#*her = discourse

[nymph1e]

On Discomfort and Morality

My father finds gay men uncomfortable.

He's told me before that it's like a knee-jerk for him. Something he doesn't consciously control. He sees two men behaving romantically, and his body reacts with mild discomfort.

In the 1960s, when he was in high school, most of the boys in his form thought he was gay on the simple fact that he wasn't homophobic. He wouldn't participate in insulting queer people, he didn't care if someone was gay, he wouldn't have a problem hanging out with gay people. So people thought he was gay. That's how prevalent homophobia was in his formative years.

When I was 10, my dad told me very seriously that Holmes and Watson were gay. That it was obvious from the literature and the time period that they were meant to be a gay couple. When I was 14 and I came out to my parents as bi, when my mum was upset my dad ripped into her for it. Told her that she was being stupid, that it was my life to live how I wanted to and that she needed to get over herself.

My dad formed my views on censorship: that being that it was completely ridiculous and thoroughly evil. He didn't believe in censorship of any kind. If I asked him a question about sex, he answered it honestly. When I was 12 and I asked him about homosexuality, still young and uncertain, he told me that there was nothing wrong with it. That it was just how some people were. That there was likely an evolutionary reason for it. And that for some people it was uncomfortable on an instinctual level.

He taught me that just because you're uncomfortable with something, doesn't make it wrong. He also taught me that most people don't understand this.

I see a lot of this on the internet as of the last few years. The anti shipping movement, the terf movement, the anti ace movement. It all stems from discomfort that people have crossed wires into believing means wrong. Really every -ism and -phobia out there stems from this same fundamental aspect of humanity.

The next time you see something and you automatically think it's disgusting, or wrong, or immoral, I invite you to ask yourself: is this actually wrong or does this just make me uncomfortable?

#shipping discourse #anti censorship #anti terf #my mum isn't homophobic #she was upset because she thought it meant i couldnt have children or a family #and this is something important to her #she was also not upset around me but to my dad in private

[watchingwisteria]

listen there really was just something about how in the book, snow’s 3-page descent from hesitant lover boy to deluded psychopath happens entirely in his mind. lucy gray gives him no indication whatsoever that she suspects him, that she’s going to leave or betray him. he’s just sitting quietly in the cabin waiting for her to return when that seed of calculated suspicion, which he has needed to survive the capitol, takes a hold of him and chokes the life out of any goodness left inside him. it really drives home your terror as a reader that “oh my god did he kill her? did she escape? what happened to her? why would he even think that?” in a way that when the movie had to adjust for visualization it lost some of that holy shit this guy has lost it emphasis.

#seeing some discourse and im not saying lucy grey didnt know #im saying she never dropped the kind of hints that she knew like she did in the movie #or if she did snow isnt worried about them until he very suddenly is consumed by them #snow is not concerned about whether or not she believed him. of course she did! hes snow! #but then shes gone…. for a while…… #and its the sudden immediate drastic unravelling that comes across so clearly in the book #that i knew wouldn’t translate to screen yet still cant help but miss #the hunger games #coriolanus snow #tbosas #lucy gray baird #not a crime or anything just a note that i cannot stop thinking about #the ballad of songbirds and snakes #this is all from memory of reading it quite a while ago. so maybe 3 pages is an exaggeration #but i remember it happening VERY quickly and without much external cause #like we as the reader have no indication as to whether shes nearby or not. #snow has no idea either. he just SUSPECTS. and his suspicion breeds the hatred that has been bubbling inside him all this time #he hates how she undoes him. he hates that he WOULD run away with her if shed let him keep his secrets #and he HATES more than anything that she makes him WANT to tell his secrets #he wants to be vulnerable and reveal the ugly nasty parts about himself and still be loved #but he does not let himself and it is everyone’s downfall #he chooses cruelty bc it is easy and familiar and makes him feel more powerful than the vulnerable give and take that real love requires

[idolomantises]

I just finished rewatching ATLA and I have to say…

Absolutely insane to me that people were insisting that Azula not getting a redemption was “misogynistic” and some kind of writing mistake. The girl told her dad to commit mass genocide.

#txt #I genuinely think a lot of ATLA discourse would not exist if people just rewatched the show instead of letting their memories be warped by #fanfiction and memes #like I’ve seen Azula fans give iroh a lot of shit for calling her crazy #but they don’t mention that right before this she SHOT HIM IN THE HEART #anyways I love Azula and I’m glad she wasn’t redeemed. more of this please

[brother-emperors]

something. about. the horror of being sent on an impossible (death) quest and obligations and hospitality politics. the trauma of not having a home, and then the trauma of being in a house that becomes actively hostile to you, one that would swallow you whole and spit out your bones if you step out of line. all of this is conditional, your existence continues to be something men want gone.

it's about going back as far as I can with the perseus narrative because there's always a version of a myth that exists behind the one that survives. the missing pieces are clearly defined, but the oldest recorded version of it isn't there! and there's probably something older before that!! but it's doomed to forever be an unfilled space, clearly defined by an outline of something that was there and continues to be there in it's absence.

and love. it's also about love. even when you had nothing, you had love.

on the opposite side of the spectrum, this is Not About Ovid Or Roman-Renaissance Reception, Depictions And Discourses On The Perseus Narrative.

edit: to add to the above, while it's not about Ovid, because I'm specifically trying to peel things back to the oldest version of this story, Ovid is fine. alterations on the Perseus myth that give more attention Medusa predate Ovid by several centuries. this comic is also not about those, either! there are many versions of this story from the ancient world. there is not one singular True or Better version, they're all saying something.

Perseus, Daniel Ogden

Anthology of Classical Myth: Primary Sources in Translation, edited & translated by Stephen M Trzaskoma, R. Scott Smith, Stephen Brunet

#it's all greek to me #perseus #danae #komiks tag #long post #every other week i start to say something about how greek heroes are a good case study in diaspora and exile trauma #but man perseus makes me so sad. so does danae. she loves her son :( #perseus turning a whole island to stone is a huge mood. i would also do that if i were him #anyway (salutes) take care everyone i gotta watch yunho's new video it looks like a fucking movie im so excited #(i singled out ovid bc i remember the fucking shit perseus discourse that ran through this site. i remember #im preemptively loading a gun and pointing at it before it can touch this post #it hasn't died out either i see it on twitter all the time in the most ANNOYING ways possible i am TIRED #esp bc they're actually doing medusa a narrative disservice like congrats! you made it worse! stop telling me it's better!!!!)

[catofoldstones]

we already have people bitching about how “i can’t stand Chani, she’s so annoying 🙄” and “Paul chose Chani to be the mother of his children, Irulan is just at the sidelines eating dust as she should”, like brothers we cannot do this again. We can’t Chani v Irulan our way out of this one because the problem is Paul and the Empire. Gosh, we truly are never getting out of the patriarchy.

#and god forbid someone mention that Paul in turn screwed over Chani by not making him his wife and granting her the rights and privileges > #> that are due to her #and some fucker will respond oh he had to marry Irulan to become emperor #(YES WHY?! UNDERSTAND THAT) #i just want to scream #wtf is this #is this the level of discourse we bring to these books/movies #? #this is giving very early asoiaf fandom and not in a good way #dune #paul atreides #princess irulan #chani #chani dune #dune books #dune movies #sigh #irulan corrino #duneposting

[acarillustrated]

thinking about mizu from blue eye samurai. thinking. thinking so much. thinking about how mizu operates outside of gender. like we joke about her gender being revenge but straight up? it literally is. like she grew up as a boy and is most comfortable being a man, but behind that is the feeling of betraying himself because he isn't being honest about who he is and he lives in fear of being discovered. and when he lived as a woman, she found joy there as well. she fell in love, and though she wasn't good at it, she liked being a wife and enjoying a simple life. but in that life too, she isn't being honest about who she is. and when she reveals her true self, it's not a woman, she's a demon, a weapon. she's to masculine to be a woman, and too feminine to be a man. ultimately, mizu is most comfortable when they are being a murder machine. that's when they feel they are being the most true to themself. like a sword, they are neither man nor woman, but a blend of both, which makes them stronger.

#also there's a point to be made about how their identity as a mixed person plays a role in their gender #but i can't really speak on that #it's obvious tho #like that's what the show is about #like the reason mizu is perceived as masculine is because she's half white #honestly the racial thing is more important #which is why it's explicitly stated in the show #but im seeing a lot of discourse about mizu's gender #honestly a lot of mizu's relationship w gender is subtext #like good news tho! #mizu is a woman! but also a man! #it's both at the same time #anyway #ill shut up now #i just love her so much #not art #blue eye samurai #mizu #blue eye samurai mizu #bes mizu

[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

his daughter is not a weapon!

#ethan winters #karl heisenberg #resident evil 8 #re8 #resident evil village #rebhfun #resident evil #resident evil fanart #miss D and her man thing #i hope to god this does not start discourse #be fr #u really think ethan is in the wrong for turning down his deal #turning down a deal from a man whos first impression was stabbing him and throwing him into a death pit #'yeah but he stabbed him because ____' #BRO HE STABBED HIM #IT DOES NOT MATTER #karl is not a good person #just because he was willing to ally with ethan does not make him a saint #he wanted to use ethans daughter #why would u tell the man who has been fighting his way through ur family to save his baby daughter #that u want to use said baby daughter #it was a bad deal please dont try to twist it to make it seem like ethans stupid for turning it down #karl is stupid for thinking hed accept and then refusing to elaborate and throwing him into his jet engine hole #this doesnt mean i dont like karl #im just tired of people tyring to make karl look better by making ethan look worse #cmon man #this concludes another crumb essay in the tags

[cloudysfluffs]

REALLY considered not posting this one.......might delete later

ns//fw and/or ki//nk blogs please dni!!!

#PLEASE READ THESE TAGS: #I AM NOT A VIV///ZIEPOP SUPPORTER!!!!!!!!! I ACTIVELY DISLIKE HER #i have been watching haz/bin with my boyf. and for funsies weve been rewriting and redesigning it in its entirity bc....yikes #imm not adding this to my fandom list bc i dont like. the shows lol. so im not gonna do requests or anything probly #this is a one time thing featuring my redesigns bc i refuse to draw them how they really look you cant make me #anyway please dont unfollow me for posting this 🙏 (/j you can do what you want) #tickle art #hazbin hotel tickle #lee!husk #ler!angel dust #my art #please dont send me discourse about this i dont care if you Like The Show just take this at face value <333333333333

[comradekatara]

"bitter work" is such an iconic episode. toph and katara debate the merits of various teaching methods when your student is a gifted kid who has heretofore never struggled to grasp a concept. iroh expresses a desire to pulverize his fourteen year old niece. sokka and zuko bargain with god.

#O SMITE ME MIGHTY SMITER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #zuko's best moment ever tbh. it makes me laugh so hard im SORRY #toph #katara #aang #iroh #azula #sokka #zuko #i wouldve said 'abused' or 'mentally ill' fourteen year old niece but i dont wanna get discourse in my notes forever. #he did call her crazy though. so!

[majachee]

HOW COME she shows up for only ONE EPISODE... SHE IS SO CUTE... BRING ME BACK MY LESBIANS.

#majart #sketch #tmnt #teenage mutant ninja turtles #tmnt 1987 #raphmona #raphael hamato #tmnt raphael #mona lisa #tmnt mona lisa #fanart #digital art #art #if i see any comments trying to start discourse about her age i am going to explode. she's so obviously a teenager shut UPPP #pretend that raph's beauty mark is there btw... i forgor it.

[visenyaism]

ultimately the team black argument is so boring to me especially in the show because it is just straightforward and correct. like obviously usurping someone for being a woman is bad. but if we weigh the girlboss against watching the six most miserable people i have ever seen in my entire life plus also one anime villain dig themselves into a hole so twisted and deep that they can’t see the sun from the bottom until the house collapses foundationless into the dirt it’s just NO contest. rhaenyra being correct is like a tertiary concern that’s not why i’m here.

#sometimes i’ll get asoiaf tiktok and it’ll be like rhaenyra is the only morally good option and it’s like. we’re here to watch her be right #wait fuck i posted team discourse i am not gonna get sticker reward #asoiaf #hotd

[apollos-boyfriend]

i really do hate how "inclusive language" has just looped back around to gender essentialism in so many cases. i had my women in art professor say the words "there are things that men-identifying individuals will never understand in the way women do." and it's clear she wanted to say cis (het, white, upper class, neurotypical, able bodied, etc) men (which is another conversation entirely), but in her attempts to be inclusive she's fully missed the point. there are plenty of male-identifying individuals that understand, be it trans men or multigender people or nonbinary individuals or what have you. using gender inclusive terms does nothing when all you do is further alienate and erase people's experiences/identities

#icarus speaks #unsure how to tag this #discourse #i guess? #idk. i don't hold it against her #it's just. it's really obvious when people are doing it without really thinking about the implications #but for the sake of 'inclusivity' #it's too early i can't word this right i'm sorry #neg

[hypogryffin]

Twitter cold and hard. Tumblr soft and warm. Can I have some Kannao to counteract everything that happened please?

the way this ask was sent a year and a half ago and i dont even know which kanji and naoto twitter discourse its even for because weve cycled through like 27 separate events within that time frame

#as of queueing this there is twitter discourse about naoto going RIGHT NOW! #anyways #trans naoto #<as always please no she/her when talking about naoto on this post! #kannao #naoto shirogane #kanji tatsumi

[trashfangirlsworld]

Once again I want to remind everyone that if you don't feel personally comfortable buying stuff from the qsmp shop, it's completely fine, however if your reason for it is that you're helping ex or current admins, then I'm sorry but you're not at all. It's been said multiple times that the qsmp is not financially stable rn, it is the whole reason why the egg admins can't come back to the server now, because there are no funds to currently pay them properly. Until qsmp's financial situation is sorted, the egg admins can't come back, and ex admins cannot be paid back for their work. Quackity can't pull money out of his ass. This is the whole point of the merch, to hopefully increase qsmp's funds.

Again, don't buy anything if you feel uncomfortable to do so rn, it's perfectly alright, just keep what I said above in mind if it's not about comfort. Remember to be nice and respectful to each other!

#I'm sorry but it makes sense that pomme's admin hasn't been contacted about payment yet #because they have no money to pay her rn #it's way too early for that #especially when other egg admins haven't come back yet #this is a conversation to have when stuff starts to stabilize #qsmp #qsmp discourse #qadmin situation

[maigetheplatypus57]

I've already seen some people explain better why sally standing up to gabe doesn't negate her being a victim of abuse and I'm by no means an expert on abuse or abuse victims but I just felt the need to point out that what could've motivated sally to directly talk back to gabe like that was the fact that Percy was there.

Percy, the kid who she probably hadn't seen in a while because he was a boarding school. The kid who absolutely adores her and looks up to her, which would've motivated her to at least act (in her mind, we already know how strong she is) like the strong parental figure he needs in his life. The kid who has just been expelled and really needed her comfort, something that would've been significantly harder to give with Gabe in the same house. The kid who she's already decided at that point to send to Camp Halfblood for his own safety and wellbeing, and maybe she didn't want some of his last memories of her to be begging and pleading, instead turning it into a negotiation where she had just a little more power and be his cool strong mom (and isn't it bad enough that she had to negotiate just for gabe to not be mad for using a car that was mostly likely paid with her own god damn money?).

We don't know how Gabe and Sally act when Percy isn't home because we're seeing them from Percy's perspective. Hell, Percy only finds out that Gabe is physically abusive towards Sally near the end of the book, which means that Sally's been trying to shield him from that violence as much as possible. Maybe, if everything had gone to plan and Sally had successfully dropped off Percy at camp and returned home, maybe there would have been a worse fight with Gabe when she got back. Maybe she Is a cowering hapless victim when Percy's not there (which I don't necessarily believe but again, not an abuse expert).

But for just one night, Sally had her kid with her. A kid who needed love and reassurance and was in danger from forces he didn't even know about. A kid who she Needed to get out of the house to their cabin as soon as possible to protect him. A kid who she loved and adored, whose safety and wellbeing outweighed everything else, even her own safety. A kid that she would face down the god damn minotaur for.

So fuck man, is it really so hard to believe that she would risk one moment of defiance against her asshole husband for the son she loves?

#percy jackson #pjo spoilers #sally jackson #maige's posts #maige's ramblings #im not a huge fan of discourse but i needed to say this #bc fuck man. if i had a kid i would give the world to them if i could. and we already know that sally already sacrifices #everything for percy. she married gabe to protect him. she made herself a target for the minotaur to let him escape #there's a reason why even gods recognize her to be one of the best mortal women to have ever walked the planet