromantism #aro #arospec #aro pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #catowl rambles

[stupid-lil-catowl]

JULY 23, 2023 EDIT: renamed label from dudegender to dudeial

hello id like to share a xenogender (and flag) i coined, dudeial!!

dudeial is a xenogender where one's gender has a strong connection to the word "dude", and/or where one's gender fits the definition of the word "dude"

"dude" has two definitions:

the classic definition which is a (man/masc aligned) person who is stylish and fastidious in dress and manner

and the modern definition which is an informal and very casual term for a (man/masc aligned) person

someone who is dudeial does not have to also identify as a man/masculine aligned gender btw!! women and ppl with fem aligned genders can identify as dudeial, if they want to

someone who is dudeial can also identify with both the classic meaning and the modern meaning!! (thats me ^^)

the associated pronouns are dude/dudes/dudes/dudeself but it isnt required to use them

if you have any questions about this, please send me an ask or reply to this post!! thank you

#xenogender #xenogender positivity #dudegender #gender coining #xenogender coining #xenogender flag #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #pride flag #neopronouns #neoprns #neo pronouns #dudeial

[stupid-lil-catowl]

i will NEVER trust people who automatically headcanon "childish/innocent" characters as ace/aro....

#ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #acespec #arospec #aspec #catowl rambles #asexuality #aromantism #aroace #acearo #infantilization #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #stereotypes #ace stereotypes #aro stereotypes #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #fandom #fandom problems #fandom culture #headcanon #headcanons

[stupid-lil-catowl]

"i'm not like other girls, i don't fit in with them" to autistic transmasc pipeline

#actually autistic #autism #autistic #trans and autistic #trans #transgender #ftm #transmasc #trans man #trans guy #transmasculine #transmasc enby #transmasc experiences #asd

[stupid-lil-catowl]

my teacher just wished me a happy birthday

i dont care if it was a month late, it still feels nice :)

(i cant really blame my classmates for forgetting my birthday, i've never talked to any of them outside of school work and stuff)

#catowl rambles #school #tw school #school tw #birthday #happy #positive

[stupid-lil-catowl]

I feel like reblogging this is appropriate.

OMG THESE TWO!!!

#catowl reblogs

[stupid-lil-catowl]

remembering that time I cried on my english teacher's desk because I missed the opportunity to join a grammar (?) competition and instead had to join a math one

also remembering that time I cried on my science teacher's desk because none of my groupmates brought any materials for a group project and I thought I was gonna fail

also also remembering that time I cried on my EPP teacher's desk because she called me to her desk shortly after I cheated during a quiz and I thought she was going to call my parents or give me a failing grade

also also also remembering that time I cried outside, sitting against our classroom door, tied to the door handle (that's a story for another day)

5th grade fucking sucked

#vent #catowl vents #school #tw school #school tw #trauma

[stupid-lil-catowl]

when it's your birthday and you receive a lot of messages with feminine compliments and someone calls you a "young woman"

i'm usually low to no dysphoria most days, but seeing my aunt call me a "young woman" and seeing my grandma talk about my future debut just... hit different i guess

(btw, a debut is a filipino celebration that celebrates when a woman turns 18, kinda like a quinceañera. some men have debuts when they turn 21, but its really rare ;-;)

#trans #transgender #trans man #transgender man #trans guy #transmasc #trans masc #ftm #f2m #dysphoria #dysphoria tw #tw dysphoria #vent #debut #filipino #philippines #gender dysphoria #catowl vents

[stupid-lil-catowl]

ah, to be in a polyamorous t4t relationship with other neurodivergent people...

i know its never going to happen but the thought of it makes me happy :)

#catowl rambles #polyam #polyamorous #polyamorous relationship #t4t #trans for trans #trans 4 trans #t4t relationship #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #actually neurodiverse #actually autistic #yearning #wlw #mlm #nblnb #nblm #nblw #mlnb #wlnb #mlw #wlm #neurodiversity