#(but i ship her with stevie now lol cuz why not)

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actuallylukedanes replied to your post “i think part of why i’m so obsessed with the idea of stevie/alexis as...”

I don't go here but I agree with your last tag so hard. Why does Alexis personal journey mean she can't also have love??? Being a badass and career focused doesn't mean you'd be less if you also had a successful relationship. Like what is it with that?

I understand what Dan is saying or what he wanted... but it seems like a really weird male perspective of women too...in a bad way.

thank you for agreeing with me!! when i was watching him talk about it, i was nodding along like ‘yes of course after all her growth she couldn’t just follow his dreams and give up on her own i agree’ but once i had more time to think through the larger picture of how the series ends for the family it’s like:

the parents remain happily married and the dad has business success again and the mom gets to go back to the work she was happiest in, but with more prestige and power...the son gets a business and a husband and a best friend he loves, all in a town he never wanted to live in in the first place...and then the daughter is going alone to new york to further her career and the adopted daughter will be travelling for work, seeing more of the world and happy in a business she owns.

but it’s only the two young women who don’t get to ‘have it all’ compared to david and their parents? and i feel like that is a sort of attempt at being subversive, like here’s this wonderful queer man who deserves to find love and happiness, we still so rarely see that, and so the show gave him that ending. and here are these women who would be reduced to just falling in love and settling down in other stories, so let’s watch them chase their professional dreams and do more than stay put. and that’s great! i love that part! 

it’s the idea that also giving them love would somehow cancel out the rest, that makes me sad, like you said. it’d be different if they didn’t want relationships, then i’d be fine not wanting that for them--but stevie’s personal growth partly involves getting over a guy she thought she had something meaningful with, it really hurts her when she learns he thought they were just another hookup. and ted was completely supportive of alexis’s career ambitions and loved exactly who she was...i really think she could have been with him and grown her pr firm at the same time. it wouldn’t have negated all of her growth to show her juggling a healthy relationship and her own business, like, say, her brother does. 

#i'm just saying...i think dan wrote himself into a corner when he sent ted to the islands #and if he hadn't put them on incompatible career paths there would have been no good justification #for saying that a single alexis is a more empowered and awesome alexis #she ends the series amazing and empowered REGARDLESS of her relationship status thank you #(but i ship her with stevie now lol cuz why not) #anyway it is my favorite show and i poke it with a stick because that's how i show my love #schitts creek #/rambling #about a show you're engaging with me on when it's not even one you like! you're awesome <3 #i have the best best friend #actuallylukedanes #replies #stevie budd #alexis rose