#AVPD

[avpdvoidspace]

Really uncomfortable with the narrative I've been seeing that people with personality disorders are stunted by trauma and suspended in the mental state of being a teenager. This narrative could most definitely be used to take autonomy away from people, and imo it's not true. Trauma has certainly changed the way our brains work, but that's not the same as being 'mentally a teenager', and it's dangerous to suggest that. I don't think PD traits can or should be classified as 'immaturity', either.

#avpd #avoidant personality disorder #cluster c #personality disorders #neurodivergence

[redacted-coiner]

BPD, NPD, DPD

ASPD, HPD, AVPD

OCPD, Schizospecs(link), OCD

DNI is listed within my pinned post. Please go read it before interacting with any part of my content. Ask to tag!

#🎨 post #liom #mogai #liomogai #MAD #MAD pride #BPD #NPD #HPD #ASPD #DPD #AVPD #OCPD #Schizospecs #SCHIZOSPECTRUM #schizophrenic #OCD #pride #pride emote #pride emoji #pride pixels #pride pixel #MAD emote #MAD pixels #Mental Health

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd + avpd is wanting to get more manipulative and all but you don't give enough fucks about people to go out of your way to manipulate them

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#npd culture is #npd + avpd culture is #npd + cluster c culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #avpd #avoidant personality disorder #cluster c

[cluster-c-pds-culture-is]

SzPD and AvPD culture is having friends but them regularly needing to convince you that they are a) really your friends and b) that you deserve having friends, but deep down, having actual friends still doesn't feel real

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#cluster c #cluster c pds #cluster c personality disorder #cluster c personality disorders #cluster c culture is #cluster c pds culture is #avpd #avoidant personality disorder #avpd culture is #szpd culture is #mod v

[probablyavpd]

Not many people talk about how deep emotional neglect hurts you.

I’m afraid to want things. I’m afraid to ask for help. I’m afraid to tell someone something if they seem in a bad mood. I can’t process when someone is nice to me. I can’t handle rejection, but my brain literally short circuits if someone gives me a compliment to the point where sometimes the rejection is better.

There are lots of overlap with emotional abuse, but emotional neglect hurts just as much. And it’s even worse that it usually goes undetected, so a lot of people can’t tell they’re being neglected until it’s too late.

#emotional neglect #avpd #cluster c #avoidant personality disorder #mental health #mental illness

[bunnighost]

#avpd #derealization #bpd #dissociation

[aintnopartylikeaprideparty]

as someone who has experienced abuse from someone with a personality disorder, it's actually incredibly easy to not dehumanize everyone with a personality disorder. i've seen people do borderline eugenic rhetoric surrounding people who have npd, aspd, bpd or other personality disorders, and then be like "I'M allowed to say these things because i'm a survivor, and if you disagree you are hurting abuse victims."

and frankly? i'm tired of it. as an abuse survivor i'm here to say that you're NOT allowed to turn into a fucking eugenicist the moment you're hurt by someone with a personality disorder.

does hurting and belittling other people who happen to have the same disorder as your abuser, people that are already suffering and that are already looked down on by society, bring you any healing? does it bring you peace?

Being hurt by someone isn't an excuse to hurt others that you feel justified in lashing out on. you're literally in control of your own actions,

you may claim to be making a safe space for abuse survivors, but i will never feel any solidarity with you, and i ESPECIALLY don't feel safe with you considering i might have a personality disorder.

you are excluding a large amount of abuse survivors in the name of "advocacy". a lot of people with personality disorders developed one or multiple due to heavy abuse. in the aim of creating a safe space, you are excluding the ones who need a safe space the most.

#npd #aspd #bpd #avpd #ocpd #hpd #spd #ppd #dpd #stpd #trauma #abuse mention #ableism #abuse survivor #i'm sorry this is so rambly i'm tired AAAAAA #i wish i was better at articulating my points bc i have so much to say on this😔 #i've felt this for awhile but felt to make this after seeing a particularly bad post that claimed everybody with npd and/or aspd is a- #-monster who can't feel emotions and only gets joy out of abusing others #if you think THAT'S bad i'm leaving out MANY details from the post that i don't want to get into #personality disorder #max speaks

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

“It’s okay to not be okay”

Unless it impacts your work performance…

Or your grades

Or how you act

Or if it causes you to say no

Or if you’re harder to be around

Or if you need time alone

Or if you talk about it

Or show symptoms

“It’s okay to not be okay”

Unless you have trauma

Unless you have one of those “scary” mental illnesses

Unless it inconveniences me

Unless you’re undiagnosed

Unless you cry or scream or make a scene

Unless you don’t keep that shit to yourself

Unless you make me uncomfortable

Unless I can’t infantilize or fetishize you

Unless you have hallucinations

Unless you have psychosis

Unless you get angry

Unless I think you’re cringe

Unless you can’t preform hygiene tasks

Unless you’re disabled, or trans, or gay, or not white, or fat, or AFAB, or intersex, or a man… so I guess anyone

“It’s okay to not be okay”

As long as nobody ever finds out.

Our society has a severe issue with performative activism, and mental health is a huge example of this. Every time someone considers reaching out, they run through this list mentally. This is why true activists and resources need to be loudly supportive of all the things on this list. Take the subtext out of your support.

#repitition #tw repition #second person pov #second person tw #tw cursing #cw cursing #cursing #avpd #avoidant personality disorder #personality disorder #actually avpd #pd #pdid #did #mental illness #mental health advocate #ptsd #cluster c personality disorder #mental illness advocacy

[dailydivergent]

Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.

#neurodivergence tips #neurodiversity tips #neurodivergencies #neurodivergence #actually adhd #actually audhd #audhd #actually autistic #autism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodiverse stuff #actually neurodiverse #its the neurodivergency #dailydivergent #bipolar #cluster b #cluster c #avpd #ppd #avoidant personality disorder #cluster b pds #actually aspd #tourettes #tic disorder #actually tourettic #tics #fnd #nuerodivergent #bipolar disorder

[motormouthedfool]

bitches be like "do i have a personality disorder or am i just looking for attention or am i just trying to find excuses for behaving the way i do"

im bitches

#personality disorder #ppd #stpd #spd #aspd #bpd #hpd #npd #avpd #dpd #ocpd #paranoid personality disorder #schizotypal personality disorder #schizoid personality disorder #anti social personality disorder #borderline personality disorder #histrionic personality disorder #narcissistic personality disorder #avoidant personality disorder #dependant personality disorder #obsessive compulsive personality disorder #sorry if i missed any #anyways tag ramble time! #i find that i heavily relate to most of the symtoms of avpd dpd and bpd #but i dont want to draw conclusions #im worried that im just being dramatic about my issues #and i dont know how to bring it up without immediately being dismissed as seeking attention or self diagnosing or smth #i just want to know what is and isnt wrong with me. #i hope next time i get a therapist or psychiatrist i can try to talk about it? #idk. i just want closure

[cluster-c-chaos]

also this is the last thing for now, but when I was first figuring this stuff out (pre-diagnosis), I googled "is it possible to have more than one personality disorder?" and found the answer to be "yes, but steer clear of someone who does!"

so I just wanted to say... if you have more than one personality disorder, you are still worthy of good things. you can still live a good life. you can still have strong connections to other people, and you can still learn to love yourself. having a personality disorder doesn't make you a bad person, and neither does having several personality disorders

#tw ableism #tw sanism #whatever. #personality disorders #this goes for EVERY cluster #cluster a #cluster b #cluster c #avpd #ocpd

[fairiencarnate]

Living with avoidant behaviours means that for you to see me and be able to judge me, good or bad, inherently it means I am trying. Maybe not by yours, but by my standards I am succeeding too.

I don't think people understand how earth shatteringly terrifying it is to look for new jobs or meet new people with a panic disorder or social phobia. It puts me in a mindset where I have to actively remind myself that ending my life to escape the perceived danger is counterproductive, I am that out of my mind with panic. I know it doesn't make sense but knowing that doesn't stop the visceral fear from being so real. I wish people knew I don't want to be this way and I am actively fighting against it at all times even when it looks to others like I'm hiding away. The fact that I am still here, the fact that I answer messages sometimes and visit my family, the fact that I apply for jobs and leave the house to run errands at all is testament to how hard I'm trying.

If I stopped trying and gave in to my default state I would be shrivelled and pasty, dehydrated and sick from being too numb to feed myself, curled half-conscious and unshowered in grimy bed sheets, covered in nervous-picking sores, popping pills or drinking myself into slumber. I would not speak to a soul, not even immediate family. I wouldn't post at all. You would not know I exist.

For you to see me and be able to judge me, inherently means I am trying. Because I'm here and I'm not just awake. I'm the scariest thing I can be - perceivable.

#personal #avpd #actually avpd #actually avoidant #avoidant personality disorder #chronic anxiety #anxiety disorder #social anxiety disorder #social phobia #agoraphobia

[bloodstainsonthefloor]

neurodivergent people are not immune to being ableist

you as a neurodivergent person are not immune to being ableist

#be normal about cluster bs challenge #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #npd #bpd #avpd #hpd #cluster b #did #osdd #system #mikey’s stuff

[bunnighost]

#unwanted #unlovable #avpd #lonely

[avpdpossum]

me: i know they’re you’re friends and they’re really nice but that just makes them even scarier because i really want them to like me and would be genuinely devastated if they didn’t so it’s just easier to never engage with them and endlessly wish i was friends with them without ever risking being rejected by them even if that means i never actually get to be their friend. like sure, strangers are scary too, but they’re easier because i’m not super invested in whether they like me or not. the people i already like? those are the most terrifying people ever. you know what i mean?

my boyfriend, who doesn’t have avpd: no. no i do not know what you mean. that is literally the exact opposite of how my social anxiety works. i can’t even imagine how that would feel.

#they get regularly baffled by my avpd shit #bc our bad-at-people-ness as socially anxious autistics looks similar on the surface #but when you dig into it ive got all sorts of weird avpd shit going on that they can’t understand #poss.speaks #personal #avpd #actually avpd #actually avoidant #avoidant pd #avoidant personality disorder #cluster c

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

Having AvPD is like: I’m so open, everyone knows everything about me. That’s terrifying, everyone must hate how much I share. God I feel so exposed I feel sick. And the last time you opened up to someone was October of 2021 when you told your mom you were a little stressed.

#avpd #avoidant personality disorder #personality disorder #actually avpd #pd #avpd things #cluster c personality disorder #avpd problems #cluster c #actually avoidant #actually cluster c #avoidant #avoidant pd #pro self diagnosis #self dx safe #endo safe #pro endo #mental health #avpd feels