#(not 2 be reductive tho bc I know the breakup was more complex than that and she def wasn't ready for a relationship but STILL the IRONY)

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dani clayton is rep for all my bitches who channel their traumatic experiences into loving fiercely and refusing to let it harden our hearts to other people even though that leaves us open to feeling all of our messy emotions to the max, and we deserve to have that energy reflected back at us and to be understood as the package deal that we are 🙏

#a lot #the irony of my ex telling me that I'd be emotionally destroyed by the bly manor finale #when it's a story about supporting someone you care about through difficult times #and she couldn't even figure out how to react to me crying over the stress of reconnecting with my father ✌️ #and I quote 'that was just like... a lot' #grl u haven't SEEN if u think that was a lot #like... one minute ur telling me the origin of ur night terrors and the next me having Father Issues™ is ??? #how do u get through life dating queer women and never encounter generic run of the mill Father Issues™?? #then having the audacity to be like 'oof yeah bly manor will emotionally wreck u' #why?? bc it reminded me that sometimes people don't pull away when their s/o expresses a messy emotion? #girl had the audacity to recommend this to me AFTER calling it quits #(not 2 be reductive tho bc I know the breakup was more complex than that and she def wasn't ready for a relationship but STILL the IRONY) #grl you've lived nearly 30 yrs of life and you've never learned how to process ur own emotions let alone someone else's smh #how does that even happen??? #*cough* youngest child syndrome *cough* #dani clayton my beloved thank u for giving messy emotional b!tches our rights #gonna skip the get 2 know u phase in future and just point to dani like 'I'm gonna act like that - take it or leave it' #like u don't get to be that kind and empathetic and uniquely resilient without Going Through It™ #and u don't get to have my compassion and patience and support and strength without accepting the reasons why i'm Like That™ #it's us... it's you and me dani... channeling our fear and loneliness and rejection into tryna make sure no-one else ever feels that way #my thoughts #jesus mo shut up it was like a 3 month relationship if we're being generous #and it ended on good terms... get over it babe✌️ #also just realised when u use double quotation marks it pops that phrase to the top of the tags... so it should read: #'grl you haven't SEEN 'a lot'' #and: 'having Father Issues™ is' a lot'???' #lol ✌️