#Acting Attractive

[gay-otlc]

Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.

#like i mostly get impacted from this as a straight trans man #and the way people- even my friends- have acted like my attraction to women is now morally worse since i came out as trans #but this also affects like. bi/mspec men? it's shitty to shame them for their attraction to women! #and even cishet men. acting like objectification or predatory behavior is just inherent to male attraction to women #let's shitty men off the hook because 'they can't help it' or whatever #or victim blames anyone abused by a cishet man because 'what did you expect from being in a relationship with him' #yeah so like. sapphics stop saying this challenge #transhet #anti-transmasculinity #again i'm tagging because that's my personal experience with that sentiment but it has a ton of other issues too #antimasculism

[frodo-a-gogo]

Let us be brutally honest with ourselves and with eachother for a moment. If he weren't obese you motherfuckers would be capable of percieving evrart claires sexy sexy moral ambiguity and complex charms

#i am (lesbian) sipping him like a fine DESSERT WINE #my evidence by the way is very simple and very damning. joyce messier. there i said it. #if you guys can appreciate the fact that Joyce is a complex figure worthy of disgust yes but also worthy of empathy #despite being a venal coward facilitating acts of violence and slaughter of the organized working poor of martinaise in the name of capital #if you can understand that she is a dimensional figure while also being an embodiment of the moral apathy and cruelty if capital owners #but you cant look at evrart and see that he is (while deeply flawed and morally suspect) also a dimensional figure #on top of the fact that his motivations are eminently relatable and dare i say it baser #and his greatest failing imho is in failing to advocate for the interests of *all* the poor of martinaise #opting instead to marginalize the inhabitants of the fishing village in favor of a power grab in the interests of himself and his union #though this is imo a bit of a grey area morally. undeniably a wrong and bad thing to do but done in service of clairs political goals #to gather power to advocate for the working class against ultraliberal monoliths like wild pines and fascistic orgs like krenel #still super wrong but i can follow the moral arithmetic there tho i don't like it #but like my point is if u can see that joyce is evil and pathetic but still cool and sexy but you consider clair flatly distasteful #thats cus hes not conventionally attractive #cus he is *every bit* as dimensional and interesting as joyce and he is not nearly as politically shite even if hes interpersonally a jerk

[knightingale]

The "Sansa reminds Sandor of his sister" motive that some people try to hitch to his character really just flies in the face of his actual attachments to her, doesn't it? Sansa reminds Sandor of himself. He sees the little boy who used to love knights in this girl who's been swept up by the same romanticism. He sees his abuser in her abusers, the much larger knight(s) beating on the helpless child. He sees how she is betrayed by every level of authority that should have saved her and remembers his father's neglect and Tywin and Robert's apathy for Gregor's crimes. He's protective of Sansa because he was Sansa.

And GRRM's design, that one of the strongest warriors in the series, a fearsome and cynical 6'8" guy who's "muscled like a bull" and has the face of death itself, sees himself in this soft and effeminate teen girl, and empathizes with her because he was an abuse victim too, is INFINITELY more compelling than "Oh yeah I bet she just reminds him of his sister," who he's never mentioned and who we know literally nothing about. Way to unnecessarily water down a character, you couldn't have ignored the black and white text more efficiently if you tried.

#sorry for the rant i saw this sentiment in a yt video recently #sansa stark #sandor clegane #sansan #asoiaf #and this is only one facet of why he has so much affection for her too #these people act like his attachment to her is limited to projection and not also bc she treats him like he's an actual human being #or that they can be themselves when they're with each other -that he can openly show his weakness to her and be comforted and validated #or like even just the physical attraction aspect - which is so obvious that you'd have to be willfully ignorant to miss it #how do you read him trying to kiss her and come away thinking “he thinks of her as his sister” lmfao #things that make me feel like people dont actually read the books

[happyshippingnoises]

Everybody's like, wonder what will happen if saikis friends find out and not WONDER HOW THEY WOULD FEEL 😞😞

I kind of rushed this comic but I feel like teruhashi's feelings should be considered more. I feel like she'd kind of burst out crying if she found out saiki knew all of her struggles and still chose to stay close to her. I feel like through her shame, she'd avoid Saiki until finally accepting Saiki's power.

Also She never had anybody glimpse into her actual personality, so the fact Saiki had secretly been there to help her or support her even when he knew her feelings.. yeah she'd cry. Just out of the stress of being perfect and all.

I also think that she'd likely get over her feelings for him or atleast accept them (?) Depends how you interpret it. I'm fine either way (THERES A SKIP AND LOAFER REFERENCE IN HERE BTW)

#saiki k #saiki no psi nan #kusuo saiki #ao3 saiki #saiki fanart #teruhashi fanart #saiki x teruhashi #makoto teruhashi #teruhashi kokomi #saiki k comic #saiki k fanart #teruhashi and saiki #platonic soulmates #i feel like if she really liked saiki and confessed..hed be like “you attract too much attention sorry” #and then in an act of love shed just shave her head or try to look ugly.. to no avail but still #comic art

[a-schmoozer-and-a-dummy]

hc that husk always thinks angel is beautiful gorgeous etc., but the first time he sees angel in an oversized tshirt and years-old worn in sweatpants and messy hair is when he realizes that, oh yes. now i see it. he’s hot. yeah.

#something something angel in nonsexual clothing means he’s not putting on an act and he’s allowing himself to Be #and husk is immediately like. Wow! Hot! #(not in an objectification way but in the way that he’s attracted to the emotional and physical vulnerability that angel allows him to see) #husk #angel dust #huskerdust #husk hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel husk #angel dust hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel angel dust #jac txt.

[lastoneout]

I do agree with the people calling Somerton out for his misogyny and lesbophobia but I do want to remind everyone that him treating Becky Albertalli like that was an explicit act of biphobia. Like there is something very transparent about him insisting that lesbians have it easier than gay men only to turn to a bisexual woman and refuse to accept that she's queer at all. That was biphobia in it's purest form. It doesn't make the rest okay by any means and I'm not trying to minimize it, but as a bisexual woman I think it's important for everyone to recognize that he did not just treat her like that because she's a woman who happens to like women, he did that because she's bisexual and he clearly doesn't think bisexual women are queer at all.

Also don't gloss over the transphobia around ignoring ND Stephenson and Rebecca Sugar's gender identities as well. He's not just a misogynist and a lesbophobe, he's biphobic and transphobic too. Acknowledge all of it.

#I just dont want people to ignore the biphobia bcs so often people act like bi people are only hated #because we're attracted to the same gender and thus there is no biphobia in the queer community #but he didnt hate her for liking women #he treated her differently than he treated the lesbians he talked about #and it's because she's bisexual #same with how he treated ND Stephenson and Rebecca Sugar #he didnt do it just because he hates women/people he perceives to be women #he did it bcs he doesnt think nonbinary people count as queer either #and that's really fucking transphobic #Hbomberguy #james somerton

[heartscrypt]

"this isn't the proper meme format" yeah well i cant control them they're freaks sorry they defy the logic of the original meme okay

#twst #twisted wonderland #azul ashengrotto #jamil viper #jamiazu #azujami #azul x jamil #jamil x azul #ashenviper #jazul #heartscribbles #first time coloring a joke post we did it guys #do we prefer it yes or no #''the thought bubbles should be the other way around'' No. You Don't Get It #yeah it would be the other way around. IF THEY WERE NORMAL PEOPLE #azul heart eyes at the idea of jamil just being Fucking awful to him because he loves when jamil is nefarious and evil #jamils noting this one down as an intrusive thought hes not going to think about it too hard ever again #he's categorizing it with the Use His UM On Annoying People and Strangle Kalim thoughts (thoughts that he doesn't want to act on) #god my favorite trope to do with jamil in jamiazu is like. #when jamil feels like even the Slightest hint of romantic attraction or even just general fondness towards azul for just a moment #and then immediately afterwards hes like What the fuck that was weird SNAP OUT OF IT I HATE THIS GUY #so funny yall im crazy delusional about these two

[uncanny-tranny]

I just have to say that it's so weird reading how transphobes think of trans bodies as mutilated and gross when they never would have thought my body pre-transition was worthy. The "argument" of mutilated beauty that transphobes have tossed around is just a fear mongering tactic, because they don't tend to actually love or appreciate and see value in bodies that don't "neatly" fit into male and female, with no overlap and no nuances.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #i saw so many transphobes agonizing about a trans guy who developed acne from transition... #...they were agonizing about how he ruined his skin and beauty and how *they* didn't find him attractive anymore (how sad /s) #i read that and i realized... pre-transition i had a ton of acne (it's not gotten worse at all so far) #pre-transition i had very broad shoulders (to the point i was made fun of for how i'd act because of my broadness) #pre-transition i inherented most of the traits of the males in my family... #...and if i didn't transition - if i were cis? those same transphobes would think of me just as poorly and they'd hate my body and my soul #because it isn't about 'saving people'. it's about control. it's about manipulating the human experience into two neat boxes #and that excludes people like me. it excludes intersexness and natural variation in human bodies. #transphobia #transphobia tw #like this is shit i knew ever since i first interacted with a transphobe but it to this day blows me away

[sergle]

The unspoken part of that too, being called "soft squishy marshmallow mom shaped uwu" and then going, hm, no thanks. That's weird and uncomfortable. Is that people get SO TAKEN ABACK. And almost immediately switch straight into anger, because the idea of a fat person turning down a "compliment" is absolutely unthinkable.

#people HATE IT when you point out that it's weird. they don't even get embarrassed first they just get mad at you #Like these fatties should absolutely be grateful to receive any compliment at all type vibe #I was willing to tolerate you being fat but now that you've had an opinion I'm no longer on your side #don't listen to me I am insane #sergle.txt #and sometimes it IS attraction. THAT'S EVEN MORE FUCKED UP #When someone is attracted to a fat person but you can tell that THEY FEEL WEIRD ABOUT IT. So they ACT WEIRD about it #they don't treat it like they would treat attraction to a thin person #Would it actually kill you to just fuckin call this person hot!! you don't have to dance around it!

[bugflies00]

Do you think in 2024 people will realise that a) tommys not a 15 year old kid anymore he's 20 b) people thinking hes handsome isn't weird c) the way people made fun of him online in 2020/2021 for being cringe or whatever was fucked up and they felt way too comfortable calling a literal teenager ugly

#Sorry i am very petty . #i know given that as a white (and until yesterday also straight) guy hes more privileged than others in terms of how he gets treated #but it does make me mad the way people felt so comfortable ragging on an actual teenager back in the day #And also the way people act like its some weird thing to find him attractive compared to other ccs like Guys hes not a child grow up #alex.rambles.txt #cc!tommy #mcyt #discourse

[sproutedlavender]

How to Manifest what you want (Hint: Stop doing stuff)

I've been on a manifesting journey for years now, and sometimes it's frustrating, especially when you want something SO bad and it doesn't show up. You've done all your manifestation methods and affirmations but your manifestation are no where to be seen. You get discouraged (rightly so) but that doesn't mean that law of attraction/law of assumption doesn't work. In fact, let me say this right now if you're feeling discouraged DON'T GIVE UP!!!!

You're not manifesting what you want, but why?????

i'll tell you why.

You're trying too hard. You can't TRY and manifest anything. as a wise Yoda once said, "Do or do not, there is no try". Let's say you want a purple lambo (Because honestly, same), you can't try and manifest the Lamborghini. If you do try, it'll never happen because by trying you are automatically sending the message to the universe that you don't have it. If you had what you wanted, you wouldn't need to try to do anything, would you?

Now, this isn't to say that methods and affirmations don't work because they do, it's just you need to have the right mind set. Use them as a reminder of what you already have. When you say an affirmation or do a manifestation method, focus on the gratitude. If you use methods to try and manifest, you never will because you'll always be stuck in the state of TRYING instead of HAVING.

Got it?

So, take some time off and re-evaluate your desires. If you're doing methods or affirmations or subliminals or whatever, look at your mindset. Are you using these things to try and get something? Or are you using them as a reminder to be grateful for you desires that you know you already have. (Law of assumption anyone?)

Stop trying to do anything. How would you feel if you already had you desires? Happy? Confident? Be in that state. think from that state. act from that state and the physical reality MUST reflect your inner world and desires.

So stop trying and relax. Have fun. YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT ALREADY! How cool is that?

#manifestation #reality #dreams #desires #law of attraction #loa #law of assumption #law of attraction and assumption #neville goddard #manifest your desires #dream life #life #reality shifting #act as if #sproutedlavender

[j-ustkeepgliding]

panthers @ leafs - 1st april '24

#me at work acting like this wasn't the most attractive thing i've ever seen: 🙂👍 #matthew knies #toronto maple leafs #nhl #my gifs

[urloveangel]

Michael Scott ✨ the loa girlie ✨

#Michael Scott #the office #loa #manifesting #scripting #manifest #the secret #law of attraction #manifestation #posted #Netflix #comedy #living in the end #act as if

[separatist-apologist]

Eris wanted Nesta because she was the most powerful person in that room, full stop, end of sentence. She was hot, too, and he's not blind, but Nesta could have been in a garbage bag and her sisters in the most beautiful dresses the world had ever seen and he still would have wanted only her.

#what about that isnt clicking??? #eris is attracted to STRENGTH #and does not consider kindness to be its own sort of strength #pro nesta archeron #eris vanserra #tired of people acting like nesta had to be propped up in order to be seen desirable #nesta is fucking HOT first of all so jot that down

[jimmysea]

You've never stopped being a fool, have you? Do you really think that I'd love someone like you? I just used you. I'm the same person you told me I am. I trick people, I'm evil, I'm selfish. And you're just a fool! I don't believe you. What are you planning to do, Chan? Can you stop being stupid? How many times do I have to tell you? What I'm planning to you is dumping you. And I will use this plushie to extort money out of Thattep.

LAWS OF ATTRACTION (2023) Episode 7

#laws of attraction #tinnchan #laws of attraction the series #jamfilm #jam rachata #film thanapat #tinn x chan #they invented romance #i will never move on from this scene #the acting #oh god i need to rewatch the ep #marigif

[an-architect-of-words]

We need to talk about Tartt’s character descriptions

More Donna Tartt praise.

She writes human physical descriptions in the most genuine and true-to-life ways. I didn’t even realize how many books do not go into the actual nuance of human appearances until I read TSH and Goldfinch.

I think most books kind of categorize people as pretty, ugly, or plain then lean into what generally makes people pretty, ugly, or plain plus hair and eye colors. I love how Tartt’s books make characters appear how the majority of people really do: an assortment of specific details. There’s Boris’s bitten nails and how Henry is big and square but does not carry himself as if he is. Bunny is a once-muscled guy (now more chubby) whose naturally good looks are starting to get a little sloppy. His nose is also a bit small/sharp for his face shape. Camilla is pretty, and we hear about her thick ankles and the way her curls rest at her temples. Francis is nice-looking because he carries and styles himself well, but we hear that those things compensate for his kind of beaky nose and boney angles.

Pippa is another great example! Theo describes her looks as tender and precious. She comes across as very cute in a homely way. But we hear that her eyes look “naked” because her lashes are so pale (I can imagine this so well!) and that her nose is long. Her cheeks are thin. Theo notes these things, and thinks she’s pretty anyway; he assumes he must have some personal affinity for her and is given a wake-up call when Everett also finds these traits cute.

OH actually let me squeeze in Mr. Barbour here. Because lol???

His eyes were a queer unstable gray and his hair was pure white, which made him seem older than he was until you noticed that his face was young and pink — boyish, even. His ruddy cheeks and his long, old-fashioned nose, in combination with the prematurely white hair, gave him the amiable look of a lesser founding father, some minor member of the Continental Congress teleported to the twenty-first century.

This is so specific and so easy to see. It stuck out to me when I read it, and my mom mentioned it to me when she read it. She said she was really hit by Andy’s dad’s description and thought it was funny but did a really good job delivering an image.

It’s just so real and gets at how normal people actually are: not always pretty in a “safe” way. Tartt has the guts to give you a description of an actual unique, textured person and say “This is nice.” Or, in Bunny’s case, give someone who is basically handsome but not necessarily pleasant-looking. Theres so much nuance, and it’s honest.

It kind of made me rethink how I write human descriptions. There are “safe” things to point out that become a little insubstantial if you combine too many of them: “The pretty girl has glossy hair and curves and bright blue eyes.” And then there’s going into actual shapes and the way people carry themselves and how some features look against others. It honestly just makes the characters really pop and they’re easy to envision.

#Kitsey and Charles are the only ones who seem kind of straight-forwardly attractive #Donna Tartt is SO observant about people #she nails how people actually act and feel #and how they actually look #I can imagine that she could actually see her characters in her head while writing them #it’s all so charming #the secret history #donna tartt #tsh #bunny corcoran #henry winter #francis abernathy #the goldfinch #boris pavlikovsky #pippa blackwell