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Nothing I’ve read has changed me more than “you do people a favor by accepting their help” like I repeat this constantly to so many people because it’s true!!! People like to feel useful, they like to feel kind, they like to feel like they have an ability to impact people’s lives so just let them!! Not everything is a thing to be owed back — accept people’s kindness without making a competition out of it

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y’all know how sometimes toasted whole wheat English muffins with only butter are the best thing you’ve ever tasted? and then in a week or two they’re nothing special - it’s fried eggs; and then penne with pesto, and then gyros and hummus, and then cajun rice?

I think a healthy relationship with God is like that. because those things are all food - vital, necessary, nourishing, giving you life. that’s what knowing God needs to be like. but the same thing won’t always have the same flavor to you, and that’s okay! you can savor symbolism and then doctrine and then service and then fellowship…all of it, delicious.

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some of y'all need to learn how to accept hospitality. stop assuming people are only offering to look after you out of twisted obligation that they don't actually want to do. when you assume that, you are often denying someone the opportunity to genuinely show a friend or stranger love. even if you don't really care about what they're offering, it's respectful of their desire to be kind to accept it anyways.

i had a bunch of girls i've never met over for a women's group. every single one of them denied my offer to make them tea (despite already making myself a mug anyways), get them water, a scone, etc.

i can tell when people refuse to let me be a good host because they "don't want to be a bother". like no!! please be a bother!!! i want to serve you and make you comfortable in my home!

not to be like "we live in a society" but really do live in a modern culture than emphasizes individualism to the point where people will reflexively deny any help or kindness from others for fear of treading on their independence. newsflash: dependence on each other is what makes a community. next time someone offers you kindness, accept it instead of making excuses for why you don't need it. otherwise you've robbed both yourself of being loved and someone else from showing love.

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just journaled about this reality not even two minutes ago. talk about timing.

Sitting in your own mess is one of the hardest things to do. Realizing all the situations YOU put yourself in. All the ways YOU could’ve and should’ve protected yourself. All the mistakes and bad decisions YOU made against your boundaries. The moment where you sit and realize that other people don’t deserve the full blame & that you were a part of your own destruction. Sitting in it is hard but forgiving yourself is harder. Growth is not linear. There will be days like this. Sit in it but don’t stay there. 🫶🏽

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I think that’s what we need to do. Starting today and going forward: we need to stand up and defend our faith instead of hiding away and keeping silent. We need to encourage others to do the same and lift each other up by active participation by means of peace and prayer. We have the numbers but we need to help each other.

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My right to bodily autonomy is more important than the right to life of anyone using my body without my explicit consent.

Thanks for the ask, anon!

I agree that your right to your own personal choices is very important, and that no one has the right to force your body from you.

I would disagree however that pregnancy qualifies as one such situation. In the case of pregnancy it is A: definitely preventable almost 100% of the time. (0.085% of abortions are from pregnancies occurring due to rape, source below.) because the baby in this instance is not a malicious intruder, but rather a vulnerable dependent, I don’t believe it to be morally just to treat them with the same harshness as one arguably should treat a rapist.

I have seen recently a rise in awareness of abusive parenting. (Both physically and emotionally.) One consistent thought I continue to see repeated is this idea of “your children owe you nothing because they did not ask to be here.” This as a counter argument to the “my house, my way,” sentiment that so quickly becomes abusive. It is generally agreed that when children are treated as objects or intruders while simply living a life they did not ask for, in the home of a parent they did not choose, it is wrong. Children exist due to choices their parents made and should not suffer punishments because of those circumstances.

I would apply this same logic to a child that exists in the womb. They did not ask to be there. They are there because nine times out of ten, their parents thought It would be fun to engaged in reproductive activities, which… surprise… caused reproduction. I would agree that the if, when, how, and with whom choices are 100% matters of autonomy and personal choice. But when your personal choices cause an innocent child to become dependent on you, it is no longer morally just to use your choices to harm them.

One could equate it to inviting a toddler onto your boat, or into your home for a period of time. This child is under your care and you’re responsible for their wellbeing until you can safely pass this responsibility onto another if you don’t want it. It would be unacceptable to kill that child, or even neglect them to death because you decide you don’t want to anymore. The same goes for a pregnancy.

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I think my whole taste in fictional crushes is men that seem equally capable of leading the charge on a battlefield and washing dishes. Men who could be captains or gardeners, who do what needs to be done without seeking acclaim. Courage and gentleness. Boldness and humility.

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If you're fifteen or older an still sleep with a stuffed animal please reblog this.

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Thinking about how it was never made clear to me in Catholic school exactly WHY Jesus died for our sins. I just remembered that I was literally never clear on who the dying helped??

I've heard theories as an adult, but basically what I'm saying is pointless martyrdom seems a little pointless, and also with enough propaganda the big logical gaps in a belief system get really hard to see. Especially if questioning anything is blasphemy.

I would have gotten in so much trouble for insisting the teacher explain how Jesus helped us by being tortured to death by Romans even when God could have prevented it! God sent his only Son, they would have said! Be grateful, they'd say! Be guilty! Stop asking why he did that!!!

#this makes me so sad because i teach religious ed / catholic catechesis to young kids and i love when they ask these questions #it’s hard to explain in a way that’s satisfactory to a child #because there is always room for a “but why?! #even when giving your best answer #but kids are smarter than you think! #it really blows my mind that there are teachers/volunteers like that #but i guess that’s the downfall — it’s wonderful that people volunteer their time to teach children #but rarely are the folks doing it truly informed themselves! they just know more than a child and many people #after years in the faith and not *cultivating* their faith lose sight of true theology #and then they pass that along #their ignorance and misunderstanding. they know no more than that child does at that point but can’t admit it #so i guess we just have to have grace for the people in our youth who failed us due to their own ignorance and go on our own journey #and now in your understanding that things aren’t making sense or you were catechized poorly #you use that knowledge to go find people who truly care and are truly knowledgeable — whether in person or online. dead or alive #and learn TRULY what the Church teaches about Jesus’ life and death and the necessity of it all #whether or not that leads someone back to the Church or not is all in Gods hands #but i hope and pray that every child that feels confused and hurt after years of poor catechesis knows that learning doesn’t need to stop #after 8th grade and they are allowed to question things and there ARE answers and people who are willing to give those answers!

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a particularly foggy morning is the start of a uniquely interesting day

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cats on quilts ♡

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Photography by Henri Prestes

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I made a baby blanket for a pregnant woman at work and I went back and forth about it like “is this weird? To like hand make something for someone when we’re like friendly acquaintances not like bffs. God why are you so fucking awkward.” Anyway I gave it to her and she said she loved it and in the back of my head I’m like yea she’s nice and probably just humoring the weirdo. Well she texted me a picture this weekend of a scrunchy faced newborn at the hospital wrapped in the blanket I made her. And I’m like. Wow. She loved it so much she took it with her! To the hospital! To give birth! She wrapped her newborn it! I am just so filled with love and joy right now.

People will love the things you make them. Because you thought of them and you cared.

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Assemblée nationale, Paris, photo by herrbap

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