Septy's Apology
Yeah, SeptyPaws released an apology video regarding their various recent actions--and I have some thoughts. The video can be watched here if anybody is curious, although I do plan to summarize the video in the post you're about to read.
The video specifically apologizes to Hopeless Peaches, LioConvoy, Just a Robot, CallMeNil, and Neko Koda. So far the reaction has been mixed, although two of the people Septy apologized to have left comments on their video. Nil congratulated Septy for apologizing and said that he accepts it, and Koda called it manipulative bullshit.
Yeah, that's something that really rubbed me the wrong way. While talking about Neko Koda--who, again, she's supposed to be apologizing too--Septy talks about how close they were to Koda and how they saved Koda after her suicide attempt--as if that has any relevance to the issues at hand. It comes off like they're trying to say Koda threw them under the bus without actually saying if that makes sense--or maybe I'm looking for something that isn't there. I just get this really "after all I've done for you this is how you repay" vibe from it.
Mind you, this was part of a larger issue with the apology: Septy kept talking about how they felt and how they were effected and this and that--when a video like this should be about the people they're apologizing to, not them. 2jun recently posted a tweet that I personally think is very relevant here.
Now, I'm not going to go as far as some people and say Septy only engaged in mindless excuse making--because that's far from the case. Septy did try and say the server that involved drawing NSFW of the OCs of various YouTubers was "showing appreciation" (which is an argument straight out of Carmen's playbook--by the way) and talked about how Neko Koda had no issue with the art of Carmen being gang raped at first. However, I'm at least willing to chalk the first one up to poor wording and the second on up to Septy's habit of including details that really don't matter--especially in regards to Neko Koda.
Also, they seem to be under the impression Lio has actually adopted Hopeless Peaches--that's just not true. Hopeless calls Lio an incredibly strong father figure in her life, and legally Lio is not in her custody nor recognized as a legal parent or guardian. Lio just does this with some people who he feels have especially bad role models or who he particularly cares about--fuck, the last time I talked to him about a year and a half ago he said something similar about Opal.
I'll say this: I'm at least willing to give Septy more of a benefit of the doubt than they probably deserve when it comes to this apology. If a year from now Septy really has shown improvement--I won't say I'd be surprised but I'd also say that I'd understand why others would be. This video just felt really performative for lack of a better word, and overly emotional if I'm being honest. I understand the second one, but I know that not everybody will and it can easily come off like Septy's trying to become the victim.
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My Apology For My Neko Koda Post
A couple of days ago, I made a post about Neko Koda that has since gotten a large amount of backlash for reasons I will soon get into. If you want to read it in full, you can find it here.
2jun posted a twitter thread on it today criticizing many aspects of the post, from its needless assholery to getting things wrong to the fact that I'm not really the best person to declare where the moral high ground is located.
Doodletones also wrote a thread on Twitter calling me out by name while also making it clear that she did not stand by comparing Neko Koda to Vii Omega.
Koda herself even commented on this post on Twitter and declared that I was "morally bankrupt" because of it.
Most of the post is fairly generic bullshit I've already said about Neko Koda, although I should note that quite a few people got onto my case for saying I was banned from Purely Odd Grandmasters--sorry "Purely Odd Grandmaters" according to the tags--"because of things that were almost always my fault." A number of people took that as an attempt by me to deflect blame onto others--and while I see where they're coming from, I want to make it clear that was never my intent. It was my actions that fucked me over in POG, and none of them were POG's "fault."
Then I move on to her hatred of being compared to Vii Omega--and I do this thing where I also say I totally understand why she doesn't like it while also calling her hatred of it irrational. Even ignoring what Vii did to Neko--and trust me, there's a lot we can say regarding that--that doesn't make any sense on the surface. In order for something to be irrational, you have to have no understanding of the thought process behind it. If you have the ability to comprehend the rationale that leads somebody towards an emotion, that emotion is rational by definition.
That also begs the question of why you'd spend so much time defending something you don't agree with. In the post, I say that Neko should seek to understand why people call her something I dismissed as a "really mean thing" while angry with her. The answer to that question is in the premise: It's because they're angry with her, and more than likely just saying things they know would hurt her feelings. They aren't making some kind of wider personal point about her--because if they were, why the fuck would they limit their comparison to one of the least awful things done by a terrible person? That's like saying you don't like somebody because they remind you of Ronald Reagan in Bedtime for Bonzo--what the fuck does that even mean?
Regarding the situation involving Crimson Paladin and The Cloud Palace, I begin by noting that Neko Koda misused the word "weaponizing," which--okay, who gives a shit? Then, I say this,
Also, Neko does understand that people besides her were victims of Vii Omega, right?
Ah, the Ann Coulter argument.
The person she keeps going after is Doodletones, who was a close friend with Vii Omega up until he was kicked out of The Cloud Place for being a manipulative asshole. Fuck, I was friends with him for far longer than either Neko Koda or Doodletones were, even talking to the guy mere days before he left the internet for being exposed as a groomer and a sexual abuser. Mind you, I was never a victim of his��but doesn’t that give me some right to recognize Neko engaging in similar patterns of behavior that he engaged in?
Who the fuck is arguing that you don't have "some right to recognize Neko engaging in similar patterns of behavior"? Neko even said in a tweet embedded in this post that her issue is not the accusation, but the language used in them.
Doodle had it worse than me–although nobody, except maybe a few–had it worse than Koda, but again, shouldn’t Doodle have the right to notice similarities in patterns of behavior? That’s the thing that really gets to me here. It would be one thing if Koda criticized the comparison as needlessly hyperbolic (because discord servers she isn’t in is where she thinks you list out your formal complaints, I guess) but acknowledged the criticism around it and responded to it. Instead, Koda just gets irrationally angry and uses the harsh analogy and closes her ears. This, plus the fact that she thinks she has the right to tone police every mention of her on the internet is honestly just frustrating.
Serious question: Did you honestly stop and ask why that was? Yeah, most people would become irrational (but in an understandable way, of course--don't think we forgot that) if you compared them to somebody who abused and raped them. Would you listen to that analogy calmly and give a rational response to it? Because if so, that says far more about you than it ever could about Neko Koda.
The tactic being engaged in here is called "bull baiting." For those unaware, it's when you intentionally do something that makes somebody angry in order to go after them for being mad at you. It's based on this really nonsensical idea that you can never be angry and also correct, as if the mere emotion of anger cancels out your ability to say right things. Of course, anger, just like all emotions, can be expressed both justly and unjustly and can be called upon for both good and bad reasons.
To make this very simple: I crossed a line by making that argument, and made a point that was both disgusting and nonsensical in the process. What I said basically came down to "why can't you act rationally in response to being reminded of a trigger of yours," which is such an equal parts bizarre, stupid, ignorant, and disgusting question to ask somebody.
I want to apologize to anybody who I offended with that honestly thoughtless remark. If you don't want to accept that apology--either because you would rather I show improvement first or because you just don't want to--that's perfectly fine, I have no right to your forgiveness. I'm near certain Neko Koda is not going to forgive me for this, and she doesn't have to. I don't have the right to determine how you respond to my actions, that is something for you and you alone and I will not sit here and pretend otherwise.
However, I do at least want to make it known that I understand my mistake when it comes to this situation. In general, I've just been needlessly mean when it comes to both my personal and online conduct. I was originally going to include more apologies than just this one for this post, but honestly, I feel like this situation was such a big fuck up on my part it deserves a post to itself
Goodnight and good luck.
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🧶 just give me 2jun besties being soft ty
Before Minjun, Junji had endured his solitude gracefully enough, without realizing quite how lonely he was. He supposed if either he or Minjun were even halfway normal, halfway emotionally well-adjusted, they probably wouldn't have become quite so attached at the hip, so quick. Still, from the moment they became acquainted, they were inseparable. Junji wondered how he'd managed this long without Minjun's stabilizing and comforting presence.
Junji had made and maintained several friendships in Sydney and London, but his bond with Minjun put them all to shame. Junji had never felt comfortable sharing his feelings and always kept his few friends at a suitable distance. But not with Minjun. There was no space between them, no walls.
By this time - September - Minjun and Junji had been best friends for seven years. It wasn't unusual for the pair to find themselves at one or the other's home, sometimes not even speaking, simply luxuriating in each other’s company. That evening, they were at Junji's apartment, eating dinner together and having a passionate, long-winded discussion over green tea. Junji, who often had four or five cups of coffee before dinner, switched to hot tea at mealtime. Later, they watched an old movie.
"Don't go yet," said Junji when Minjun stood up toward the end of Rebecca. "You're going to miss the best part." And so Minjun sat back down on the sofa. They watched the rest of the movie in cozy silence.
Junji yawned and scrubbed his face with a hand. Someone had turned the TV off, and it was pitch-black outside. He glanced up at the wall-mounted clock. 4:07 AM. He must've dozed off. Junji made to sit up but found himself unable to move. Minjun's sleeping form was heaped on top of him, arm draped over his waist, a warm weight that the necromancer found natural and consoling. There wasn't anything embarrassing or inherently sexual about them touching in this way. It was more like a pair of wolf pups huddled together to keep warm in a snowstorm. It was pragmatism. Survival.
Minjun stirred a little and appeared like he might wake. Junji pulled him closer in a sleepy, snuggling motion. "Shhh," he whispered. "Go back to sleep." Junji fell asleep shortly after, lulled by Minjun's familiar scent and warm, steady breath against his neck. They clung to each other like castaways, like young orphans, like two islands who had, in a merciful act of cosmic continental drifting, slammed into one another in the murky, lonely dark.
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