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abovesn4kes · 11 months
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More 1999 AU Content
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killjo-q · 6 months
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trying something…
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flowerquib · 2 months
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Don't come near chayanne or his tubegg ever again >:(
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(From yesterday)
Also tubegg with the floating that chayanne gave him today
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I love tubegg
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hibanny · 1 year
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what i love about Dungeon Meshi is how Ryoko Kui slowly eases you into how fucked up its world and story are, she doesn’t throw all the drama and darkness in your face right away, sure it starts with tragedy but she then walks you through, to, and beyond it in a safer and less overwhelming way by focusing on its comedic and lighthearted parts with sprinles of more serious and darker ones thrown in, slowly making the latter parts be of bigger importance the deeper into the dungeon the characters go, which, in my opinion, makes its dramatic and heartwrenching moments much more impactful because you feel a lot more connected to its world and characters once you get to where everything is going, you start to care about them because of their positivity and beauty so you want to stay through their negativity and ugliness.
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parrishwife · 28 days
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connecting the dots from prev & my tags I think declan is kind of driven crazy by the fact that ronan likes niall and adam who in many ways are so similar to each other AND to declan but somewhat contradictorily he doesnt like declan. declan can see the parallels and that there's no objective rational reason for it. niall is a con-artist who put ronan in danger and left - both by travelling and being neglectful and definitely by dying - and ronan still loves him. adam is cold and distant & a scammer himself and "left" ronan and the barns too and ronan still loves him. they both hold a kind of control over ronan that declan will never have, even when declan's suggestions are obviously what's best for him, but in declan's pov they both squander it by deciding not to control ronan at all (at least not in obvious, tangible ways) or by being even more impulsive and destructive than he is. incidentally I think its also why declan clearly sympathizes with and likes gansey, who also wants to exercise control over ronan and only barely succeeds.
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sunweek · 2 months
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i dont understand why people cannot be normal about things centered around women, one minute every one was losing their mind over barbie as a feminist masterpiece, now everyone suddenly hates it like ok. you know you can say that its a great summary of white feminism how celebrities have more to say about margot robbie a celebrated actress not getting nominated for one (1) award when better women got nominated for the same than they do for palestine and ALSO that that does not make barbie an act of war towards modern feminist theory. mind you most of these accounts trying to discredit barbies achievements as and despite being a female-centered film wouldnt be able to name you 2 countries that neighbour palestine. stop trying to 'own' people using a fucking genocide and step the hell up
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strawberrybabydog · 21 days
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reminder if you're posting about your delusions on the internet that shit needs to be tagged. posting your lore untagged is the exact same as nonpsychotics posting untagged reality. you are putting other people in serious danger. you are risking putting people into psychotic episodes because of how triggering lore can be.
if something as simple as properly tagging and filtering your posts is too difficult you should NOT be posting about abiut your psychosis online. being psychotic on the internet requires a whole other level of internet safety and it goes two ways. untagged psychotic lore is MORE than irresponsible, it is borderline offensive to fellow psychotics. your community relies on you doing your part to keep everyone safe, act like it or you will be blacklisted.
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devotion-disorder · 2 months
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Hi hi! I'm new to dol fandom so I would like to ask you, is harper a romasible character or not? I've seen some people said he's not but kinda unsure..... Will be grateful if you enlighten me please!
hiiii!! sad news but harper is not a romanceable character 😔 that doesnt stop me from being insane about him and scrambling for any scraps of harper content though
hope you have fun with dol!!
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spacedlexi · 11 months
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so theres these 2 zombie apocalypse daughters and im a disappointed parent who plays favorites
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jinxed-sinner · 18 days
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I love Hell's Greatest Dad so much.
It really started off as Lucifer stroking his own ego and quickly devolved into Lucifer fighting with Alastor over who's better at being a parental figure because Alastor thought it'd be funny to get under Lucifer's skin. That's not even the funniest part of it though, Lucifer was pissed off by Al's existence from the moment they met if the visuals are anything to go by. Like this is the first time Alastor directly speaks to Lucifer:
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This one is after Alastor says everyone at the hotel is "very proud" of Charlie:
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But if we go into Hell's Greatest Dad specifically, we get these:
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^All before Alastor joins in and starts antagonizing him for fun. I specifically chose that screenshot of Lucifer frying Alastor because Alastor's expression is hilarious^
As someone on TikTok put it, "they literally act like divorced parents trying to be their kid's favorite parent" and I feel like that vibe is especially strong in Hell's Greatest Dad. I also really like that if you look at the background, Vaggie, Husk, and Sir Pentious are like "is Alastor seriously antagonizing the king of Hell"
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Additional Lucifer expressions from Dad Beat Dad, because Hazbin Hotel has some of the best expressions I've ever seen in a cartoon, plus an additional Lucifer and Charlie:
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i love this man. awkward short king
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imalwaysinpain · 8 days
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been complaining a LOT lately but one of the reasons im extremely ready to move into our own place again is that the comment "yall do a lot of laundry. i just do mine like once a week and thats it" makes me feel like i need to do as little laundry as possible meanwhile it piles up.
like we don't wash our bedding often enough bc 1. thats more spoons than a regular load and 2. i already do so much fucking laundry !!!!!!!!!!! its already tiring without feeling like every time i do it more than once a week i'm committing a crime !!!!!!
#im sure my partner is right when he says im being too literal and dramatic but like !!!!!!#im imposing on someone else's generosity i don't want her to feel like im being needlessly wasteful#like its almost worse BECAUSE i live in my pjs and loungewear#bc i dont wear other things enough so i need to do laundry more#but also bc like. i only have so many washcloths/underwear/socks before i need to wash bc im out !!!!#and then i have sweaters and blouses that need a delicate cycle and then i have whites as a separate#like thats 3 loads right there of just clothes....#and also my pillowcases NEED to be washed so like yeah my sheets might need it too but i cannot neglect the pillow#bc my face goes there#so UGH bc like i only have 4 pillowcases lol and i recently switched my partner's to one of mine#bc mine are satin#and dmfjsjfhshr#the laundry feels like the worst part of living here.#i cant just Do it.#and not to mention i gotta walk up and down the stairs with a heavy laundry basket so extra 🥄🥄🥄#its just so much#im so fucking tired#im tired#i want to move so bad#PLEASE GOD GODDESS UNIVERSE PLEASE LET US GET THIS FUCKING HOUSE WE HAVE BEEN WAITING ON#for like fucking MONTHS now dude#who know the seller accepting our offer wasn't gonna cut it 😭😭😭😭fucking banks#PLEASE LET US HAVE IT PLEASE IM REACHING MY LIMIT#i can't sit down at the sink so sometimes i cant wash my face#there's barely any counter space#im living out of a travel toiletries back and its getting REALLY OLD#the stacks of clothes on top of my suitcase IS my closet and its overwhelming 😭😭😭😭#i have to keep my kettle upstairs bc its 'cluttered and unsightly' and there isnt room in the pantry#and to top it off this house's white on white on white on white style is KILLING ME#i'm simultaneously overwhelmed and underwhelmed constantly here
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hauntedselves · 1 year
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Clinical Formulations of Histrionic PD
Clinical formulations and case conceptualisations are introduced in this post.
These are all generalisations and theories of how HPD develops, not something that is supposed to be true for everyone with HPD.
Psychodynamic model
Histrionics lack relationships with maternal caregivers so turn to paternal caregivers for love and attention
Learn that they can get attention through sexualised behaviours
Men with HPD may be hypomasculine (effeminate) or hypermasculine if their paternal caregiver is emotionally unavailable
Biosocial model
Mood swings, very emotional
Biggest influences are environmental: caregivers’ reinforcement of attention-seeking & manipulative behaviours and histrionic role models
Children learn they can use cuteness, charm, attractiveness & seductive behaviours to get what they want/need (attention from caregivers)
Histrionics are externally focused and largely ignore their internal worlds
Histrionic behaviours are self-perpetuating
Cognitive-Behavioural model
Two main underlying assumptions: “I am inadequate and unable to handle life by myself” and “I must be loved by everyone to be worthwhile.” 
Need attention and approval from others, and in a similar way to DPD feel they are inadequate to look after themselves and need others
Hypersensitive to rejection & criticism (similar to DPD, NPD and AvPD)
Feel they must perform for others to gain approval and self-esteem
Thinking is “impressionistic, global, and unfocused” and leads to over-generalisation, emotional dysregulation, and splitting
Two subtypes:
The controlling type, who tries to gain control through dramatics and manipulation; they struggle with reading others’ emotions and are shallow, self-centred, and uncomfortable without immediate assurance; lack empathy.
The reactive type tries to gain approval and reassurance.
Interpersonal model
People with HPD learnt that their entertainment value and appearance was more important to others than their worth as a person
Learnt that physical appearance and charm can be used to manipulate others
Their childhood homes were unpredictable and probably involved substance abuse
The unpredictability was dramatic and interesting (unlike the “primitive” and life-threatening chaos associated with BPD)
Histrionics were likely rewarded (i.e. had their physical and emotional needs met) for their disabilities, illnesses and complaints
Histrionics “exhibit a strange fear of being ignored, together with a wish to be loved and taken care of by important others, who can be controlled through charm or guile.”
Integrative model
Histrionics experience reactive mood swings and have high levels of energy
They are hyper-responsive and externally oriented
“The self-view of the histrionic will be some variant of the theme “I am sensitive and everyone should admire and approve of me.” The world-view will be some variant of “Life makes me nervous so I am entitled to special care and consideration.” Life goal is some variant of the theme “Therefore, play to the audience, and live in the moment.””
Cargivers’ style based in reciprocity, i.e. “I’ll give you attention if you do what I want”, with minimal or inconsistent discipline and probable neglect
Internal experiences of HPD are “denial of one’s real or inner self; a preoccupation with externals; the need for excitement and attention-seeking, which leads to a superficial charm and interpersonal presence; and the need for external approval. This, in turn, further reinforces the dissociation and denial of the real or inner self from the public self, and the cycle continues.”
- From Sperry, Handbook of Diagnosis and Treatment of DSM-5 Personality Disorders (2016)
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black-and-yellow · 1 year
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Reading ur tags about aizawa being kind of a jerk makes me think like, I hope it's some kinda twist that he's just repressing his feelings and lashing out with anger/resentment/being a jerk because he didn't use any outlets for dealing with his friends deaths
Cuz it's true his vibe changed, I just hope it's for a reason
And doing something like that^^ wouldn't justify it, but it would make it feel realistic imo
Mans is emotionally constipated and has gone through a lot of trauma, so though it doesn't surprise me exactly that he's being a jerk, I hope there's a breaking point or something
Yeah, I mean, that maybe is it, since it happened around the shirakurogiri arc, but I honestly don't know if Horikoshi thinks that deeply about his characters.
I will be happy if it's eventually addressed and he can be a good character again, but I kinda doubt it will? It's not him as a character I have a problem with it's the writing it just feels . bad.
I also don't know if Midnight's death will actually ever be addressed in any meaningful capacity. There was no reason for her to die except for a moment of shock value.
My solution for all of this is make the Loudspeaker AU canon.
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dapperrokyuu · 1 year
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I just really wanted to see the cast lined up with each other, so I took frames from that quick sequence in the beginning of Sweet Dream and decided to see what I could do, lol. Sharing for others to enjoy!
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pepprs · 6 months
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ok. giving myself 4 minutes to make this post and then i finish my homework. i just am so deeply miserable. i really think i made a mistake. i should not be in grad school. i only took a year between this and undergrad and i am still so burned out and mentally ill. im working full time. im only taking one class and this program is supposed to be so good and aligned with what i want and all of that. but i just cant stand having homework. i just cant stand it. i think i am not cut out for academia even though i work in academia. i think i will never get better as long as im still living at home but i have to get better before i can no longer be living at home but i cant get better until im not living at home and every day i still live at home saps away at my will to live quite literally. i should not have started doing grad school without regaining my will to live. without restoring my love for reading and writing that i used to have voraciously when i was younger and less deeply miserable. without recovering from the burnout. i think i made a mistake. i need a masters degree so bad so that i can be safe but i need to not have fucking homework when i already struggle to get through my days without school. i feel so stuck in my life and hopeless and helpless. i dont know what to do
#purrs#i cant drop out or anything because. lol and this class isnt even that big of a deal like i TRULY am freaking out over nothing. but my life#situation is so bad rn bro like i cant get my parents to take me out to drive and i cant get myself to get my parents to take me out to#drive and every day i am guilt tripped berated etc etc and i feel like i am never ever ever going to be able to have my own life where i a#stable and safe and happy. it can happen for other people except for me and my siblings. i dont know. im not explaining anything well.#i just cant do this. i need to not have this one more thing on my plate but i have to because if i dont have a masters degree in my field i#am nothing even though everyone is telling me that isnt true and all of them are credible but im just so mentally ill i cant believe anyone#and icant accept any advice or hope or whatever good about me i just. am stuck. this is as good as it gets and its not even good.#delete later#that was 7 minutes not 4 and i didnt even write anything substantial. nutshell. i just have been so fucking depressed lately oh my goddddd#this is maybe too strong of a thing to say but like. i know it isnt technically neglect if i am an adult but... i think i may kind of be#neglected by my family in some ways a little bit and always have been but like. emotionally. like in the ways in which im never a priority#and the things i need are seen as burdens etc etc. and theres nothing anyone can do about it even myself because im an adult but like lol.#24 year old dependent moment <3#well there is one thing i can do about it as an adult actually. its called move out. but that requires strength i will#never possess unfortunately due to the inherent flaws in my character and constitution so. guess this is it lawl 🥰#side note (and i swear im done after this lol): i think i was doing a lot better mentally over the summer. funny how when the semester#starts i get depressed and the depression just gets worse and worse until the end of the semester 😻 funny how this is my seventh year like#this. willingly subjecting myself to this. that should be a clue no? but i love my job and if i could just have my job and be stable in it#would be happier but also im lying to mysaelf and i will always be unhappy but its because of my mental illness not my job being bad or#anything its like. i am just sick in the head with impostor syndrome and thats how i got myself into this whole mess. lol#well that and the not moving out thing which is partially my fault but also because i live in hell as described earlier! <3
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babeygirlbuckley · 1 year
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kinda tired of all these parent redemption arcs tbh. give chimney a gun
#911 spoilers#hey dont mind me im just casually popping in 👋🏼#but yeah anyway#eddie and ramon last season felt natural/organic but buck and chim in this one felt kinda forced#like im sorry but didnt the buckleys stop going to therapy with him?#youre gonna tell me that 30 years of emotional neglect has been resolved?? like. no lol#the ending was sweet but also. idk. contrived? that might not be the right word#and CHIMNEY#i have NEVER seen mr. han smile. not once. he was cold/distant with albert too but now all of a sudden theres a baby named after his dead#dead first wife and hes sitting on the floor playing?? making faces?? pop pop is funny???#it just doesnt seem realistic to me. like at all#plus everyone else putting the pressure on chim to reach out and fix things is bullshit#hen was so against him meeting with tatiana again. i feel like she was way too nice about it last ep#yeah its fine to encourage a talk for chim to get everything off his chest but like if it was me? if this was my friend?#idk maybe im a bad person but i wouldve used harsher language than that lol#'maybe its about what you need to say' turns into 'call him out! confront him! let him see what hes done to you! make him take responsibili#*responsibility!'#also didnt like that he wound up having the talk with his stepmom instead of the party actually involved#and maybe im remembering wrong but didnt his first marriage end bc his wife died?? he considers that a personal failure?#ANYWAY#all this to say: it is not the children's responsibility to reach out and reconcile with their parents. stop trying to make chim feel bad f#for being kinda aloof with the guy who literally abandoned him in a foreign country#god my thumbs hurt. im not used to this#chimney my beloved 💖#i think thats the tag. its been a while
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